Please help

[Gaboy]

So me and my girlfriend, Amanda (name changed) have been dating for about 2 months now. Have known each other for little over 6 months. We started dating all because she "liked" my breakup status on Facebook, an I texted her asking what was up with that. Well turns out, we hit it off right away, texting all the time, calling each other whenever we could. Well she came down for a trip to ga, she lives in ct, originally. She was here for work, well we used every opportunity to see each other and it was as if we had known each other forever.
When it came time for her to go back home, we decided to continue dating and make it official. Everything was fine, daily texts, nightly webcam sessions, gifts, little sweet voicemails, etc..
Well about two weeks ago, she was out with some girlfriends, which is fine and I trust her, well she had told me that she would text me when she got home and call me and stuff. I go to bed early because of work and well I hadn't heard from her in about 3 hours so, I texted her saying "going to bed hope you have fun call me when you get home". Well she did and it was around 12midnight and I had gotten a little upset/mad( to which I shouldn't have) and when I answered I was angry and yelled at her(which was wrong). After everything was calmed down she told me that her last bf yelled at her for no reason and she didn't like it. I apologized, explained why and said I wouldn't do it again.
Here's the problem, ever since then, things have been different...she has been more distant in texts, calls, not saying sweet things that we used to say, doesn't seem enthusiastic to text/call me. I have voiced my concern and she has said that she is happy with me and just misses me and hates that we are apart and doesn't like being sad all the time but that we are ok! I'm not buying it, I have the sickening feeling that she is going to break it off or that there is someone else. I don't want to keep baggering her about the issue, since she says that we are fine, I just don't know what to do......
Please help

[SoFarAway]

Well, welcome to a long distance relationship. What you are going through is what everybody is going through. And we are all here for you and you are more than welcome to ask for help.

So basically, a LDR is based on a lot of trust. You are living two lives now. One that is your relationship and the time you and your gf (we call them SOs for significant other) spend together over the phone, texting, skyping. And then there is your other life aka your social life. Your social life will be, and NEEDS to be, as important as your LDR. You need to go out with your friends and family to keep yourself busy and distract yourself from the impatience of waiting for your SO to get home and get online. So therefore, you need to gain her trust. She needs to be able to go out with whoever and as long as she wants. You have to deal with feelings of jealousy diff entry from now on. If you guys can establish a LDR based on trust, she will tell you what she has been doing all night anyways. Don't push her to anything. It will take some time to fix your current state, but when the time comes and the both of you are used to your situation, you will get a lot more comfortable with it as well.

My advice now: talk to her again and tell her that you are still sorry if you haven't done so. The next time she wants to go out then let her without setting up a time for her to get back at you. I promise you, she won't miss you any less when she is out with her friends. But see it from your side as well. Sometimes you just need your time away too just to make this waiting game for the next visit a little more bearable. Don't be jealous, just show her you trust her and you guys will be ok!

Read through the forum and the main site as well. You will find sooooo many resources for LDRs, you won't be disappointed

[Gaboy]

Well, it seems as things are turning around! We talked tonight and she said that she feels better about everything and she just needed to talk to someone, she talked to her best friend, and her best friend helped her talk it out! Thanks for the input, definitely helped! I will most certainly take your advice about the two lives that we are living! It helps to know that I am not the only out there with similar problems! It's good to know I have a community to reach out to who can help! Thank you! 😄

[Darth_Taco]

I also suggest telling her not to call you while you're most likely asleep again XP. I don't know about you, but I'm really cranky when I'm suddenly woken up and just get pissed for no reason. Any chance that might've been why you reacted so badly? I remember once my boyfriend woke me in the middle of the night, and I just started hitting him XP. Then I started crying @_@. So yeah, if that might be an issue with you it's best to get it out of the way early on rather than further down the line xD.

[Romeo s Juliet]

Is great that things are taking a good turn, and you should always remember that she has a life outside of you like all the posters above said. remember that no matter who she spends time with, at the end of the day she will come to you to tell you about her day. and she has chosen to be with you, rather than settling down for someone who she can see everyday. so that says a lot, and how much special you are to her. so dont let petty things like jealousy ruin that for the both of you

I also suggest telling her not to call you while you're most likely asleep again XP. I don't know about you, but I'm really cranky when I'm suddenly woken up and just get pissed for no reason.

this ^^^
Taco made a good point, things will be easier of you tell her what things piss you off, and maybe tel her that calling you up in middle of sleep really pisses u off and you dont want that because it will result in making u aggressive and shout out at her? and tell her that you dont want that to happen. so make a protocol. no calls after midnight.
i can relate because my bf does not like to be called just after he woke up, or while he is still asleep. he has told me this, and it helped me not to disturb is sleep, which didnt make him cranky or upset.
good luck