Communication issue

[hans]

Hi, this has come up as an issue in our relationship lately, and I like your opinion about is:
Me and my SO is chatting once per day, this has been going on for a very long time, and I always looking forward to our chats. We have tried Skyping, but did not work out that well, bad connection and so on.

We feel confident in our relation, and even more secure now than ever. As in all relationships we have had our ups and downs, but I feel that the hard patches has only grown our relationship stronger.

But there is one thing that bothers me. I have earlier sent e-mail letters and asked her to answer then, have sent photos and so on. But she very seldom sends any mails or photos to me. And I think it should not be like I'm "begging" for mails from her. The way I see it is that if you have true feelings for one person you like to communicate to that person all the time. Also think it's a matter of priorities. She is at times quite busy, but that's no argument for not sending mails as I see it, if you have your priorities right.

What do your guys think?

[TwoThree]

Hi.

Every couple is different in their method of communication, and sometimes two people in a relationship can be different as to how they communicate with one another. Maybe your SO thinks that chatting with you every evening (or whenever you do that) is sufficient. Maybe she hates emails?

In any case you can't really be sure until you've talked to her openly about this matter, and let her know what bothers you. I wouldn't equate the depth of her feelings for you with the frequency of her emails

Good luck.

[Moon]

I can relate to this I've never gotten anything in the mail from my boyfriend, yet I send him things pretty often. I've realized he's just not the writing type at all, and he's way to scatterbrained to actually remember to mail something The first year or so, it hurt a little bit, but the more I got to know him, and saw how he is in person, the more I understood how his brain just doesn't move in that direction. He's a talker, not a writer, and never misses our chats, but sitting down to write something, either an email or letter, just doesn't occur to him.

Also, English isn't his native language. He speaks it fluently, but writing it is a bit of a chore for him. He's quite good, but it takes him much, much longer to get the English out of his head and onto the paper or keyboard than it would me. I still send him things because he loves it, but he reciprocates in other ways, and it doesn't bother me at all anymore.

[hans]

Hi again. Thanks for your comments. I have talked to her, and I think it's a little bit like you Moon says, she's not a "mail person". She says that she will try to be better at that. As I see it, we have cleared this out. It's good to get inputs from others in the same situation, and it's even better to talk about concerns openly with your SO when something comes up.

[temporaryuser]

exactly. Communication is key. Dont assume that she doesnt want to communicate just because she wont send you lengthy emails. My so is vey techy illiterate. he takes online college classses and has to email me assignments so I can upload them to the class site for grading. So asking him to sit down and send me a lengthy email would be pushing it.
He does text frequently, and calls when he can.
keep the lines of communication open any way you can