how did you know?

[D.4C]

so..i've had friends ask me about my current relationship with my SO..and while i don't feel the need to explain myself anymore about who i am or my relationship to others..because i don't really care what others may think about it..cuz it's myself and my SO that are the really important ones in this..anyway..they ask me how i knew that this person is the right person for me..and that my feelings are true..my answer to that...while a difficult one..is..that it's just a feeling i have inside of my heart and inside of my body..there are no words to explain it..sometimes i have a hard time explaining it to my SO even..we've been through so much together over the 6+ years we have known each other..even though we have only been a couple for a little over 2 months..she has helped me through some very difficult things over the years..the passing of my father when my SO at the time was too busy for me..and the putting down of my black lab 2 weeks before my father passed...and my divorce..and a rebound relationship i had after..she was there...and i was there for her through her divorce and a bad rebound relationship...amongst other things..i love her completely...heart...mind...and soul...i know she is the one i have been looking for my whole life...and now that i have found her...i am never letting go...and will strive to be the best man for her i can be...give her all the things she has dreamed about...and that her other SO's never gave her...i am so in love...

so anyway....how did you know that your current SO is "the one"

[lademoiselle]

That's so sweet

I know my SO is the one because, quite simply, I've never met another person who understands me the way he does. I think you just feel it when someone is on the same wavelength as you, and in my experience it's so rare to find. Of course we don't agree on every single thing - over certain issues we actually hold quite opposite opinions - but that doesn't mean he can't see my point of view, or why I think/feel the way I do. My SO isn't perfect, neither am I, but we seem to fit quite perfectly together. And I wouldn't trade that in for anything in the world

[D.4C]

totally agree...she has mentioned to me before that she isn't perfect...and i reply with...you are perfect for me...she is that puzzle piece that fits perfectly into that hole that was in my heart...we don't always agree either...who does..but like you mentioned...we can always understand what the others views may be...and respect that...she's amazing...and deserving...and i just can't wait to keep taking our relationship up each step together...

[lucybelle]

Because on our second date he bought appetizers, meals, a full bottle of wine, and when I said I was full he insisted on dessert anyways.

That's my type of man!!!

[kittyo9]

My sister once asked me how I knew I loved my boyfriend even though I'd never met him in person. I told her, "When it was the only way I could describe how I feel about him."

I know he's the one because I feel right with him. It's a certain easiness and infinite trust that I just could never find anywhere else. He treats me like a princess and I would do anything to see him smile. Through all our hard times, our arguments, our imperfections and our struggles, we still love each other and want to be together more than anything.

[pretty ll vacant]

To me it's the feeling that i get when I think about him.
You know, because It's a soft warm feeling. Even before you meet you feel their persona and everything that makes up who they are, and you're enthralled by it.
You know, because you can't get them off of your mind, and wish you could be near them constantly.
You know, because nobody else can understand the way that you feel.
You know, because when you're with them you wish you could stop time.

That and so many more plus all those other little personal things about your SO that you hold dear.

[Captivated]

Because he never gave up.

[Eleven]

She's the one because she never give up on me and I to her,
We really love each other and willing to do everything just to be with each other forever.

[Carenza LaRue]

he was there always.... but never as a close friend....

I had a sort of LDR and things weren't going great.... he was the only one to notice.
at first it was friendly but within a few weeks I just knew he was the one for me....
it's his type of humor, the way he sees things, his experience, his wit.... his pessimism and positiveness at the same time.

we argue a lot sometimes.... but still.... we can have a good laugh right in the middle of a heated argument and everything is forgotten.
never had that with anybody else

wasn't in love with him right from the beginning.... but it's just that my soul recognised his and he is way too important to ever let go.... at least, that is what my gut feeling is telling me...

[Sora1101]

Because it honestly feels like we're two halves of the same whole. He understands me when no one else does and he makes me smile in a way that I've never smiled before meeting him. There's just no denying the warmth and happiness he brings my heart and soul. Every day I sit and wonder how I got so lucky, to find the perfect one for me so young, but then I think of all the things we've been through together and I know it was just meant to be.

He never gave up on me even though I was a total mess when we met, I was literally falling apart and he picked me up and put the pieces back together. And even when I became a lovable person again, he didn't give up on me because of the distance and how long we have to wait to be together. He was the only one willing to help me when I needed it most and he still is the only one who is willing to wait for me.

[Nbaby]

To me it's the feeling that i get when I think about him.
You know, because It's a soft warm feeling. Even before you meet you feel their persona and everything that makes up who they are, and you're enthralled by it.
You know, because you can't get them off of your mind, and wish you could be near them constantly.
You know, because nobody else can understand the way that you feel.
You know, because when you're with them you wish you could stop time.

That and so many more plus all those other little personal things about your SO that you hold dear.

^ This describes exactly how i feel .

[marbear31]

I love reading these responses. It's literally like y'all took the words right out of my mouth (Meatloaf, anyone? :P).

With Stephen, I think my heart knew the moment I met him there was a different energy, but my head was still wrapped around some other guy back home (long story...I can't believe I even thought they could compare). I try to be self-aware, especially in life-changing moments, and one thing I know about myself, is that when something significant is looming on the horizon, I go numb inside, and am reduced to mere sensations. That's what happened when I met Stephen. I was supposed to sit with some other friends, I changed lunch lines, he hadn't been to the bar we were eating in in almost 2 years...not only do the circumstances show fate, but in that moment, I just knew something in my essence had shifted. It's like, one moment there wasn't Stephen, and the next moment, there was. He just took over me (still does).

How do I know? I know by the incredible sensation of peace, of naturality, that permeates our connection. It's easy, fun, free, but also incredibly intricate, in terms of our backgrounds, religious beliefs, and interests. We're incredibly similar, and yet incredibly different. We have the same outlook on life. I can be utterly myself with him; there's no need to hide anything. He makes me belly laugh. We love each other for who we are, not what we want out of one another. He treats me like a queen and is always there for me, no matter what.

I love him because he's more than I ever dreamed the most perfect love could be.

[EnglishMan]

I think you just know.

To me, my girlfriend is just perfect and I haven't met another girl like her. She's so nice-hearted, so so sweet, so cute, and there's not one thing I would change about her personality. She's amazingly gorgeous too, and not even remotely stuck up about it, and I love how humble about herself she is. Nobody has ever treated me better either, I don't have huge self-confidence issues, but likewise im not perfectly confident with everything about me, but she makes me feel like im this perfect guy. I care so so much about her, and it wasn't even something I had to do myself, I just naturally started to really care how her day's going and how she's feeling, just after a couple of times talking to her. It's never been as easy as this to be so invested into somebody, nobody can change my day for the better just by saying 'hey' like she does. Nobody can make me feel so easily the way she does. Just knowing her personality and who she is, she is the perfect person for me to spend the rest of my life with.

Very sappy stuff indeed . But I mean every word of it, and tbh it's very difficult writing into words what she means to me and the reasons I love her so much. I just completely love her and I dont think there's a better way to put it than that.

[Sanney4709]

I know he is the one because he is the only person outside of my family that I can be 100% myself with and he will love me no matter what. He is my best friend who I can tell anything an everything to. He is there for me when I need him to put a smile on my face. He believes in me even though I rarely believe in myself. It sounds so corny but he really is my other half. I am happiest when I am with him. I can't imagine life without him.

[Moon]

Ugh, how do I even explain this???

At 42, I've been through more than my fair share of boyfriends, and even husbands in my life, but this is a different thing completely. It's weird...we were work friends for a few years and chatted often in work. I liked him a little, but, well, he lived in Finland One day we had a conversation about pets, and there was something about our discussion, I can't pinpoint what, but when I hung up that phone, I just knew, like really, really knew, and it hit me like a ton of bricks, what a total shock!

There's the whole story about how I then had to turn it into something more, but that's another topic for another day and thread.

Anyway, I was right, and explaining how we have the same philosophies, values and ethics, like the same things, share a twisted sense of humor, truly get each other, blah, blah, blah, sounds so typical and trite for something so all encompassing and wonderful that I can't find the right words about how I know, there have been a few times in my life where I thought I found the right guy, but compared to what I have now, I realize how ridiculous those thoughts were. Maybe the best I can do is tell you that I feel so at peace in my relationship, secure and wanted and cherished, comfortable and joyful in the experience. It's made me change my stubborn mind about some of my long-held beliefs and act and think in ways I never thought I would (all good stuff, I mean!). I just can't imagine a day where he's not in my life.