Hi everyone!
So, recently I've made some topics here about how unsure I've been on how my SO really feels about me. This uncertainty was a direct result of feeling lonely and depressed in the wake of our first meeting, and an amazing, yet way too short 7 days that we spent together. During this trip, we never really discussed specifics about WHAT our relationship was (now that we'd met), or how we'd handle the distance once I went back home. We briefly talked about it here and there, but, nothing really concrete. I think we just sort of assumed we were now 'together.' So, ever since I got home, my depressed state of mind has caused me to, of course, over-think, over-analyze, over-everything...and I've been needing some serious reassurance to keep from going insane. I needed to know how she really felt about me, about us...and somehow initiate the discussion on our LDR that we never really had in-person...
Well, just the other night, I finally got the reassurance I was looking for! Earlier in the week, I mailed her a shirt of mine for her to keep and hopefully make her feel closer to me (it's actually the shirt I wore on the day we first met hehe). When she opened it and saw what it was, it made her so happy she cried, and a flood of feelings poured out, which basically helped bring us to the point of being able to discuss our relationship - what we are, where we want to be, how we feel about each other, etc... It was such a huge relief to finally confirm my thoughts...make things official, and be on the same page with her. I wish it could have been accomplished without making her cry, but, this wasn't planned, it just sort of happened to work out the way that it did.
So, just wanted to say thanks to everyone on this forum who responded to me and helped me (and read my LOOOONG posts, :P). You've all made a difference for me and I greatly appreciate your time and support.
Finally, I can rest easy, have no doubts, and I KNOW now that my SO and I are in this together for the long haul... I am VERY happy
Thanks again all
So, recently I've made some topics here about how unsure I've been on how my SO really feels about me. This uncertainty was a direct result of feeling lonely and depressed in the wake of our first meeting, and an amazing, yet way too short 7 days that we spent together. During this trip, we never really discussed specifics about WHAT our relationship was (now that we'd met), or how we'd handle the distance once I went back home. We briefly talked about it here and there, but, nothing really concrete. I think we just sort of assumed we were now 'together.' So, ever since I got home, my depressed state of mind has caused me to, of course, over-think, over-analyze, over-everything...and I've been needing some serious reassurance to keep from going insane. I needed to know how she really felt about me, about us...and somehow initiate the discussion on our LDR that we never really had in-person...
Well, just the other night, I finally got the reassurance I was looking for! Earlier in the week, I mailed her a shirt of mine for her to keep and hopefully make her feel closer to me (it's actually the shirt I wore on the day we first met hehe). When she opened it and saw what it was, it made her so happy she cried, and a flood of feelings poured out, which basically helped bring us to the point of being able to discuss our relationship - what we are, where we want to be, how we feel about each other, etc... It was such a huge relief to finally confirm my thoughts...make things official, and be on the same page with her. I wish it could have been accomplished without making her cry, but, this wasn't planned, it just sort of happened to work out the way that it did.
So, just wanted to say thanks to everyone on this forum who responded to me and helped me (and read my LOOOONG posts, :P). You've all made a difference for me and I greatly appreciate your time and support.
Finally, I can rest easy, have no doubts, and I KNOW now that my SO and I are in this together for the long haul... I am VERY happy
Thanks again all
When I got home, being without her only made things worse for me, and the fact that she seemed to go right back to her normal life again made me feel like she must not care that much. It made me feel left behind, and even more alone. All of that contributed to my uncertainty about "us" but, finally we got ourselves on the same page.
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