Dumped

[latortuga78]

Well, after nearly three years my bf has decided to end the relationship citing the fact that I'm too quiet and when I'm upset, I don't communicate with him directly but instead unleash my frustration on social networking sites. I admit I was wrong, but it upsets me that all of the things that bothered him were things that I had no idea they bothered him because he didn't tell me. Needless to say, I'm devastated. I had plans to move to be with him and what hurt me the most is when he told me that he couldn't see us living together so there was no need to continue wasting time. What do I do now? How do I get over this? I am afraid I'll turn into this bitter person and all I can think is "Why is it so hard for somebody to love me?"

[LadyMarchHare]

Oh honey, I'm so sorry.

It sounds to me like there's more than just that bothering him. If he's upset that you don't communicate with him when YOU'RE upset (believe me I have this problem too) then it would seem to me he wouldn't be a hypocrite and say something so it could be worked on. If he thought it was that big of an issue and he valued the relationship then it would have been addressed in some form. You can't fix what you don't know is 'broken', so to speak. And I find that last comment of his hurtful. Wasting time? The only one who was wasting time was you, but that was because you weren't aware he'd made up his mind to give up for whatever reason, if those aforementioned ones aren't solely it or the truth. I'm finding it hard to believe they are.

Three years... baby that's gonna take time to get over. You invested so much emotion and time into an already difficult relationship to maintain and now he's made it like YOU ruined it all. You didn't, honey, so don't go blaming yourself. My suggestion is to find as many distractions as you can whether it be hobbies, friends, or whatever you like. Set aside things that practically scream memories of him for now, those will only hurt you. Later when the wounds have healed you can pick them up and shrug it all off. Again, I'm so sorry this happened to you. The guy obviously was not a keeper.

[Swederica]

I agree with LadyMarch and i'm very sorry that you have to go through this, i wish noone to ever go through it. Even tho i haven't gone through it myself the mere thought is scaring me.

The guy was as said above my ladymarch not a keeper.
He does not deserve you, since if that is his explanation, he didn't really do much to defend the long relationship you had.
Don't worry, i'm sure that you will find someone better at handling the whole situation.
Even if the other guy was as wonderful as he may have been, idk, you need someone who can deal with the whole thing.
Unfortunately the perfect guys are as hard to find, if not harder, as perfect girls, which i've noticed :/

[amb85]

I agree with everyone...you can do better. The explanation he gave you is just BS and he isn't man enough to tell you the real reason. Seems like he was just looking for a way out since he put no effort in trying to fight for the relationship. Don't blame yourself...he is the one who has the problem. I know it probably seems like you won't get over it now, but you will in time. In the mean time you have to stay busy. Go out with friends, pick up a new hobby, anything to distract you. Everything happens for a reason and you will find someone better.

[xsomanymilesx]

this is so sad.
but you do deserve better, he should make the effort to get you to talk rather than saying that about 'wasting time' which is unneccessary and hurtful.
LDRs are hard... i vent on tumblr... sometimes about stuff i havent told my SO .. he seems immature and if he cant handle this.. then he really doesnt deserve to handle you when you are upset.
*hugs*