Just feeling distant and down.

[Jango]

Hello!

I'm really starting to feel the grind now, LDR's really are quite tough, and I don't think people should judge untiill they have experienced one.

My girlfriend is on holiday at the moment, away from her laptop, so i've been to limited to texting untill she's home. We usually use IM's most of the time, and Skype when we're not too busy.

I was thinking of trying that Google+ Hangout with her. We both have accounts but haven't tried it yet, i've heard it's pretty decent, and not as laggy as skype.
I get frustrated with skype sometimes because it can be really unresponsive, and really makes this LDR hard being so limited.

If this G+ hangout is half decent, it would make me feel so much better to be honest.

My point to this thread is to ask:
Has anyone tried this Google+ hangout thing? Is it ok? And is it private??
I've noticed some hangouts are open to the public, and would rather people not see me talking to my girlfriend

And also, does anyone have any small tips on how to perk yourself up when feeling a bit limited and distant?

Thanks

[EnglishMan]

We sound in pretty similar situations. Im from England too and my girlfriend is all the way over in Oregon, so a similar enough distance there. About 2 months ago, she went on a 3 week trip around California, and I had no idea how I would deal with that because I cant go a day without talking to her. But she got Skype access here and there, and although it really sucked not talking all the time, it made me value every minute we did get. It's also made me kinda not wanna go on my holiday next week, cause I know I wont be able to stop thinking about her.

I can't really say anything about Google+ as ive never used it, but Skype/Facebook/Mobile/other forms of contact seem to suffice. As for feeling down and limited, I hear you there. There's times I really feel every mile of that 5000 mile gap between me and her. I feel helpless knowing I cant just go right over there and do what I want, what we both want, and be together. It really can hurt knowing you've got to sit there and wait until you can go out to her or she can come out to you, and for that meantime you're relying on interacting through a screen.

But while we miss the physical side of things, don't forget how special our relationships are. Your average Joe couldn't cut the dedication all of our relationships have, and the challenges make LDR's all the more special. Try not to think about right now, try to think about a time when you have or will be together. Being away from someone you love so much will occasionally make anybody upset or feel limited, I often feel that I dont wanna be here, I want to be there. But you'll have good things in your life where you're at too, just gotta remember them. And while it sounds corny, if two people love each other so much then there's nothing that can stop that.

I think its also an idea not to dwell on stuff, just enjoy the time you get with each other. Taking your mind off it can be a good thing, I've got a good set of go-to films/TV series that I know will perk me up. You'll have similar stuff, so let that stuff put a smile back on your face.

[Adora]

Your average Joe couldn't cut the dedication all of our relationships have, and the challenges make LDR's all the more special. Try not to think about right now, try to think about a time when you have or will be together. Being away from someone you love so much will occasionally make anybody upset or feel limited, I often feel that I dont wanna be here, I want to be there. But you'll have good things in your life where you're at too, just gotta remember them. And while it sounds corny, if two people love each other so much then there's nothing that can stop that.

What Englishman said dude, it is hard but try not to get too anxious about and look forward to when she'll be back.
Why not make her a gift whilst she's away and send it to her for her coming back, can't speak for ALL girls but I know MOST really like a gift that a lot of effort and thought has went into.
If you need a gab, pm me.
Chin up pal x

[chef.rae]

I agree with what has been said so far. LDR's are hard enough, when communication is lagging it seems a lot harder. Have never tried google+. Usually skype facebook e-mails and Ims have worked well for me. You will find some things that will make you happy and take your mind off everything for a little while. Love the idea of making her a gift, she will love it and it will show her how much you missed her while she was away