Scary boyfriend, scary boyfriend!!

[megfashion]

ok, so we had our first *official* sleepover yesterday (dad said no to the night before last night, so i asked mum the next day and she said ok. heh.)

well as he had a car accident a week ago (he is fine, rather not talk about it) i decided that instead of being on the double bed, which is bouncy, we would sleep in the single bed that means he has good back support. im fine with squishing into a corner to give him room, especially if it means he is ok



so, scary scary boyfriend...

so we were sleeping, i was in my nice corner, he had all the room in the world, and then he moves his hand whilst asleep.

now his sleep-state self i dont think realised there was someone else in the bed. when i felt his hand touch my arm, suddenly he was thrashing around as if being attacked, lots of breathing. so i woke up n screamed his name. he then gave me these really really scary eyes, then went back to sleep.

i kind of lied there, jst making sure he was asleep n he was ok...

so then i drifted off after about 10 minutes...

and then instead of his arm, he moves his leg. again some thrashing but not as much, more like he was shocked. so i touched his shoulder n said his name again, and he drifted off.



now some may think thats cute that he settles after i say his name or whatever... but it was *SCARY*. In the morning he was all smiley and saying he had a nice sleep... and i just lied there retelling what he did and that he was scary and i never ever want to do that again (ok maybe that was a lie, i love sleepovers, maybe jst a double bed next time when his back is better :3 ). he starts laughing n said he had noo idea he did that.





has any one else's SO done this?
it is the scariest thing in the world!!!!

p.s he also at one point turned to his side and i swear he stopped breathing, he was sooo still. scary scary!!!! i asked him in the morning if he had that disorder where you stop breathing when sleeping, and he said no, so i suppose that was anxiety kicking in.

[snow_girl]

Right after I moved in with my SO I woke up to what seemed like him trying to choke me. I was kinda freaked out but he stopped right away and turned and went to sleep. I also have thought my SO has stopped breathing, I waited forever for him to take a breath. Maybe it would be a good idea to sleep in separate beds until his back is better to see if he can sleep in the bigger bed.

[Jayburr]

That is freaky!

My ex used to talk in her sleep, A LOT. She would always fall asleep before me, so as I'm laying there, I'd get to hear all sorts of weird things from her. Some times she'd be muttering things about her day, or something that happened at work, talking to people, etc... One night, she YELLED and totally scared the crap out of me! I was probably at that stage where I was JUUUUST about to fall asleep, and then she YELLS the name of one of her co-workers in a very frustrated tone. I asked her about it the next morning and she told me that THAT particular co-worker wasn't doing something she asked him to do and she had yelled at him that night for it.

There have been other times too where she would just be talking jibberish, randomized words and sentences filled with muttering... Those moments occasionally freaked me out because, while I'm mostly an Agnostic, I can't help but start to reference things like possession when someone is speaking jibberish like that lol.

[Kiyama]

Well I speak in my sleep and occasionally I even get up and walk around. It can be scary yes but also funny. I was told I got up and looked at my ex SO with sort of empty eyes. He thought it was quite funny Once I had a dream I was locked up in prison and tried to escape and I woke up with my hand in a cactus. I had actually tried to climb out of the window!
It's called REM sleep disorder, which means your muscles are not paralysed as they usually are when you are in your dream state. It was never a big issue for me and you get used to it I promise

[Moon]

Some people are very active sleepers, there's not really much that can be done about it, especially if he wakes up rested and happy. It's something you may have to just get used to and it won't be scary for long. If he's around the same age as you, and doesn't have a weight problem, I doubt he has sleep apnea (the condition where you stop breathing), but if he does it several times a night, he should probably get checked out by his doctor, though people who do have it usually wake up tired and not well rested, but still...

Until she was in her 20's, my daughter would occasionally sleepwalk. She'd look wide awake and we'd have the most bizarre conversations that made no sense at all, even though it would happen about once a year, I'd get so freaked out by it. She thought it was the funniest thing ever and never remembered any of it.

[notyourexgirlfriend]

I know I sleep talk but I'm not a thrasher. My SO sleeps like the dead. I don't mind that. Means I get to hold him and he doesn't move.

[sewbama]

My sisters used to make fun of me for sleep talking. Turns out they were lying to get me to tell them which boy I liked!

My SO has accidentally hit me in bed a couple times. Just like when he rolls over and his arm drags behind or something. Never hard. He's gotten better the longer we've been together. He actually does stop breathing in his sleep. It's called sleep apnea. No good. And we may have determined that he's actually not getting enough oxygen to his brain because he has "dreams" in the first few minutes of sleep and wakes up right after that gasping for breath. Dreams are impossible that early in sleep, so we think he's hallucinating due to lack of oxygen. Scary, huh?

[ushiwakafox]

My SO does the same thing. It seems like he talks more when he's stressed so maybe that's something. I remember one night a few months back I was up talking with a friend and he had fallen asleep. Then all of a sudden he yells out "F**** you Jay Leno!!" and punches the wall. He woke himself up enough to get up and go to the bathroom and then he got back into bed and was like "wow why does my hand hurt so much?"

There have been instances where he'll talk in his sleep, and I can actually have a conversation with him. I've even told him to go to the bathroom and he'll actually wake up and go to the bathroom. He's also talked a lot of gibberish too.

Try not to get too freaked about him spazzing out, it might just be that he's subconsciously not used to having less space in the bed.

[megfashion]

thanks for all the responses at least im not the only one with an SO that freaks out in bed!

try not to get too freaked about him spazzing out, it might just be that he's subconsciously not used to having less space in the bed.

haha oki had to reply to this one. this must be true as he is soo protective over his space and his things

id say it could have been because of the accident, but he is fine with what happened (trust me he is ive brought it up enough :P ) ... we are trying again either tonight or tomorrow, more likely tomorrow (got abit of work to do) ... shall see what happens!

[Irina_Linn]

ok lil bit of cheering up
we were sleeping and i dreamed of huge nice tasty pink cake with marshmallows.i start eating it n its so damn good...suddenly i wake up and realize i was trying to chew my bf's shoulder...thanks god he din wake up!

[MissVampyxo]

My SO wakes up some nights screaming and breathing heavily, etc.
He may have some sort of sleep apnea though that he just isn't aware of. I wouldn't be too frightened about it unless it's constant. As long as he stops once you try and wake him up you should be fine.

[reeseismypiece]

My SO slurs his words, says the most random things, points at the ceiling, holds me tightly as if he get scared someone's going to take me and twitches like crazy in his sleep. The twitching he says is from too many hits in football which I don't think is a good thing... :/ the pointing was with his mom and me actually when we watched a movie and he fell asleep then he woke up and pointed, made noise and fell back asleep making his mom and me laugh. When he was sleeping with me once he started calling me a princess in a tower (im guessing he meant Rapunzel?) and that the moon and sun would shine down on me one day and I was dumbfounded with how weird that was. Then this only happens rarely but he scoops me up and holds me very tightly, his face is always angry looking as if he's trying to defend me...it's cute but it sure does hurt sometimes!

[Alemap]

Due to some trauma in my past, I occasionally have night terrors. My beau is an enormous help, when we're together; he knows not to let my fear infect him (when one's bedmate is staring terrified at something one can't see in the corner of the room at 3am when one is half-asleep themself, it is astonishingly easy for the brain to become convinced that there is something actually there) and to just hold me through it and gently wake me up, and make sure I am safe and calm and warm and cuddled to drift off to sleep again.
I can only suggest you do the same - don't let his episodes frighten you, just be the "teddybear" he needs to nurse him through them. Or, if you can't handle that, then maybe don't co-sleep anymore.

P.

[OvertheSea]

I think my boyfriend may have hit me with his arm in his sleep once, and I know I've done it to him! I sort of half remember it, but think it's a dream and fall asleep right away. And then in the morning I have to ask if I hit him in the night and he's like 'yah, and you apologized in your sleep!'

It's normal for people to move around! Everything will be good

[dukes2011]

ok lil bit of cheering up
we were sleeping and i dreamed of huge nice tasty pink cake with marshmallows.i start eating it n its so damn good...suddenly i wake up and realize i was trying to chew my bf's shoulder...thanks god he din wake up!

I laughed hysterically at this! My SO talks in his sleep all the time and it definitely took some getting used to. Once he was visiting me at school and he started yelling and I did the same thing as you where I calmed him down, but he never woke up. It was definitely weird and hadn't happened until that incident. My SO tends to be a more "active sleeper" when he is stressed, so that might also be the case with your SO too.