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    Ok, I just need to vent a bit.

    I just started a job yesterday that's going to have me employed for the next month until I head down to be with my SO. I know how lucky we are in that I only have to work for another month before we can close the distance for good. But shit, this is really not what I expected it to be.

    I'm a full time student, and now that classes are over I'm just working for a bit to get some extra income. I accepted a job from the place I'd worked at part-time throughout the year to work full-time in a position until they find someone permanent. Perfect, I thought, a temp job where no one will expect much of me and I can just get paid to wait out the next month. Wrong.

    I was thrown into this really high-maintenance position without a clue of what I was getting myself into. In the meeting where I accepted the position, my new boss just basically said I'd be scheduling meetings and writing up thank you cards for our sponsors. Well, that was about 5% of what I'll actually be doing. I'm getting a company Blackberry so I can be reached at all hours of the day, and run off my feet during the day doing things I have no clue how to do with limited time frames in which to do them. And it's already an enormous pain in the ass, not just in the sense of being asked to do things well beyond my abilities and expectations, but it's making it really hard for LoveL and I to have any decent time together during the day.

    Yes, we've been spoiled in that, since we met, we've always had good chunks of time throughout the day to talk, and most nights from the time we get home until the time we go to bed. I get home pretty late now since LoveL and I have a couple hours' difference so that's already cutting into our time, but this job is already so demanding that there are going to be days where we'll hardly have time to talk during the day too. I know I sound like a huge whiner since we are so lucky in already having the time we do, but it's a big change from what we've had since we met, and it's making me feel pretty upset right now, just having to deal with the stress of wanting to give him all of my time and not being able to, on top of the stress from this job already. I'm only on day 2 and I already miss him like crazy. When I really settle down and think about the fact that it's only a month, it's extra income, and we will still have little bursts of communication, it's not bad. But when I think of having to do this for the next month and having it be as temporarily shitty as it is, it feels bad.

    How do you get through craptastic work days and missing your SO?

    #2
    It's only a month, you can make it through. Yes, it will suck, but it will be worth it in the long run. Stay strong!

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      #3
      I worked three jobs before closing the distance, I hardly had time for anything working 18 hour days but the end is in sight and that little extra will be worth it once you are with him. It sucks but its only 20 days of work, thats nothing!

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        #4
        Did you consider speaking to the boss and telling him that you were not prepared for the workload? And that you arent familiar with some of the things thye ae asking you to do? Granted it is a temp position, but dont you want to do the best you can? maybe they assumed you were more qualified, and if you dont speak up, they will keep adding more to your workload.
        Now, its only a month. both of you can adjust to the new communication schedule. Yes, you are lucky to have had the time that you have. So many of us dont and yes, it sucks. But if you are working, you are busy, and you are making money. Make due with what you have. Aprreciate the time you do get to talk to each other. You will have more to say when you do have the time to talk, but dont turn it into a bitch fest about the job.
        everything happens for a reason. We may never find out what that reason is/was, but there is a reason.

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          #5
          I currently work 2 jobs, 7 days a week, which obviously leaves little time for talking with my SO. I'm of the mindset that a person can get through anything if they know it's: a. temporary b. directly related to a goal. You have the power to convince your mind of anything, so I would just say frame the job differently and you will see how quick that month passes.

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            #6
            Luckily it is only for a month!

            Just keep your eye on the prize, and I think you will make it through ok.

            Also, $$$

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              #7
              I'm in grad school working a full clinical internship so most of my days are 13 hours long. There are some benefits to this because sometimes we do run out of stuff to say, so now when we have time to talk we can make it more meaningful. Pretty soon it might start to feel like the new routine for you and your SO and luckily by that point you will probably be closing the distance.

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                #8
                I worked a job for about 4 and a half months where i would work 7 days in a row then go on days off and the shifts were rotating each time so one work week i would be days, the next swing, then graveyard. It was hard on our relationship because he works straight days monday though friday and also has a 5 year old daughter so it was hard fitting in the time to get to talk to eachother but we made it though it. Just look to the future and always remember that your only doing it for a month and then you two will be together and the end outcome is what makes it all worth it.

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                  #9
                  Stay strong. It's only a month and it'll be good money
                  I know exactly how you feel. We have a time difference of 8 hours and we both have busy jobs so it's difficult sometimes to find time to talk, which can be incredibly frustrating. But it isn't forever so hold on

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                    #10
                    Dylan and I are also lucky to have a lot of time to talk but we have spent more time apart lately so we can get to a regular schedule of visits (my brother's wedding threw us off) and I have been trying to spend time with my family without texting or calling him (so they aren't jealous of my visits to him) so it's been a bit of a hassle. I know what helps me get through when I can't talk to him is either writing down something funny or interesting that happened to me that day so I can tell him later (I work in an office, I can always find paper) or thinking about some of our inside jokes when someone says something that reminds me of him. Thinking the inside jokes really helps because it instantly brings a smile to my face.

                    Other than that, definitely, eyes on the prize. It's only a little bit longer and you'll be better because of it. (All these new things you're being forced to do could be good for your resume )

                    Good luck, hang in there!
                    My motor runs a lover's heartbeat
                    It's just me and you
                    Put the pedal to the metal
                    Baby, turn the radio on
                    We can run to the far side of nowhere
                    We can run 'til the days are gone

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                      #11
                      Thanks everyone. A few days' perspective and not reacting like a nutbag really helps, along with everything you all have said.

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                        #12
                        Just keep breathing, I say. I easily work 60 hours a week and I'm not sure I like what I'm doing any more. Glad to hear you're keeping your head on straight, though. If things get really overwhelming, take a deep breath and get some water, or take a quick walk around your office/workplace. (Even if it's to the bathroom & back so it looks like you're not slacking off.)

                        I know you can make it through the next month, and then you'll get to close the distance, yay!!


                        2016 Goal: Buy a house.
                        Progress: Complete!

                        2017 Goal: Pay off credit card debt
                        Progress: Working on it.

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                          #13
                          Like everyone has said, just keep your eye on the prize! Glad you are feeling better already, though I'm currently getting clinical hours since I'm in grad school and my boyfriend's a teacher, so we aren't always free at the same times. Also I'll have class til late at night, go home and do work, and talk to my SO for maybe 15-20 minutes before we go to bed. It was tough at first, but once it became routine anything longer than 20 minutes was a special treat. Stay strong and you guys will get through it!


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