Please,some advice

[Irina_Linn]

See,i havent seen my bf for 8 months by now and soon its almost 2 years we are together.i do not think he tries enough for us to be together,everyday he has new ideas on his mind and instead of finding a job n having atleast a direction for us to move,he keeps dreaming of becoming famous movie-maker,dj,whatever.problem is,i don wanna talk to him on skype or sms everyday 24/7 n he keeps getting pissed n says i ignore him.but when we talk i feel like em pulling the words out coz nothing new is actually happening and i dont even know what to talk about.i just would like to hear ur thoughts on this and well,whats going on with me,why i dont want to speak to him?

[LeilaniJoi]

Could it be that you realize he has no motivation and no goals? That's how it appears from the outside. Dreams are all fine and good, but the day to day work, jobs, bills, working towards something you want is important too.

How old are you both?

[Kiyama]

It sounds like you have two issues here.
With regard to the skype problem it seems to me that it's simply too much for you, which is normal. At some point you just run out of things to talk about Instead of talking you could play games for example or watch a movie together. Or, what I think is the better solution: you talk less. If you cut down your talk time to let's say two hours a day and you do other things like meeting friends and such you'll have a lot more to say to each other and you'll be looking forward to talking to your guy much more.
I also get the impression that the reason why you don't wanna talk to him is related to you being angry because of his lack of pragmatic skills.
You should sit down and talk to him about how it makes you feel and state what you want: make plans and act on them. It's nothing wrong with having dreams but those alone do not help you get anywhere. It's hard to say why he doesn't work towards a goal. He might not be ready yet to settle on something and is still looking for his place in life. I understand how frustrating it is for you when your partner appears not to be in the same side as you are and it's ultimately up to you then to decide whether you want to wait around until he comes along. If he comes along!

[Romeo s Juliet]

I think the main reason here is you both have nothing new happening in your lives. you are so frustrated that he is not making the effort at all, and your mind wants to think, ok he is not doing anything to make this work, make US work. this negativity is has sunk inside of you. its the result of that negativity that has made you not want to talk to him anymore.

I may not say the things you want to hear on this. but if he is not making any effort to come see you, what have you been doing? did you make an effort to go see him? there can be alot of obstacles, flight tickets are expensive, but you can start from somewhere right? do not depend on your partner to always find a way to solve things, while you sit there thinking all sorts of things like he is not making the effort!. either talk to him and tell him what is on ur mind, rather than keeping it all to your head and cutting contact with him, and confusing him as to why you dont wanna pay attention to him. or get a job, collect some money, take the initiative and go visit him.
you need to make things happen when you have a chance to make them happen. yes its hard, but worrying about something when u can do something about it aint taking you nowhere.

[Jayburr]

I would suggest you consider that perhaps, he is thinking and doing the same things that you are. He could feel exactly the same way and hasn't told you how he feels. If you're both waiting for the other person to make a move first, then you'll be waiting forever. You need to communicate.

[chef.rae]

I suggest talking less than usual and finidng things to do to occupy your time when you are not talking to him. Read a book, catch a movie go out and meet people. This way when you do talk you have something to talk about. I do feel like you are being quiet with him based on anger. Sit down with him and explain how you feel about everything, he may not even realize that you have these feelings.

[Irina_Linn]

Guys,thanks a lot for ur advice i had an accident n now my right hand is in cast till October.that depresses me alot too.we are 21 and 22.situation is tricky coz we both are graduates but em in Switzerland n hes in India.well we try solving it n he actually agreed to speak less.Thanks to all of you! I really really appreciate that you care

[TwoThree]

Ouch! Get well soon.

[Irina_Linn]

thanks and we had huge-ass fight which nearly led to breakup =/ my fault tho