Do you ever think that movies give LDRs a bad name?

[Sora1101]

I just realized this while watching a movie about an online predator, there's actually a whole marathon about online predators on right now, there are tons of movies out there that portray people who meet their SO's online in a negative light. Maybe this is why so many people judge us so quickly, because of all these movies and tv shows. I mean I know it happens but there are so many more of us who are successful yet there's only a handful of movies about online meeting where it actually works out, if any. I mean there are so many people out there that base so much of what they see off movies so why not LDR's too?

Anyone else think this?

[Bbth]

I totally agree with you! I have never seen a movie that shows a good ending to ldr Yet I have seen people in real life that had a ldr and they got married and are happy together! We have to believe it can work!
If you stop to think about it, everything in life has risks. Crossing the street, cutting vegetables. . . Why do we have to face so much prejudice about ours ldr?
The fact that it is long distance for now doesn't make it less real as many people say. This is quite stupid because closed distance relationships also fail. Cheating, lying and deceiving can happen either in ldr or cdr. Honestly, most people don't know what theyvare talking about and just repeat these stereotypes they see on movies.
Yes, it can be dangerous and things can end badly, but we are only trying to be happy. How is that wrong?
I wish there were more movies or books about sucessful ldr so that people could open their minds and stop judging us like this. Maybe some people fear what they don't understand and that's why ldr are taken to be so bad... I don't know. I hope one day we can show them all how well our ldr turned out to be.

[kittyo9]

Yes, absolutely. The only movie I've ever seen that shows an even remotely realistic LDR is Going the Distance, and even that involves a breakup because of distance. I have never heard of or seen a movie that involves a couple that met online that ended happily. There's a huge bias against LDRs, especially online LDRs, that I see perpetuated frequently. It hits home hard for me because I've had multiple online LDRs, and I have faced judgement and bias in all of them.

Can we, as the LFAD community, put together a happy and successful LDR movie? xD

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Yeah, between Dear John and Going The Distance, (both of which I will not watch) they portray LDR's as impossible to make work. The distance always ends up being the reason they break up. Not all LDR's are like that and I think in a way it discourages people from trying it, and bashing those who do. There really does need to be one LDR portrayal in a movie that is positive and where they succeed in beating the distance and making it work.

[Deleted]

Yes, I absolutely think movies always give a bad image of LDR. I've seen none of them that portray a realistic one with a happy ending. While it may be because Hollywood likes action, creepy people and that stuff, they portray LDR like that. Specially for couples who met online. Since meeting people on the web is more and more common, it's a new way movies can make crazy obsessed characters who lie and are mean.

I think happy, successful LDR stories are more in books than in films, because of that creepy, suspense-thriller sort of thing Hollywood is obsessed with. Just don't believe in what movies say!

[Sora1101]

See the only meeting online movie that worked out in the end I've seen was You've Got Mail and it wasn't even about an LDR although they met online they were living in the same city. but it was a cute movie.

We seriously need to come out with a movie of our own!

[Jango]

Can anyone list a few LDR movies? Even if they do portray a bad image. I wanna watch a few.

[Nbaby]

Definitely one of the reasons I wont be able to tell my parents for a while. Especially my mom who is very skeptical about the internet and believes everything she sees on tv and on the news. It is very unfortunate that LDR's are in such a negative light. I hope for more positive movies in the future. Or we should make our own movie lol.

[Sora1101]

Can anyone list a few LDR movies? Even if they do portray a bad image. I wanna watch a few.

Going The Distance
Like Crazy
Dear John
The Lake House
You've Got Mail

Just a few I can think of off the top of my head.

[kittyo9]

There's also Catfish, which is awful for LDRs... MTV is putting together a show based on the movie that is supposed to help couples meet, but when I contacted them to ask them about it, they were very unprofessional and also said they wouldn't international LDRs. Given that Catfish is about a misleading LDR, I suspect the show they're looking to make is also about misleading LDRs, further sabotaging us. ):

[Courtney:)]

There's also Catfish, which is awful for LDRs... MTV is putting together a show based on the movie that is supposed to help couples meet, but when I contacted them to ask them about it, they were very unprofessional and also said they wouldn't international LDRs. Given that Catfish is about a misleading LDR, I suspect the show they're looking to make is also about misleading LDRs, further sabotaging us. ):

What?!?! I remember seeing a commercial about this and I thought it would be so cute! I didn't know it was going to be based off of Catfish. Ugh -.- Media gives us a horrible name. It definitely makes it SO much more difficult to explain to people because of it.

[Nbaby]

There is a movie called "trust" or something like that. Never let your parents see that one lol.

[Brieasaurus]

There is a movie called "trust" or something like that. Never let your parents see that one lol.

I actually saw Trust and really liked it! The acting is great, even though it doesn't help us out very much. Lifetime has a bunch of movies portraying LDRs in a negative light- The Boy She Met Online, Tall Hot Blonde (brand new, it was really good actually), and Defending Our Kids: The Julie Posey Story. There's also plenty of horror-genre based movies about online predators including Hard Candy and Megan Is Missing (I watched this on a dare- still horrified). Notice how the number of scary movies about LDRs/online predator far out numbers the one about happy LDRs.

We should definitely all have movies about us and our LDRs to show how the number of normal, happy relationships is a lot higher than the few cases of online predators.

[kittyo9]

What?!?! I remember seeing a commercial about this and I thought it would be so cute! I didn't know it was going to be based off of Catfish. Ugh -.- Media gives us a horrible name. It definitely makes it SO much more difficult to explain to people because of it.

I want it to be cute, but I lost my faith in MTV a long time ago. I hope they don't angle it so that it's about all the failures of LDRs, but given the film... it's just tricky.

I guess there's something very fascinating about using the internet as a tool for deception since it's still kind of a new entity.

[Yaaamiii]

Going The Distance
Like Crazy
Dear John
The Lake House
You've Got Mail

Just a few I can think of off the top of my head.

I would also add The Time Traveler's Wife. It's not exactly a LDR, but the concept is still there. Very touching. The ending makes me cry every time!