moving in together is not that easy even for close distance lovers. plus, you never meet him in person. you hv to say no but to make it easier for him maybe you can help him find a place to stay for a while.
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to be honest.... yeah, I think it is nuts. and I agree with what Moon and all the others already wrote.
but..... I also think you should trust your gut feeling and if it tells you it's okay.... well.... guess it must be okay then.
just one piece of advice from my side..... don't let Love blind you completely.... make good arrangements.... between you and your SO.... your SO and your parents and most important... you and your parents..... because all this will happen under their roof....The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
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I would not do it.
I would at least have one visit for a few days/weeks long before moving in.
Living together is a big deal and you cannot take it lightly.♡ ~~~~ 'When you find something worth fighting for, you never give up' ~~~~ ♡Comment
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If you had your own house, then I would leave the decision up to you. But because you live with your father, I wouldn't recommend it. Your BF will be a burden on the household.
Why not meet up first? See how you two feel. Your BF can also meet your father. Then you will have a better indication of how you would all live together.Comment
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yeah..... good point...... what if BF and father can't stand each other?Originally posted by Tooki View Post
never thought of that myself..The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
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I would recommend at least one visit before you completely make up your minds
Moving in with someone you love is a big commitment from both sides. You should be 100% sure before you decide completely on it. Although, I know how you feel. My Other half and I are pretty much feeling the same about each other :P
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All of the other posters have said good things and have had good points. I agree with most of them. Whatever chemistry/love/compatibility you have right now over Skype, texting, etc, will change once you meet. For example, even though Dylan and I had been dating (spending every other weekend together) for 4 months and skype/texting for 7; when he came on my family vacation for a week, I STILL learned things about his behavior that hadn't been realized/noticed before. That was the longest we'd spent together thus far and it was a real eye-opener. And it was VACATION! Where things are supposed to be fun and stress-free. You will be thrust into real-life real hard, this way. You're going to learn a lot of each other's habits, the hard way.
I'm just curious of what your father thinks about this... seeing as how you're in his house, he has final veto power, I would think.
Good luck in your choice and I wish you the best, but please think long and hard about this.My motor runs a lover's heartbeat
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Okay, Yeah I am 18 years old but I don't study, I work. Heh, But He's older then I am. Plus my father is fine about this and what's happening and if thing go wrong he'll be happy to go back home with no questions asked.
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Just so you all know, he came and it was amazing and everything is fine even with a few slip ups but hey that's normal, Thanks for all the replies.Comment
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