Hey, y'all. New to the site, but I've been lurking for a while. I just need a little extra support here.
My SO and I met online, via a MMO of all things. We hit it off, and just started talking all the time. He came out to visit last May, and as soon as we were together, we knew. Terribly romantic, right? Well, the downside to that is that with him planning to move here (I have a steady job which I like, and expenses are dirt cheap where I'm at), he started preparing to move. He's... a bit of a collector, and has quite the insane collection built up over the last couple decades. He did end up quitting his job, and is selling via eBay his collection (except for a few choice pieces he wants), and is making a fair profit off of it, which is awesome.
The problem? He won't commit to a close date. Now, I understand deadlines get missed. I would be disappointed if that were the case, but look forward to the next one. He's got a hard deadline of September, but it's been months since we started planning this and he's... not here, lol. He's still got the "large" storage to go through. He's made about five grand--money is NOT the issue here, at all. It's time, time spent apart, and a time not stated.
It's driving me absolutely crazy that he refuses to give me even a ballpark date, you know, plus or minus a month. I told him that I was taking September as the date then, and he laughed. I wasn't joking. I think he's just lucky I realize ultimatums are horrible and never get you anywhere, otherwise it would be 'Pack up the rest, move it, be here by April 30, or don't bother'.
Is there anyone else in my situation? Again, there's absolutely NO doubt he's moving. None. Zero. Zip. He is. It's just a matter of when, and he won't say!
Rassin' frassin'... stupid men. :P
My SO and I met online, via a MMO of all things. We hit it off, and just started talking all the time. He came out to visit last May, and as soon as we were together, we knew. Terribly romantic, right? Well, the downside to that is that with him planning to move here (I have a steady job which I like, and expenses are dirt cheap where I'm at), he started preparing to move. He's... a bit of a collector, and has quite the insane collection built up over the last couple decades. He did end up quitting his job, and is selling via eBay his collection (except for a few choice pieces he wants), and is making a fair profit off of it, which is awesome.
The problem? He won't commit to a close date. Now, I understand deadlines get missed. I would be disappointed if that were the case, but look forward to the next one. He's got a hard deadline of September, but it's been months since we started planning this and he's... not here, lol. He's still got the "large" storage to go through. He's made about five grand--money is NOT the issue here, at all. It's time, time spent apart, and a time not stated.
It's driving me absolutely crazy that he refuses to give me even a ballpark date, you know, plus or minus a month. I told him that I was taking September as the date then, and he laughed. I wasn't joking. I think he's just lucky I realize ultimatums are horrible and never get you anywhere, otherwise it would be 'Pack up the rest, move it, be here by April 30, or don't bother'.
Is there anyone else in my situation? Again, there's absolutely NO doubt he's moving. None. Zero. Zip. He is. It's just a matter of when, and he won't say!
Rassin' frassin'... stupid men. :P
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