Ok so I talked to my girlfriend a couple of days ago and have been trying to make sense of what she said but can't seem to find what i'm looking for...In a regular conversation with my girlfriend, out of nowhere, she told me "Not sure if you were thinking of this, but I don't think you should get any tickets to see me in August..." Now her reasons made sense to me. She was saying August is going to be very hectic for her. She is going to be finishing up her summer college courses and be working a lot and starting new classes and she is also in the process of trying to move out of her parents house. Now I can understand this, and appreciate that she gave me a heads up. She also told me she wanted to tell me because she would feel really bad if I got a ticket and she didn't get to see me at all. So then the conversation continued on and she asked me "How would you feel or how antsy would you be if I hadn't told you I loved you yet?" So I told her I would be a little upset but I would still know she would say it eventually and I would just have to wait patiently. I then asked her "why do you ask. Do you feel like you said it to soon?"
We had a conversation about that a while ago and she said she thinks she did say it soon but she does mean it now and doesn't regret it, so that is good, I assume. But this makes me wonder; is she maybe thinking about leaving me even after all we have been through these past 7 months? Does she still love me? If she does still love me and is NOT thinking about leaving me, how can I tell?
I mean she stills calls me everyday and still says she loves me and misses me and wants me. She also says things that hint that she plans on keeping me around, if not for good at least for a long time, such as; she hopes that her future girlfriend roomates like me.
Could any of you fellow LDR..ers, help me out and tell me what you think. Or if you've been in similar situations and can give advice on what I can do to make her realize she does want to be with me like she used to be so sure about? (I know I can't MAKE her feel this but I think you all know what I mean) Thanks!
We had a conversation about that a while ago and she said she thinks she did say it soon but she does mean it now and doesn't regret it, so that is good, I assume. But this makes me wonder; is she maybe thinking about leaving me even after all we have been through these past 7 months? Does she still love me? If she does still love me and is NOT thinking about leaving me, how can I tell?
I mean she stills calls me everyday and still says she loves me and misses me and wants me. She also says things that hint that she plans on keeping me around, if not for good at least for a long time, such as; she hopes that her future girlfriend roomates like me.
Could any of you fellow LDR..ers, help me out and tell me what you think. Or if you've been in similar situations and can give advice on what I can do to make her realize she does want to be with me like she used to be so sure about? (I know I can't MAKE her feel this but I think you all know what I mean) Thanks!
But, truly, don't stop living YOUR life. Keep up with your friends, go out do things, definitely maintain any hobbies you had before the LDR. I know it's hard to do because all you want to do is spend time with that person. You are in the same time zone right? Maybe do a "date" night like others do here where you maybe play some games online, watch a movie, spend time on skype, etc. On other days, short texts are nice, emails.....and of course the phone calls. Just don't pressure her to do these things. Make the suggestion, leave it to her to follow up and don't get stressed out about it if it doesn't happen right away. Trepis and I play WoW together and our nights are Wednesdays and Thursdays. I work night shift 3 days a week so I don't have much time on those days, but we text inbtw and I call him before he goes to work, and he tries to catch me before work when I have to work. We have a 2 hour time diff so that makes it a bit easier some days. Hope that helps.
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