Feeling so homesick and confused...

[redapple]

Also as a p.p.s it might be worth asking your family to lay off on the when are you coming back talk. Help you make your own decision and not feel guilted into it by family, it's hard for them to not have you there. It takes time for everyone to adjust.

[redapple]

I seem to remember from a previous post that this is your first major trip away from home? Do you feel like you may just need to ride the home sickness out for a bit longer to see if you adjust? I personally don't suffer too much from homesickness as long as I can ring and occasionally go back home (I'm there every 6months or so) I'm happy. However I used to live with a girl who got the blues so bad when we were at uni, she just missed home so much. She even almost dropped out, she'd go home every other weekend and always cry when she came back, despite having a great time at uni. She was just torn between two places, much as you seem to be. Eventually a few years later se had to get a weekend job and it pushed her into not going home very often she went from twice a month to every couple of months. And she hated it! However she adjusted, she kept in touch via Skype with the parents (I used to hear her dad over webcam in the morning- very strange to wake up to!) and says she really needed to go through that leaving the nest stage and is glad she was forced to do it even though she didn't enjoy it. For example she's just recently got her dream job a couple of hundred miles from home and being single and free she happily accepted, which I don't think she would have done a few years ago.

I know it's not advice as such but maybe her experiences will help you. Make sure you keep in touch with your family and give yourself time to adjust, it's only been a few weeks your bound to feel emotional, generally us humans aren't fond of change


Also p.s sorry if this is full of errors- I'm on my phone!

[MissVampyxo]

It's been my third week here visiting my SO and I love it here, but my home sickness is kicking in and I feel so depressed now. I really like it here and wouldn't mind moving here....but all I can think about is my family. He keeps asking me what my heart is telling me and my heart is saying to go home.. but I know once I go home or get on that plane I'm going to regret it so much. Everything else- my mind and gut is telling me to stay.
If I do go home, I want him to come with me and I don't want to stay for long... I can't even think about getting back on cam and going back to that life. I won't be able to hug or kiss him or cuddle at night and whenever I think about that it pulls me to staying here. Then I think about how much I miss my family, and room and nephew and it pulls me to the other side. My family of course are constantly asking when I'm going back and that I need to start college asap...
I don't think I have enough money to just go and come back and even if I do I'm still going to cry because I'm going without him..and I'll only want to go home for a few days and then come back to him. I just don't know what to do with myself, I could barely sleep last night because all I could think about was all of this and I feel so sad. Yesterday morning I woke up in tears and his sister came to comfort me and told me that they'll all understand if I need to go back or that I do need to visit my family from time to time and if anything they'll find a way to pay for me to come back.
but I just can't HANDLE going back home, siting in my room everyday just being on cam with him. I know it's better than nothing but I'm not strong enough to handle that again. Also he's visited me 2 times before and this if my first visit here and just thinking of the pain he's going to go through once I leave - makes me cry even more.

I just don't know what to do and I'm starting to feel so sad.