When does it get easier?

[candylovesbrett]

This is all so new to me. We met the old fashioned way through friends and work. We were fortunate enough to spend the first four months of our relationship together. He is a contractor and travels for work. He only left 6 days ago and I talk to him everyday but it's so hard not being with him. I get to see him in 12 days when I fly to Charlotte NC to spend 5 days with him. This is harder than I could have ever imagined it would be. Any advice on the days when you have nothing to do and you cant stop thinking about him/her would be greatly appreciated.
Nicci

[Moon]

You just have to keep busy, there isn't much else unfortunately. While I won't tell you it gets easier, because that's not true, I can tell you that you get used to it as time goes on. You get into a groove, you know how to fill your time, you establish communication schedules, you live your life. LDR's don't have to be awful, though they always have their moments, the most important part is to just continue to do things normally. Don't live for that phone call or Skype, do what you did before your relationship; go out with friends, see family, take a class, whatever it takes to step away from the computer Good luck.

[candylovesbrett]

Thanks Moon. I think I just needed that encouragement. I have been fine until today when I have a rare day with no work, no kids, no housework and it's to cold to go outside. I am so thankful for a site like this....

[Verojoon]

What works for me when I have a tough time is a a good balance of doing things with friends, etc. Things that have nothing to do with him, and also sometimes filling my time doing something for him... Like working on a care package, or a letter, or planning a surprise for the next time we see each other... I find the combination works great for me. The going out helps me maintain my individuality and a balanced normal life, but doing things for him makes me feel closer to him and our lives are more intertwined together somehow!

[Sora1101]

Keep busy, that's really the only tip. Nothing ever gets easier you just get used to it. ):

[SoFarAway]

It really doesn't get easier... Distraction is key like everybody else already mentioned. In this LDR, my SO and I are still new to it, but I had one before so I got some practice in this game. Just look up the main site as well for some activities and tips. It helped me a lot and maybe you come up with something new that you can share with us? And don't forget, we are here for you as well

[Black_Halloween]

If anything, it keeps getting harder. Keep yourself busy, as many others have said.

[Tooki]

Everybody else has nailed your question.

You just get experienced in how to manage yourself. You will always miss your partner. But you will also develop good mechanisms to deal with it.

[candylovesbrett]

Thanks everyone. Sometimes its just nice know your not alone. I talked to him last night about it and he feels the same way. Its nice to have this support system as well

[D.4C]

i know when i am having a hard time when i am home alone...i do housework...lol...or try to find friends that want to do something...just gotta find ways to keep yourself busy...and your mind off things...