On a break...

[Jessipoo]

Me and my SO had a break last year, it took around 3/4 month for us both to sort our heads out and decide what we really wanted, we are now stronger than ever.. If its meant to be, it will be I hope everything works out for you both <3

Did you guys talk at all in between that time?


Except that nobody told me that we were on a break :\ and it's not because of all the stress on his end, although that's partially the issue since I LET it get in between us (because we were barely talking and quantity and quality had diminished and he wasn't saying the I love you or the I miss you or the good mornings and good nights like we used to all the time) - it's partially due to me and the negative behavior that was pulled out of me from all this frustration so.. I don't know how this will play out. His last memory of us will be of how unsupportive I've been and not understanding, and my friends keep saying "you're only human". But that doesn't help me feel any better

[Jessipoo]

I hope that'll happen for us too...the time is just going by so slow...it's only the first day of our break, and it's taken forever to go by. I hope the same thing happens for us too. Thanks(: <3

I hope it works out for you too.

I've actually been coping with this break better than when we were together because I don't expect anything at this point. I was so dangerously obsessed with checking my phone or hoping to get a morning email (and would never be happy with it because it was often a one liner) and would wait for him to wake up to text me, it wasn't healthy. But now I'm good. So long as we end up together again..

[sewbama]

I think that breaks can be helpful for relationships, as long as both people know, understand, and respect the "rules" of their break. If seeing other people is a part of it, I don't think that's healthy. But if it's just some time to focus on something other than the relationship, to learn about yourselves as individuals, and figure out what you want in life, I think it could be really good for the both of you.

It is also something you shouldn't abandon when the break is over. Try to spend time every day just on yourself. That is something that is very important for any relationship. And if you guys could see that you weren't doing that before it was so bad as to cause a huge problem, it's probably a good sign.

I think most of the problems with "breaks" is that there is minimal communication about what that means. So then one partner decides that means they can date someone else for a few days. see if the grass is greener. That sort of thing, and then when they want their partner back, the truth comes out, and it hurts. But I think if you guys talk about what you want out of this time and actually do just that, it can be very good for you.

And it sounds like you guys strongly defined what you are doing. So I hope it works out for you.

[floridaellen]

I'm not necessarily sure I believe in breaks. However, my SO and I broke up and then got back together. The time that we were completely broken up allowed us to step back and work on ourselves. We still communicated but we were not in a relationship.

Since getting back together, our relationship has been stronger. We got together pretty young (16 and 17) and just needed time to find ourselves. I don't think every relationship needs that of course but we did.

I'm not sure how I feel about breaks. I've never taken one. But breaking up and then getting back together helped my relationship.