Just a bit of advice

[dougiefru]

Hello all,

I am brand new to this site. But, I have been dating my SO since April 28, 2012 officially, but we had been seeing each other and talking since about the beginning of the March before that. A month and a half ago, she left to go to Guatemala for a service project for a year. At the beginning I missed her so much, and honestly, it got harder and now it is getting easier. What is probably common, but concerns me is that somedays it seems too easy, and that I don't love her quite as much as I did at the beginning. It's definitely not most days though, most days it sometimes hurts I miss her so much. I was wondering if this is a common thing? I am going out in March to visit her before she gets back in July. I actually plan on proposing to her when I'm down there, she expects me to do it when she gets back for good in July. I love this girl to death, and she is honestly my best friend. It just worries me that these feelings won't really go away. Has this happened to anyone else before?

[Sora1101]

It's normal. it's just your mental way of dealing with the pain, you're trying to convince yourself you love her less because it hurts so much but once you see her or talk to her again you'll know that you've always loved her the same.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Definitely normal. Some days, I may be busier than others and I feel like I handle the distance thing really well. It's not like my SO doesn't cross my mind, it's just I have so much keeping me occupied that I don't get the chance to miss him. I do however find at night I miss him the most since I have time to actually think. Of course I love him and always will, it's just that some days, coping with the distance is easier than others.

[Honour]

It sounds to me as though you've just grown comfortable in your relationship, and like the posters above said, it's the way you probably cope with the pain

[Zephii]

Love is fluid, long distance or not, I don't feel the same way about Obi every day. Don't let it worry you

[ushiwakafox]

Absolutely normal, as everyone else has said. Especially considering the length of time you two have been dating. It's very normal for the "fires of love" to stop feeling so intense as she becomes more of a part of you and your normal life.
No worries, it's all good

[Rebecka]

I agree with everyone! I went trough this too, after being close distance with my bf for eight months, I left to go to the US for 1 year, been here 2 months now. And from the beginning it was so hard, but then it was easier some days. And during the easy days I was worried that I didnīt feel the same way for him, but then I realized that it was just a way for me to be able to handle everything. Now I have both easy and hard days, but I know that I love him the same during all the days!!