Only LFAD would understand.

[lyonsgirl]

So I brought in a picture for my desk of my man & I (finally! I've been here since Monday & I kept forgetting to grab it when I walked out the door), and my manager walked in and said, "Oh, a picture. Who's it of?" "That's my boyfriend." "How long have you been together?" "A little over a year and a half." "Where's he live?" "Indiana." "You guys pretty serious?"


I wanted to say, "I'm almost 25, I've been with him for over a year and a half, and we've been in a long distance relationship for over half our relationship. What do you think???" But I didn't. I guess because we're LD he was curious? Dunno. (For the record, I simply responded, "Yea.")

I just had to share that with y'all, because I'm sure you all have had similar experiences.

[ashdav2010]

I always have to laugh when people ask if we're serious....like I would waste the time and energy on someone that lives 800 miles away from me if I wasn't LOL Those who aren't LD or have never been don't understand it, and that's ok, but their questions do seem funny to me sometimes As if you would have pictures on your desk of someone you weren't serious with....HA!

[lucybelle]

Honestly, I don't see a problem with the question. I don't think he asked because you guys are LD, he asked just as a question. A year and a half together doesn't have to be "serious". I was with an ex-boyfriend for over a year and I never considered our relationship "serious".

[Rach321]

I have to agree with lucybelle. It doesn't seem like too intrusive of a question, or that it's related to being LD. But the first thing I thought of when I read your post is that he could be asking you that because he's curious about whether you are going to leave to be with your guy. I'm not sure where you work, but he could be gathering info so he's not caught off guard when you put in notice?

[lademoiselle]

I've been asked if my SO and I are "serious" by people even before I've told them we're an LD couple! I think there's a tendency to feel a bit defensive when others ask about your LDR, I mean, it's not the most common arrangement out there and we've all heard the negative stereotypes. I wouldn't read too much into your boss' question though, I daresay he was simply being curious, or as Rach suggested, wondering about your plans for the future in light of your relationship situation

[lyonsgirl]

I'm sure he was just curious when he asked. (Down the road though, he'll be glad he did ask (if he even remembers) so if I do find a different job he won't be too surprised). I just thought it was a little amusing-most of the time I get the "how long have you been together" question first, and then the location question. And then often an exclamation/comment/question about the distance. I just wanted to share, because it made me chuckle a little.

[Rach321]

It was a little funny that he asked- you have a photo of him on your desk, after all! People usually don't do that unless it's a pretty serious relationship.

[lyonsgirl]

It was a little funny that he asked- you have a photo of him on your desk, after all! People usually don't do that unless it's a pretty serious relationship.

Exactly! I mean, a picture on the desk is like, advertising I have someone that important in my life. Especially because it's a picture of the both of us. Haha. (But I don't mind people asking, it gives me a reason to talk about my SO! )

[Katelyn313]

I've never been asked if we're pretty serious, but along those lines, I've been told, "He must really love you" (because he travels 3.5 hrs to see me every month). And I always say, "Yup, and I really love him too" (as I ALSO drive 3.5hrs to see him every month). It takes two. But I've noticed this LDR thing is hard for people to wrap their heads around.

That is really funny though... you're 500 miles apart AND you have a picture on your desk AND you've been together for almost two years? Yeah... I'd say serious

[Jayburr]

Haha cute story! I wish I could put pictures up but my desk sees a lot of action as far as equipment and parts and pieces constantly being placed on it and moved around so, it's not the safest environment for desk pics. The phone will have to do for now, hehe

[Kristin91]

I always have to laugh when people ask if we're serious....like I would waste the time and energy on someone that lives 800 miles away from me if I wasn't LOL Those who aren't LD or have never been don't understand it, and that's ok, but their questions do seem funny to me sometimes As if you would have pictures on your desk of someone you weren't serious with....HA!

This! Except while we were LD, we were just over 200 miles apart not 800! Good for you guys who are very long distance
My dad once asked me if me and my SO were serious and I just sorta shrugged and said yeah. I didn't want to go into detail about how we're really serious about each other... like just today my SO jokingly said something when I accidentally stepped on something of his, and I asked why did it matter and he goes "because one day all my stuff is going to be your stuff". But I guess my point is, yeah people that have never been LD don't understand the serious-ness of these relationships.