First Visit Success!!

[faith_patience_believe]

For a little background, we met on Omegle a little over a year ago and have been talking/skyping pretty much every day since. He lives 2,000 miles away. This past week, he came to visit for the first time! I was out of my mind nervous at the airport with my parents waiting for his flight. When he finally landed and walked into view, we smiled and went to each other and hugged. It was one of the best moments of my life so far to be completely honest. Sure, it was awkward at first, but we eventually got used to being around each other. He stayed for a week and we went to the zoo, a theme park, the mall, a walking trail, and lots of other things. A lot of the time was just spent on the couch watching movies and...well...kissing of course (which, by the way, was my first kiss and literally only his second). However, we kept it to kissing because we've both made decisions separately to wait for marriage for sex. All I can say is that it was such an amazing week. Just physically getting to cuddle and be with him was so incredibly wonderful. And we got along so well. It became so natural and wonderful. To all of you who haven't had this chance yet, just keep pushing forward. It can really really be worth the wait. At this point, we haven't made a decision whether or not the be officially in a relationship yet. We want to take some time to reflect on the visit and decide what we think is right. We've both never had relationships before so we want to make sure its what we want to do. But at this point, we are planning on having me visit him in about 6 months.
Annndddddd...on the other hand, holy freaking cow is it depressing that he left. I honestly did not expect it to be nearly this bad, but yesterday after he left, i cried a lot and just felt like life was over. I found myself pretty pathetic actually, but my heart just sunk. I had no idea the pain would be this bad. Today I'm slightly better but still extremely depressed. On a scale of 1-10 of sadness, I was about a 20 yesterday and a 15 today. I know a lot of you have experienced this, so if you could please give me some advice on how to cope? Its awful not knowing when I'm going to see him, and even whether or not we're right for each other because we can't spend a really extended amount of time together. And to top it off, we dont have anything to compare it to since we've never had relationships before. Its all just very painful and confusing. But at least I have the sweet sweet memories and pictures of last week to get me through.

Thanks for any advice you may have

UPDATE: we made it official tonight its scary cause we don't really know what's gonna happen, and we want to make sure we're still aware of other people around us since we've only been together in person for a week and we don't want to miss out on someone else that could potentially be better. My mom is a little skeptical cause i think she wants me to find someone around here, but i'm pretty excited

[Yaaamiii]

Welcome to LFAD and welcome to the beauty that is a LDR . It is extremely difficult, can and will get lonely, and isn't for everyone. Congratulations on your first visit and I'm glad to hear it went so wonderfully. My SO is also my first real boyfriend and I'm his first real girlfriend. I say real because I dated a guy once for 3 days (long story) and he dated a girl for a week once. Neither of us really knew what we were doing since we were so young, so we consider the other to be the first. Point is, I've felt as you feel and didn't know what to compare it to either. For me, it just worked out naturally. We spent hours upon hours talking and it actually took a long time to actually get into my relationship with my SO because I was so afraid. I had to take a lot of time to reflect. A lot of time. It took me almost 2 months. My SO waited for me. Take some me-time to reflect, and trust that whatever happens, will happen. There is no use in stressing. The sadness will lighten in time, just keep yourself busy and do not focus on the fact that he is not there. Best of luck . LDR's are difficult but they can work. They will push your limits but it will be worth it in the end.

[Zephii]

How sweet <3

One thing I wanted to say was "It is ok to make mistakes" it's alright not to be 100% sure that he's "the one" or the relationship will work before you commit. Don't be scared

Coping.. well, I think you either manage or you don't. (I usually don't haha) There's no secret to it. And, it doesn't really get easier either. But you know what? It's worth it, and it makes for a good story later!

You mentioned pictures... hint hint..

[notyourexgirlfriend]

I'm glad to read it went well. The sadness of parting is never easy but it's OK to feel that way. Allow yourself to be sad without letting it consume you. Keep yourself busy and try and go back to your routine before he visited. There is a lot more heartache with separation from LDRs but that special person makes it all worthwhile.

[CKJS]

Oh my goodness! I'm so happy it went well and you decided to become official! That's wonderful! It sounds like a great time!
I agree with Zephii pictures please?

[faith_patience_believe]

thanks for the advice and encouragement guys! its all very exciting but also confusing and painful. I'm so new to all of this! I will not be posting pictures because I'd rather keep my identity private for now. But maybe someday!

[notyourexgirlfriend]

In the beginning I was very private with pictures too. That's perfectly understandable

[aomnomnom]

I'm gald it went well for you guys! Cant wait for that moment myself I hope you feel better soon. This is why I wanted to wait after im done with everything here so i can 'stay' if things work out after my visit. Thank god we are both busy this year and time flies. I dont think i will be able to bear the pain of seeing him for a while and back oceans apart again!