how was your first meeting?

[browneyedgirl08]

I hope everyone can give some feed back. I have been talking to an old friend from my past, we knew each other when we were teenagers to early twenties. We always liked each other but there were different reasons as to why we never got together, mostly we were in other relationships. We never kissed, had sex or anything like that.

I got in contact with him early January. He moved from my city and lives in the country about 800 miles away. We've been talking. He calls at least once a week. And in that department I have to be patient. He doesn't use the computer much so we can't skype or do video chat.

We've been wanting to meet this summer and today he tells me he is definitely coming in June to see me.

For those who haven't seen each other in a while or had online meetings, was it awkward, did you guys fall in love instantly? Did you think it was going to work, did you have high expectations and then get disappointed.

We are getting to know each other again. I say this because there have been disappointments with me meeting guys online. In this case I knew him a long time ago, we're both older, wiser.

I honestly have to say when I contacted him it was just to say hi, I didn't expect my feelings to come back for him.

[temporaryuser]

your story mirrors mine, except that it was him that contacted me first, and it was last january (a year ago). he too is not very computer literate, but he does text on his phone (which we do frequently) We saw each other the first time in June, and it was amazing!
We have both been married and divorced, both have an 8 yo child.
The older and wiser definitely comes in to play. We both know what we want, arent into playing games and have a very strong desire to make this work regardless of the distance.

[Zapookie]

We met online a while ago and we were friends for about a year before we decided we wanted to meet each other in Jan 2011. We met in person July 2011 and he stayed with me for 3 months. It was a little strange at first - just getting used to seeing him with my own eyes, being able to touch him etc. But after about 3 hours or so it was like we had known each other forever. It did take me a little while to warm up to him because I had never had a boyfriend before and I was very shy around people that I had feelings for. That all kind of disappeared over the next few days and everything was perfect. I fell for him quickly after that but I didn't tell him I loved him until two weeks before he was going to leave.

I think when you already have that foundation of friendship with someone before meeting them in person, or after not having seen them in a very long time, it usually works out in your favour. The friendship usually carries on into person and if you know you already have a connection, then who is to say it won't be there just because they're now in front of you?

[browneyedgirl08]

wow that is wonderful.....things are working out for both of you.

yes I forgot to mention that he is single and has two teenage daughters ready to graduate from high school. I am of course single. He has texted me a few times, but I love talking on the phone with him. He keeps hinting me that he wants to find someone who works in a mental health community (me), lol....

[CanadianGirl]

We met online and decided to meet in person a couple months after that. Looking back on it, some of it was pretty awkward.. I was waiting in this room for him and suddenly get a text, a couple hours after his flight landed. He said he was here. "Where?", I ask. "On the other side of the door!". I just stood there, frozen for a second, wondering how we got to that point. I opened the door a crack, he pushed and I got swept to the side and into a corner behind the door ... Awesome first impression .-.

After getting a little more used to each other's physical company, most of the awkwardness went away. Still pretty shy around one another for the rest of the time, but it was definitely the most exciting week of my life. We both knew right away that we had to see each other again. I don't think love came instantaneously, but it grew quickly after that first meeting. Kept my expectations from getting too high, but after our second visit, I knew we had to see this through. It's been 2 years since, and I'd say it's going well!

If there's any advice I could give, I'd say don't put too much pressure on it and just enjoy yourself. You'll know soon enough if it's something you want to fight for. Good luck!

[browneyedgirl08]

Thank you, yes I know I am trying not to put too much pressure on this, i can't help it thought. I will keep it in mind.

I love these stories, post more.....

[blankita719]

My SO and I were in a relationship in 1997 then after we split remained friends. We did not see each other for 13 years, however before he came to visit me in June, 2010 we were talking & texting daily. So when he came here, it honestly felt like it had not even been 13 very long years. I had no expectations because we weren't looking to get involved again but it happened. We were just comfortable with one another from the moment we very first met.

It might be awkward but just be you. That's who he wants to spend the time with

[Sora1101]

My SO and I met online and about a year into the relationship we decided to meet, honestly it was kinda awkward at first only because I couldn't recognize him, even his voice sounded different! But after a few minutes nerves settled and it was like we had never been apart, we were so comfortable with each other it was amazing, even though we'd never met before it was like I'd known him my entire life.

[KaylaCelestial]

Reading these gave me a little bit of hope. I meet my man tomorrow for the first time & I have cold feet. I don't want it to be awkward or anything like that cause we have a lot of fun on Skype and stuff. I just hope everything will be the same but better.

[lademoiselle]

I found my SO online and we met each other offline about four months later. Our first meeting went well; it was a bit awkward to begin with since I was so shy I could hardly say anything but other than that I really enjoyed his company. The connection we'd formed during the previous months was very much there. We saw each other again a few days later (he was staying out of London with a friend in the meantime) and already conversation flowed much more smoothly - we managed to cuddle and kiss a bit too, haha

[browneyedgirl08]

eThis is awesome, keep posting more, yes I had a friend from jr. high that I contacted also a few years ago. (i'm editing this post), he was actually the love of my life, I found him on class mates, we were best friends and he liked me but I didn't at that time.

When I contacted him, I went in for closure, but we continued our friendship and expressed our feelings. When we were kids, I went to the movies with my jr. high love and the same night my current guy came to see me at my house. He is currently married and is not in a position to leave. I've already accepted it and we remain good friends and we have a special friendship.

Overall, when we met twenty years later it was awkward. that is why i'm anxious with my current friend how things will be when we meet. I guess its normal.....

I couldn't even look at him for the first twenty minutes, but I get what everyone is saying.

Should I tell him its going to be awkward at first?

[Zephii]

My SO and I met online and honestly, that first meeting is more important and cherished in my memory than our wedding. It was great. Of course we were nervous, but it was simple, intimate, perfect.

[sarahjane1992]

I met my Bf online. We connected in March of this year. We've been together for over 2 months now. When we started talking, we had a very strong connection. We knew we wanted to meet each other very soon. At our first visit, I walked off the air plane. He called me when I landed. He said he could see me but I couldn't see him. I found my way to the baggage claim (that's where he was.) I kept looking. And then I saw him. When I got to him, I dropped my bags and grabbed him. LOL It was amazing. He had a huge grin on his face! It was so cute! <3 It felt very natural to me. Like we'd known each other a long time. I'm flying to see him again in almost 24 days! I am over the moon! <3
Just relax and enjoy that first meeting. It's a moment we'll never forget.

[Chris516]

I hope everyone can give some feed back. I have been talking to an old friend from my past, we knew each other when we were teenagers to early twenties. We always liked each other but there were different reasons as to why we never got together, mostly we were in other relationships. We never kissed, had sex or anything like that.

I got in contact with him early January. He moved from my city and lives in the country about 800 miles away. We've been talking. He calls at least once a week. And in that department I have to be patient. He doesn't use the computer much so we can't skype or do video chat.

We've been wanting to meet this summer and today he tells me he is definitely coming in June to see me.

For those who haven't seen each other in a while or had online meetings, was it awkward, did you guys fall in love instantly? Did you think it was going to work, did you have high expectations and then get disappointed.

We are getting to know each other again. I say this because there have been disappointments with me meeting guys online. In this case I knew him a long time ago, we're both older, wiser.

I honestly have to say when I contacted him it was just to say hi, I didn't expect my feelings to come back for him.

The first meeting with my SO was awkward. But that was only because, I get that way sometimes around women I am bonkers and head over heels about.

[kikidee]

I met my SO for the first time a little over three weeks ago. We both had confessed we liked each other but I wasn't sure I was ready for a LDR. We decided we would make up our minds when we met, so when we first met we were more of best friends than bf gf. It was more exciting than awkward. It was a little nerve racking but I wish I could do the first day over again because of how exciting and fun it was. It only took half of that day for us to completely feel comfortable and suddenly it was as if we had known each other in real life forever. If you guys are good as friends and have a lot in common, just have fun and it will be fine! Your feelings will grow too