My SO is currently working at hunting camps in Colorado, which means he has no phone service at all unless he goes up one particular hill, which isn't often. This means no calls, texts, Skype, Whatsapp, nothing. He's not working at a fixed address, so I can't even write him a letter.
He's working at camp until the end of November, which isn't all that long on the face of it. I'm determined to keep busy: I'm at university and my course is pretty intensive, and I just got a part in a show which will mean rehearsals will keep me occupied for a lot of the time. I've set myself a challenge to get back into running and back into my skinny jeans before he gets here in December for Christmas, so I have plenty of goals to focus on.
The problem is really my own insecurities. I worry that if I don't spend loads of time thinking about him, that I'll fall out of love. I'm worried that if I think about him too much, I'll talk myself out of the relationship. He always says that I overthink everything (and I do), and to his credit, when he does end up climbing that particular hill, he always sends me a message to let me know that he's ok and to say he loves me. Obviously I miss him, and I'm sure he misses me too, but saying it isn't going to make it any easier for either of us, so I'm trying to stay upbeat when we get a few minutes to exchange some messages.
I don't want to spend hours moping about, but I also don't want to forget all the good stuff about our relationship, and about him. How do I keep this balance? Is there anything else I could try to keep the focus on the positives in the situation?
This LDR thing is pretty hard... Any advice gratefully received.
He's working at camp until the end of November, which isn't all that long on the face of it. I'm determined to keep busy: I'm at university and my course is pretty intensive, and I just got a part in a show which will mean rehearsals will keep me occupied for a lot of the time. I've set myself a challenge to get back into running and back into my skinny jeans before he gets here in December for Christmas, so I have plenty of goals to focus on.
The problem is really my own insecurities. I worry that if I don't spend loads of time thinking about him, that I'll fall out of love. I'm worried that if I think about him too much, I'll talk myself out of the relationship. He always says that I overthink everything (and I do), and to his credit, when he does end up climbing that particular hill, he always sends me a message to let me know that he's ok and to say he loves me. Obviously I miss him, and I'm sure he misses me too, but saying it isn't going to make it any easier for either of us, so I'm trying to stay upbeat when we get a few minutes to exchange some messages.
I don't want to spend hours moping about, but I also don't want to forget all the good stuff about our relationship, and about him. How do I keep this balance? Is there anything else I could try to keep the focus on the positives in the situation?
This LDR thing is pretty hard... Any advice gratefully received.
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