1 more week till I leave for university but there is just so much bothering me. My SO and I have been anxious and worry about my next trip and it got the better of us. we fought again today. It started when I post a pic of 2 cats sleeping together with the caption "let's go to bed :3". I posted it because I thought it would make her feel better after so much work and so much stress. she replied my pic on facebook with a cold answer that she can't sleep now and then I just wanted to loosen up a bit and said 'guess I will have to go to bed alone now. ' I thought a bit joke would do but no. she called my insensitive and didn't understand her. I said to that it was to cheer her up, but she said it made her more stressful because she feels like she's abandoning me. we continued to fight and I asked what's happening to us. she made 6 clear point:
1. I'm leaving
2. She can't give up/pause her work for me
3. She's being very easily stressed
4. I have physical demand that she can't provide
5. We have so many worries about the future
6. There is no solution
A bit more detail.
1,2:I'm leaving and she has so much work to do. She's the vice president of her club in uni and the will be some activities in the near future that she needs to take care of. apart from the work relate stress, she's also worried about not giving me a last date before I leave. It's been 2 weeks since we had a proper date, the others mostly are when she finishes work or uni and have a short meet. as I said in many other posts, she's a workaholic and she can't give up or even pause her work.
3: she's stressed about her work and about not doing what I want or what she wants. and she's stressed about our future.
4: I admit I have physical demand. but it only becomes a problem because we haven't do it for 2 weeks. she's just too stressed to do it. we planned some private time together but all of them is cancelled because of the stress and her sudden meeting.
5: Personally, I'm worried that the work is going to kill our romance and eventually our relationship. Moreover, her next plan is becoming president of the club, and an admin of another musical project, apart from her part time job in the weekends and her uni course. that is just too much and I don't even know when she's going to have time with me. and because of this, she's scared that I might get fed up and see someone else. We used to fight because I was uncomfortably (to her) close to some other girl. I don't want her to feel insecure so I become more cautious in front of girls. but she keeps being worried because of the past.
6: enough said, this is causing both of us stress.
I'm sorry if it sounds a bit selfish but I really want her to give up some time for me. but I guess I will have to wait, at least.
We thought that if she's having too much to handle, I will have to pick up her slack and nurture this relationship, but honestly, in the long run, I don't know what to do with her workaholism and her ambition, as well as relieving stress for both of us, especially hers. I really need some advice from you guys
1. I'm leaving
2. She can't give up/pause her work for me
3. She's being very easily stressed
4. I have physical demand that she can't provide
5. We have so many worries about the future
6. There is no solution
A bit more detail.
1,2:I'm leaving and she has so much work to do. She's the vice president of her club in uni and the will be some activities in the near future that she needs to take care of. apart from the work relate stress, she's also worried about not giving me a last date before I leave. It's been 2 weeks since we had a proper date, the others mostly are when she finishes work or uni and have a short meet. as I said in many other posts, she's a workaholic and she can't give up or even pause her work.
3: she's stressed about her work and about not doing what I want or what she wants. and she's stressed about our future.
4: I admit I have physical demand. but it only becomes a problem because we haven't do it for 2 weeks. she's just too stressed to do it. we planned some private time together but all of them is cancelled because of the stress and her sudden meeting.
5: Personally, I'm worried that the work is going to kill our romance and eventually our relationship. Moreover, her next plan is becoming president of the club, and an admin of another musical project, apart from her part time job in the weekends and her uni course. that is just too much and I don't even know when she's going to have time with me. and because of this, she's scared that I might get fed up and see someone else. We used to fight because I was uncomfortably (to her) close to some other girl. I don't want her to feel insecure so I become more cautious in front of girls. but she keeps being worried because of the past.
6: enough said, this is causing both of us stress.
I'm sorry if it sounds a bit selfish but I really want her to give up some time for me. but I guess I will have to wait, at least.
We thought that if she's having too much to handle, I will have to pick up her slack and nurture this relationship, but honestly, in the long run, I don't know what to do with her workaholism and her ambition, as well as relieving stress for both of us, especially hers. I really need some advice from you guys
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