Wish I had better news.
HBB and me are calling it quits, or more, he called it quits. If it was me only I would say there is a good chance I will change my mind and get over it, but he was the one doing the breaking up.
We have been fighting a lot, all over this whole dad issue. His father wants us to break up, has told Rob to see other girls, has told Rob I have 'baggage' and other insults and I really am upset over it. So we fight, I tell Rob to move to his moms, get away from it all, he says he will talk to his mom about it. He does, then he says "well, I will confront my dad first" and he does...yet 3 weeks of this cycle nothing has changed. I was getting fed up, and essentially told him if he was going to let his dad control him, own him, that it was more than any girl should have to put up with. He then pretty much said, "Then don't be my girlfriend". I asked him if he was serious and he said yes, he was tired of all the fighting. As he put it, he fights with his dad all day, calls me and fights with me all evening. IMHO I think it is a bit ridiculous that instead of his reaction to this being to 'break up' with his dad since he was the one being an ass, he breaks up with me instead. I was the one always there, always supporting and loving him, making him smile, but yet his dad won. That is a messed up reaction, but it was his.
I feel a bit numb, part of me wants HBB to come around...but even if he does unless something changes we are signing up for more of the same. I cannot tolerate a grown man letting his daddy tell him what to do all day, I am 25 and live on my own as a grown woman and I do not need that. Not to mention it makes me lose so much respect for HBB, in fact I am almost starting to see HBB as a kid. He needs to take control of his life, and I guess in a way breaking up with me is...I just am saddened to see that he thinks I am the one causing issues.
Jesus, I need strength to not call him tomorrow and beg him back. He doesn't deserve me to lower myself that way
HBB and me are calling it quits, or more, he called it quits. If it was me only I would say there is a good chance I will change my mind and get over it, but he was the one doing the breaking up.
We have been fighting a lot, all over this whole dad issue. His father wants us to break up, has told Rob to see other girls, has told Rob I have 'baggage' and other insults and I really am upset over it. So we fight, I tell Rob to move to his moms, get away from it all, he says he will talk to his mom about it. He does, then he says "well, I will confront my dad first" and he does...yet 3 weeks of this cycle nothing has changed. I was getting fed up, and essentially told him if he was going to let his dad control him, own him, that it was more than any girl should have to put up with. He then pretty much said, "Then don't be my girlfriend". I asked him if he was serious and he said yes, he was tired of all the fighting. As he put it, he fights with his dad all day, calls me and fights with me all evening. IMHO I think it is a bit ridiculous that instead of his reaction to this being to 'break up' with his dad since he was the one being an ass, he breaks up with me instead. I was the one always there, always supporting and loving him, making him smile, but yet his dad won. That is a messed up reaction, but it was his.
I feel a bit numb, part of me wants HBB to come around...but even if he does unless something changes we are signing up for more of the same. I cannot tolerate a grown man letting his daddy tell him what to do all day, I am 25 and live on my own as a grown woman and I do not need that. Not to mention it makes me lose so much respect for HBB, in fact I am almost starting to see HBB as a kid. He needs to take control of his life, and I guess in a way breaking up with me is...I just am saddened to see that he thinks I am the one causing issues.
Jesus, I need strength to not call him tomorrow and beg him back. He doesn't deserve me to lower myself that way
Time will help and at least you got yourself out of a bad situation.
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