Now vs. Doing Long Distance 25 years ago, Temptation and Who's Moving with Who

[TwoThree]

1- To be completely honest, I don't think we would make it with just the phone and snail mail. I think it would suit me just fine if there were no other options (I love writing letter but haven't written him more than a few cards here and there, for some reason), but he probably couldn't keep up.

2- I didn't notice a difference. However I did get a couple of marriage proposals since I got with him (from complete strangers), but I guess that's because I'm nearing my "expiry date" (as least that's what my culture says). Depressing, I know.

3- I will be the one moving to Finland. If all goes well.

[Captivated]

1. Nope. Met him online and it wouldn't have survived had it not been for all day chat fests.

2. I've always gotten hit on - now isn't any different.

3. He will moving here...in 8 days!!

[pretty ll vacant]

1. Like everybody else's answer, I wouldn't have even known my SO existed without the technology we have today. We talk about that a lot actually and are really thankful to have found each other. BUT if for some reason we would have still met and didn't have all the technology, I'd still put in the extra time just for him. It would suck A LOT but i would do it in a heartbeat.

2.HAHA .. Yes, I know this all too well. Dudes hit on me allllll the tiiiime. Some are easily brushed off but others start being huge dicks about my long distance relationship, saying stupid things to try and make me doubt him but it never works. I know my baby too well.

3.Eventually, I will be moving to him because lets face it .. California is wayyyy cooler than Georgia. But no really, it is more ideal for our situation because he owns his own business and his clientel is much larger in his area than it would be in mine. I'm totally fine with moving out there because I can always take my time and find another job.

[princessmeg1328]

1. I don't think so. We're international, and it would be really difficult to be able to keep in touch. Plus, I'm really bad about writing letters.
2. No. I didn't get hit on very often before, and it hasn't changed for me. Neither one of us really goes out very often anyway.
3. I'll be moving to England. He's already pretty much settled, and I have no ties here other than my family.

[xopookie]

1. Like everybody else's answer, I wouldn't have even known my SO existed without the technology we have today. We talk about that a lot actually and are really thankful to have found each other. BUT if for some reason we would have still met and didn't have all the technology, I'd still put in the extra time just for him. It would suck A LOT but i would do it in a heartbeat.

2.HAHA .. Yes, I know this all too well. Dudes hit on me allllll the tiiiime. Some are easily brushed off but others start being huge dicks about my long distance relationship, saying stupid things to try and make me doubt him but it never works. I know my baby too well.

3.Eventually, I will be moving to him because lets face it .. California is wayyyy cooler than Georgia. But no really, it is more ideal for our situation because he owns his own business and his clientel is much larger in his area than it would be in mine. I'm totally fine with moving out there because I can always take my time and find another job.

Nice California, and you have beautiful weather I totally like that and plus it's always good to have a partner that is good financially because it helps soo much. My honey is also the one that makes the most money out of the both us. Overall, especially in this recession you have the luxury to be able to find another job in beautiful weather with someone you can truly depend on.

[blankita719]

#1 Before the use of skype, aim and the internet with e-mails would you of been able to do a long distance relationship in the 1980's or earlier than that?!
Well, it may not have been 25 years ago but I DID have a LDR with my SO in 1997 - well before internet was a household thing. We relied on phone cards to talk, plus we wrote each other letters and sent cards. It's easier now for sure, but we managed for about a year without all the extra technology.

#2 Even though you're long distance, do you feel you get hit on a lot more compared to when you were single?!
Honestly, I'm a single mom and I work a lot so I don't get out often enough to tell if that's the case.

#3 Who's moving with who?! Name your city, state or country
Now that's the golden question isn't it...I think most likely I will end up moving to him. I'm in Florida and he is in New Hampshire.

[dglynn77]

#1 Before the use of skype, aim and the internet with e-mails would you of been able to do a long distance relationship in the 1980's or earlier than that? No, we would have been too young to date back then :P

#2 Even though you're long distance, do you feel you get hit on a lot more compared to when you were single? Yes, but this is most likely because I am the white foreign girl here...

#3 Who's moving with who? I am moving from China back to our hometown in 2 years. So I will be moving closer to him!!!

[sewbama]

1) We probably wouldn't have been LD. We met online, so I doubt it would have happened that way. I think we would have met anyway, it just would have taken longer, and we probably would have been CD if it did happen. I think we could deal without the technology. I'd miss text messages the most. But other than that, I think we'd be alright. I just don't think our relationship would be nearly the same thing it is if technology wasn't where it is.

2) I notice guys checking me out more. He's helped me see when it happens. Plus, I'm more confident with him. I notice more flirting.

3) Well I'm moving away from him for school. I seriously doubt I'll end up back in Birmingham. But if he gets a job in New Mexico (quite likely), I'd move there for him. But he might try to get a job in Atlanta if the NM thing doesn't work out. So it could go either way.

[Berna]

1. I am not certain if I could handle it. I am so used to the internet and other modern means of communication that I can't imagine life without them. However, if I lived before that era of modern communication maybe I'd have a different view. My parents were in LDR and they communicated via letters. Can you imagine that? 30 years after they are still happily married

2. Didn't notice any difference.

3. No plans currently for CD but if it ever happens I am the one moving.

[Zephii]

#1 Before the use of skype, aim and the internet with e-mails would you of been able to do a long distance relationship in the 1980's or earlier than that?! We wouldn't have met, I don't think. But if by some miracle we'd actually met, then yes, we could have survived long distance on nothing but letters. I know, because we did for a while

#2 Even though you're long distance, do you feel you get hit on a lot more compared to when you were single?! People who are happy and confident get hit on. When you're in a good relationship, people can sense you're happy. Also, you're less nervous around people of your desired gender because you're not trying to impress them, and that comes off pretty sexy. Or at least that's what I've read.
But nope, it's about the same, that is to say nearly non-existent.

#3 Who's moving with who?! He's here in Sydney Australia with me. In 4 odd years, we'll move to Vancouver, Canada for a while to be with his side of the family.

[XxFranticLovexX]

1. Taking out the fact that we met online, I think I could. I mean, with snail mail and a telephone.We really only do voice chats and messaging online anyway. I would go crazy if I couldn't at least hear his voice once in a while though.. and I would probably look into trying to close the distance sooner than I would now since the communication would be much more limited.

2. Honestly, I don't really pay attention. I get hit on occasionally, but I usually don't notice unless someone mentions it or it's blatantly obvious. I really have no interest in anyone else so I don't really care if they're interested or not. Then again.. I was in a 4 1/2 year relationship that I just got out of a few months before this one started, so there wasn't really a huge time span between being single and being taken for me.. and I was kinda only physically single during that time.

3. I will most likely be moving to him. I am visiting him soon and he says that I need to see if I like it there and stuff.. and that I could always just stay there and not come back home. lol. I also don't really like where I live now, because I have been here my entire life and I have wanted out of this place since I was in high school. It just seems to make more sense all around, for us, for me to be the one to make the move.

[Malaga]

#1 Before the use of skype, aim and the internet with e-mails would you of been able to do a long distance relationship in the 1980's or earlier than that?
It's certainly easier this way and hard to put yourself in that situation, but people have been maintainting LDRs for ages before Internet and mobile phones, and I think we'd be able to as well. We'd just accept the slower pace of communication as we wouldn't have known for anything better.

#2 Even though you're long distance, do you feel you get hit on a lot more compared to when you were single?
I can't really say so, actually it's less. The fact I rarely go out nowadays probably has something to do with it. I'm happy with that though, being hit on by someone other than whom I fancied always made me feel uncomfortable.

#3 Who's moving with who?
We've not set it yet specifically but it will most likely be me moving to him. I'm fluent in the language and could potentially be better off finding a job here, than the other way around.

[kteire]

#1 Before the use of skype, aim and the internet with e-mails would you of been able to do a long distance relationship in the 1980's or earlier than that?!
I'd like to think so, because my SO and I still would have met, but I guess we'd have spent much more time on the phone haha.

#2 Even though you're long distance, do you feel you get hit on a lot more compared to when you were single?! Completely. I have no idea why, maybe it's a confidence thing, but I swear when I was single before my SO I got much less attention, and now it's slightly irritating. And I know I'm not better looking than I was before haha.

#3 Who's moving with who?! Name your city, state or country.
We both moved! I'm from Kingston, Ontario, Canada, and he's from Cork, Ireland, so we both moved to London, England! Neither of us could easily get visas to each others' countries, and he had to stay in the UK or Ireland until he fully qualifies as an actuary!

[Tooki]

Fat chance. The relationship would have no hope without the globalised world we live in today.

And she wouldn't be speaking great English either .

[pretty ll vacant]

Nice California, and you have beautiful weather I totally like that and plus it's always good to have a partner that is good financially because it helps soo much. My honey is also the one that makes the most money out of the both us. Overall, especially in this recession you have the luxury to be able to find another job in beautiful weather with someone you can truly depend on.

Yeah, He's in the bay area so their weather is kind of weird but it seems really nice because right now when its been 90+ over here in Georgia for me, It's in the high 70's for him, lucky bastard lol. If our first visit goes how we think it will, He wants me to move out there by next year. While I'm happy about it, I just don't feel like I'll be ready yet. Alas, we will see.