I think hes fake, I love him anyway.

[Abby5445]

I've been dating this guy for 2 years.
Hes 20 and im 18..

Im going to make this short, with as many details as possible. Please, please answer this.. Anyone.

Him and I met on an app for iPhone.
He was perfect looking and im very average. Its very.. Odd he waz attracted to me.
He played baseball, hockey, and workes out. his mother was a dentist, father a doctor, and grandparents ran an oil company.
Needless to say.. They have pleanty of money.

He was literally every single utter thing I looked for in a guy. It was too good to be true.

I asked him if I could add him on facebook, and he says he doesnt have one. Also he wont make one.

I asked to talk on skype. He said he doesnt have a laptop, or a skype.

He sends me pictures of his debit card, and checks but it never shows his name.

He says hes moved from rhode island, to maine, to.new york, and now texas to help run the oil company because his grandfather died.

I decided to research him.
There.. Isnt a dylan grant from woonsocket rhode island that.ever exsited.

And his grandfathers name is joseph roands.. And.. Hes not the owner of an oil company because it doesnt show up.. Ever.
Ihes offered to come up six times. Every time it just doesnt happen and something gets in the way.

Even if he was fake, id stay with him. I just.. Need the truth. Ive confronted him and he wont fess up.

What do I do? ):

[Zephii]

Not everyone is googleable, especially if they aren't giving you their real name. And that's fairly common. I didn't give my SO my real name for quite a while - and when I did I made sure he didn't have my address (p.o box ftw). He might be trying to be safe.

Or he might be some kind of dangerous lying maniac. You just never know.

Generally I'd say "stop wasting your time on him" but that's not what you want to hear, so I'm going to go with "Be safe. Don't agree to meet him until you've at least seen him on webcam. Photos can be of ANYONE." Also, why on earth is he sending you photos of his debit card and checks? That proves nothing.

Your intuition (that feeling that's telling you he's not legit) is there for a reason, please don't ignore it.

[Abby5445]

Ive tried breaking it off because ive come to the conclusion hes fake.. But I keep running back because I love him.

I wish he would tell me whats happening. Id accept him for anything he is.

[LeilaniJoi]

Trust the red flags and proceed with caution. I'd almost wonder if he's not playing some sick game. With two years under your belt i know its hard to let go but don't stop your life or your chances for meeting other, REAL, people. Took have been patient... now is time for him to be honest.

If his family has an oil company, trust me, he has access to a computer some where.

Don't allow yourself to be some ones toy. You deserve better than that.

[Abby5445]

He promises we will meet..
Over and over..
I wish hed be.honest so we can just move on..

[Anna N' Luc]

I really don't know what to say apart from BE CAREFUL. Judging from your post, it certainly seems like he's hiding something, I think it all depends on what it is as to what you should do. If it's just his name, fine, he may want to feel secure before he gives it to you. If it's where he lives, ok, could pose a problem if/when you guys decide to close the distance. If it's that his family has money, no big deal. It's things like age that you need to watch out for. Like Zephii said, photos are easily faked and for all you know he could be some 40 year old man OR he could be who he says he is and he is just ungooglable or has maybe fibbed a bit on his name. All I can say is, be safe, make sure you are 100% sure about who you are meeting, meet in a public area first, have an exit strategy.

[Jayburr]

Your intuition (that feeling that's telling you he's not legit) is there for a reason, please don't ignore it.

Aye, definitely sounds suspicious to me.

Why do you say you'd still love him even if he's fake? Someone who lies about...probably everything, is not someone you want to be involved with.

[Abby5445]

Its not that im attatched to him.. Im attatched to how he is.. And how.. He treats me.. I dont think our relationship would change.if he told me.the truth

[Anna N' Luc]

He promises we will meet..
Over and over..
I wish hed be.honest so we can just move on..

I would not be ok with that. Empty promises to meet seems like he is either hiding something big or like LeilaniJoi said, playing some sort of game with you and stringing you along. Neither of which is ok and you deserve much better than that. Have you ever seen the movie Catfish? It is the perfect example of how easy it is for somebody to portray themselves as someone completely different over the internet.

[Abby5445]

Im showing him all of this right now.
Hes getting angry ):

[Anna N' Luc]

Im showing him all of this right now.
Hes getting angry ):

I think this needs to be something you discuss with him at least over the phone. Showing him what a bunch of random strangers think about the situation is all well and good but he does need to know what you're thinking, WHY you think he is not telling you the truth and you both need to be honest with each other about everything... otherwise there is no way that your relationship will work.

[Abby5445]

The thing is, him and I have talked about it on the phone. He gets mad, and threatens to leave.

He wont just,tell me the truth

[Zephii]

I've seen the flip side of this on this website too... Where a guy did everything he could to prove who he was, and traveled to the girl's city to meet her, but she still wouldn't see him because she didn't trust he was real.

But it comes down to this: If he's lying about big things, then you don't know him at all. And if you don't know him, you're in love with something your mind has created, and not a person. It's great that he makes you feel good when you're talking, but you can't build a future on that. Someone who is real, and honest will also make you feel this good - even in person. Just sayin'

[Anna N' Luc]

What are you looking for by starting this thread? Are you looking for ways to confront him? Ways to tell whether or not he is telling the truth? Whether or not you should leave?

[Anna N' Luc]

Zephii is right. If he isn't telling you the truth then you've really been with someone who is made up by both your mind and his. You're in love with what he has created and not who he really is.