I feel sick, I found a used condom wrapper in his bathroom.

[Yellowsilver]

I don't know what to tell him. He just asked if everything was ok because he saw I was agitated.

I left it in the sink so he could see it, after I used the bathroom but I honestly don't know what to do.
I feel sick to my stomach, I had to leave the bedroom.
He must have seen it, that's why he asked me...

[jleec24]

Just take some time to yourself first. Get yourself together enough for you two to have a long conversation.

[Zapookie]

You should just tell him that you found the used condom. I probably wouldn't have left it in the sink, I would have picked it up with toilet paper and showed it to him and waited for him to say something... but anyway, tell him, ask him what it was doing there. It's up to you to decide whether you trust what his response is.

[Zephii]

You found a wrapper, one that obviously wasn't well hidden. So, maybe it's not time to panic just yet. Hopefully. I have known the rare guy who uses them during masturbation - but that aside if he plays with toys it could have been for that purpose instead. Or it might have been an old wrapper found at the back of the cupboard while spring cleaning. Best not to panic.

Just say "Hey so I found this condom wrapper, and as you live alone, that looks bad for you right now. Story time?" and see where it goes.

I hope it's nothing. We're here for you either way.

[Romeo s Juliet]

first off, dont panic. You may never know what he used the condom for. i think you should straight up ask him. it is your call if you want to believe him or not.
and P.S if he left the wrapper in the bathroom, he know that you will see it, if he was doing something sneaky, he wouldn't have been that careless

[lademoiselle]

The others are right; take a few moments to compose yourself, then ask him straight about it. Try not to jump to conclusions before you've spoken to him - there could be a logical explanation.

[Amelia]

I've found a use condom wrapper in my SOs room, I got so angry at him and worked up about it I assumed the worse. I think it's best you need to remain calm and trust that your SO didn't cheat on you and that there is a perfectly reasonable explanation. There is no point getting angry and worked up over something that you don't know the whole story. Talk to your SO about it, see what he says

[Oldblighty]

Eveyone has said what I would say and that's don't jump to conclusions just yet. Give your SO the opportunity to explain. There could be a justifiable reason....Good luck and I hope there is a logical reason.....

[temporaryuser]

you didnt say where you found it in the bathroom - in the trashcan, in the drawer? if it wasnt in the trashcan, you have no idea how long it had been there.
What are the chances he let a friend use his room? Does he use condoms with you?
like the others, you cant jump to conclusions without talking to him about it.

[Anyaheirkoya]

Well, now I'm dying to know what he said!

[NathanS]

Ouch! Yeah, easy to jump to the worst conclusion here but as some of the others have said, I have known (and done myself!) other uses of them..

[snow_girl]

I was going to say what Zephii said about using it while masturbation. Don't jump to conclusions, after one halloween party we had you would have assumed we had had a super massive orgy but really someone got a ton from school and put them in a bowl and then everyone was opening them trying to see if they could put them over their heads.

[sewbama]

I think the most important thing is for you to take whatever time you need to collect yourself. I had a similar misunderstanding with my SO, and I just had to be on my own for a few hours to get my head together. That is fine and normal, and something you should absolutely do. Don't freak out or jump to conclusions. There will be plenty of time to digest the truth once you find it. No need to worry about what could be now.

So take your time, and then ask him. All will be well.

Good luck.

[MaggieS]

Like a few others have said, very likely he was just using them for masturbation. When my SO and I were just starting to have sex, I remember coming over one day while he was in the shower(I'm not used to being in other people's houses without them with me, but he insisted that I just come in because he knew he'd be in the shower by the time I got there since he'd gotten off work), I went straight up to his room 'cause that's where I'm most comfortable, and the box of condoms that I remembered being right beside his bed every other time I had been there was on the other side of the room, and open. I just asked him then and there what was up with it, and he told me he was masturbating with them some time before. I, silly billy that I am, just stared at him and asked "Why?" and he very calmly explained that your hand can get boring and feeling something else, even a condom, can be better.

As long as you both stay calm about the matter, everything goes smoothly. I had started to get a little antsy about it from the time I saw it to the time he got out of the shower, but his very calm, non-defensive attitude brought me back to earth. I'm sure it's a similar situation for you, it's not like he was hiding it if it was in the bathroom. But also, leaving it in the sink? Bad, passive aggressive move. That kind of stuff gets you nowhere but 'feeling sick' and worrying.

[Dziubka]

Did you find only the empty wrapper?

I might be a pig, but I find those all the time in or around my bed, even weeks after my boyfriend left. Maybe it's an old one and he just recently found it while changing the sheets or something?