So I've been LDR with my girlfriend since August/Sept. There was a period where we didn't know how our relationship was. I moved for a job and we were unclear, until we reunited. We decided to have a plan: for her to move with me in Texas by May shortly after she graduates.
This is being threatened. Her father hasn't had the the opportunity to meet me. Funny enough, I've met my gf's stepfather, mother, the rest of the family, but I haven't met him yet. I've been back to Georgia a few times to see my girlfriend, roughly three times during this, for extended periods of time but things haven't seemed to work out.
The constraint right now is that my gf has to take a few courses before she graduates, whether online or through summer classes. Her father is saying that he doesn't want her to take the online courses because of 1) the additional fee and 2) ultimately he is not sure about us. He told her that it is highly likely that her and I won't work out and he doesn't want her to be a burden on me where she is out there alone and has to depend on me. Understandable.
This is frustrating me to no end because it hasn't been like I haven't attempted to meet him. I know he's busy, but if someone was seeing my daughter for several months, coming up to a year, then I would want to invest more time to know who he is. She's met my family, she's been over my parents places on several occasions with me, so I don't know why this is coming up all of a sudden!
Really I know the love a father has for his daughter and that's what it is coming down to. Plus for her to come out her it is a huge investment. The thing is that if she takes summer classes it will delay the LDR by over two more months, which will hurt both of us. I remember not seeing her for five weeks in the middle of Feb and she talked about how she felt like her life is going on without me. After FIVE WEEKS. I could imagine a harder distance if the end of the LDR is longer. I know I still love her, but I fear that the distance will grow us apart which I don't want! I've started a new career and spent my time, whether it is taking a lot of time off to see her, or my money, including bonuses, to come and see her to not only maintain our relationship, but to grow it into something great. I can not risk losing that, but I feel that I am losing more control of the situation because of this happening. She just wants to hear from me that everything is okay, but I cannot fully assure that.
The only thing I can assure is to NOT delay it is by having a solid plan. I've told her she needs to look at graduate school more seriously. If money is an issue I told her she doesn't have to pay me anything for 3-4 months, just start a job and prepare for graduate school. She's coming out to see me in April and I was supposed to get her in May, but I'm not sure how things will be now.
Does anyone have any sort of advice they can give me? I'd really appreciate your help LFAD!
This is being threatened. Her father hasn't had the the opportunity to meet me. Funny enough, I've met my gf's stepfather, mother, the rest of the family, but I haven't met him yet. I've been back to Georgia a few times to see my girlfriend, roughly three times during this, for extended periods of time but things haven't seemed to work out.
The constraint right now is that my gf has to take a few courses before she graduates, whether online or through summer classes. Her father is saying that he doesn't want her to take the online courses because of 1) the additional fee and 2) ultimately he is not sure about us. He told her that it is highly likely that her and I won't work out and he doesn't want her to be a burden on me where she is out there alone and has to depend on me. Understandable.
This is frustrating me to no end because it hasn't been like I haven't attempted to meet him. I know he's busy, but if someone was seeing my daughter for several months, coming up to a year, then I would want to invest more time to know who he is. She's met my family, she's been over my parents places on several occasions with me, so I don't know why this is coming up all of a sudden!
Really I know the love a father has for his daughter and that's what it is coming down to. Plus for her to come out her it is a huge investment. The thing is that if she takes summer classes it will delay the LDR by over two more months, which will hurt both of us. I remember not seeing her for five weeks in the middle of Feb and she talked about how she felt like her life is going on without me. After FIVE WEEKS. I could imagine a harder distance if the end of the LDR is longer. I know I still love her, but I fear that the distance will grow us apart which I don't want! I've started a new career and spent my time, whether it is taking a lot of time off to see her, or my money, including bonuses, to come and see her to not only maintain our relationship, but to grow it into something great. I can not risk losing that, but I feel that I am losing more control of the situation because of this happening. She just wants to hear from me that everything is okay, but I cannot fully assure that.
The only thing I can assure is to NOT delay it is by having a solid plan. I've told her she needs to look at graduate school more seriously. If money is an issue I told her she doesn't have to pay me anything for 3-4 months, just start a job and prepare for graduate school. She's coming out to see me in April and I was supposed to get her in May, but I'm not sure how things will be now.
Does anyone have any sort of advice they can give me? I'd really appreciate your help LFAD!
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