Um...wow...ok...

[Zephii]

There seems to be a bit of debate going down in this thread so I didn't read the whole way through.

I just wanted to say that while playing games seems to come naturally to us womenfolk it's dumb, it gets you nowhere, it undermines your relationship and at the end of the day the only person you prove something to and the only one you hurt is yourself. Try to grow out of it.

Secondly, he's not blind. He's going to look at things that he thinks are hot. That's how it is. Sometimes he's going to verbalise or textualise the not-altogether-appropreate shit that pops into his mind at the time too, and he's perfectly in his right to do that. He wasn't saying "I want to bang her" he was saying that he appreciates that she looks hot. She is not a threat to you.

So anyway, you're putting all this effort in to stalk him online, and not talk to him... just out of the blue. He likely thinks you're busy and is trying to not distract you or something harmless. Sure, talk to him. Tell him he didn't contact you for two weeks straight and ask him what the go with that is. But then you kinda need to accept that the burden of communication is falling to you in this relationship (even if that means accepting that you might care more than he does) or you can move on. Playing games just gives the rest of us chicks a bad rep you know.

[prinzeza87]

holly ! 2 wks its a looot. the longest we havent contact each other its like for a day up to 3 days n that because he's doing some field ops training n has hard time to get signal etc, but he always finds the way to contact me, even when im like having a bad day n i kinda need some space he still texts me to let me know he's there n ready to talk when im ready.
my SO believes that we as a couple n so the rest of humanity needs communication in order to grow in many ways, i believe the same just saying

[floridaellen]

I would agree that you seem to be playing games. Please try to stop this. Playing games never helps a relationship and I've seen many fall apart because of games (Blair and Chuck from Gossip Girl season 2 anyone?!).

However, I would be mad that he hasn't talked to you for 2 weeks. That's not good. Perhaps he believes that you are angry with him since you haven't been talking to him. I would contact him and just ask him what's up. Communication is key.

As for the Tumblr girl picture, I wouldn't worry about it. If my SO did that, it would just phase me as him being horny and not as disrespectful. But I tend to be more lax about those types of things. I have no problem with him looking at porn or hot pictures of girls. He can have his fantasies and I can have mine.

[Captivated]

Actually - I would be pretty upset to be the one constantly making first contact. What immediately comes to mind is that he's just not as interested or invested in this relationship as you are. And the fact that's it's been 2 weeks...not a couple of days, should you to believe something's up. However, he might also just be used to you starting contact - he's used to it. Regardless if what you did was "playing games" as everyone keeps pointing out, you did this experiment to get an answer, yes? Now that you know he's keeping his distance, you should tell him how you feel. And be specific. Guys need simplicity and bluntness to get the point.

[corrda00]

If he didn't contact you there was probably a reason.

When my SO left town she went from working one day a week to working 6 days a week, and forgot to tell me. I thought she was ignoring my texts. Turns out she was at work.
My number one advice is to talk to him about it. If you feel you're always making first contact let him know how you feel. If you're unhappy about his Tumlr post, tell him about it. Keeping all these problems to yourself isn't going to fix anything.

[Softy]

I know I wouldn't be able not to contact my man for that long.
I would understand if he had to do something important or go somewhere where he couldn't contact me for a bit, but it would be difficult.

There seems to be 2 issues here hun?
Lack of communication from him and well maybe his liking for SG?

But yes, talk to him
Maybe he's busy doing something something or thinks that you just want some time for yourself? You won't know if you won't ask hehe!
Let us know how's it going after that ok?

[bethanymkeegan]

Sounds like you two need to have a talk. And a serious one at that. Not contacting you at all for 2 weeks? I had that problem when my SO and I first started dating. He got really upset at me for it. I felt awful calling him because I felt like I was always bothering him or something. This was not the case. The Tumblr thing should also be addressed..at least to me, that's just offensive.

I agree with this.

I also would contact my SO first, and it pissed me off that I wouldn't hear from him until 3 or 4 pm my time (which is 7/8pm his time). Now, if I wake up before him, I text. If his schedule makes him wake up before me, he texts. On his days off I know that he isn't getting up until noon and I'm not going to text him and wake up him - I'll use that time for laundry and wait for him.

I definitely think you need to talk about the communication issue.

My BF sends me porn and we look at it together and analyze it. It's funny. Now if he didn't talk to me for a week and I saw him post some picture of a girl I'd be a little antsy, too.