When I stumbled on to LFAD, I was hesitant to join because I really can't say that I am in a full on relationship. Naturally, my inclination is to be cautious when it comes to love interests, significant others, etc. And in this situation, even more so. Confused? Let me explain (briefly, I promise 
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Basically, I somehow landed up on his profile while aimlessly browsing a site. One thing led to another, and soon we were messaging then emailing. I am pretty 'traditional' when it comes to meeting people and guys, so the idea of meeting someone online isn't an option I'd think of. (I mean no offense to those who've met their partner online, this is just my view point.) Since last month we've been communicating through instant messaging on our phones, by his initiative. I did not think that a person could "connect" with another halfway across the globe, this really was unintentional and straight out of the blue.
From the start it was platonic and now we've drawn the line at friends, obviously we both know that the interest is mutual. He is a very realistic, logical thinker so he does not encourage or toy with 'dreams', maybes, ifs, etc when it comes to what we expect. I am glad that he views it like that, I would've been scared off if he'd had no inhibitions about it.
When it comes to our personalities.. I am more of an extrovert, outgoing, open and expressive. He is more reserved, introvert, a thinker and extremely practical. When it comes to what he shares, he is a very private person. In an email he has admitted to me that he grew up not being 'taught' how to show his emotions, so it doesnt always come naturally to him. So obviously I do worry sometimes what he's thinking because he doesnt spell it out, literally haha :]
Although he is very loyal and caring, his attitude when it comes to accepting people in his life is that "People make you weak." For some reason, he feels he needs to protect himself. He doesnt like the idea of 'needing' people in his life. Kind of reminds me of someone making this hard outer shell around themselves, and on the inside he's this soft marshmellow.. which very few except the ones close to him see
We both have very strong personalities, like he is more than happy to voice his opinion on something and I am the same.
If I have to honestly say my thoughts on the whole thing is lately I've been getting frustrated because obviously I'm not use to someone like him, when we communicate sometimes I dont know how to respond because he jokes and teases a lot instead (Can't always read between the lines) of just saying something straight out and he's private about certain things. If he doesnt want to talk about something, I will never ever force him or beg.. my attitude is that he must become comfortable with me in his own time.
So with all of this, my questions are - How do you deal with online relationships? Certain things I should bear in mind with LD online? (Preferably people answering that who've had online friendships or more please!) Advice on LD communicating with a character/personality like this?
Any thoughts, perspectives and view points that you might have I would really appreciate.
).Basically, I somehow landed up on his profile while aimlessly browsing a site. One thing led to another, and soon we were messaging then emailing. I am pretty 'traditional' when it comes to meeting people and guys, so the idea of meeting someone online isn't an option I'd think of. (I mean no offense to those who've met their partner online, this is just my view point.) Since last month we've been communicating through instant messaging on our phones, by his initiative. I did not think that a person could "connect" with another halfway across the globe, this really was unintentional and straight out of the blue.
From the start it was platonic and now we've drawn the line at friends, obviously we both know that the interest is mutual. He is a very realistic, logical thinker so he does not encourage or toy with 'dreams', maybes, ifs, etc when it comes to what we expect. I am glad that he views it like that, I would've been scared off if he'd had no inhibitions about it.
When it comes to our personalities.. I am more of an extrovert, outgoing, open and expressive. He is more reserved, introvert, a thinker and extremely practical. When it comes to what he shares, he is a very private person. In an email he has admitted to me that he grew up not being 'taught' how to show his emotions, so it doesnt always come naturally to him. So obviously I do worry sometimes what he's thinking because he doesnt spell it out, literally haha :]
Although he is very loyal and caring, his attitude when it comes to accepting people in his life is that "People make you weak." For some reason, he feels he needs to protect himself. He doesnt like the idea of 'needing' people in his life. Kind of reminds me of someone making this hard outer shell around themselves, and on the inside he's this soft marshmellow.. which very few except the ones close to him see
We both have very strong personalities, like he is more than happy to voice his opinion on something and I am the same.
If I have to honestly say my thoughts on the whole thing is lately I've been getting frustrated because obviously I'm not use to someone like him, when we communicate sometimes I dont know how to respond because he jokes and teases a lot instead (Can't always read between the lines) of just saying something straight out and he's private about certain things. If he doesnt want to talk about something, I will never ever force him or beg.. my attitude is that he must become comfortable with me in his own time.
So with all of this, my questions are - How do you deal with online relationships? Certain things I should bear in mind with LD online? (Preferably people answering that who've had online friendships or more please!) Advice on LD communicating with a character/personality like this?
Any thoughts, perspectives and view points that you might have I would really appreciate.
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