I feel sick, I found a used condom wrapper in his bathroom.

[Belle]

Definitely talk to him and tell him to explain. I know its hard not to panic and assume the worse, hell, I would... But thats because I know my SO doesn't masturbate with them and his friends don't come over to his place. Try to keep calm. Good luck and I hope that theres a simple explanation.

[kteire]

Did you find only the empty wrapper?

I might be a pig, but I find those all the time in or around my bed, even weeks after my boyfriend left. Maybe it's an old one and he just recently found it while changing the sheets or something?

Same here, sometimes they just escape my view! My old flatmate found a used wrapper under my bed when I moved out and she took my room...

But yeah, don't worry until you give him a chance to explain. Some guys use them to wank (a posh wank as friends of mine say!) and otherwise maybe it's just an old one hanging around!

[Brieasaurus]

Like pretty much everyone has said, don't assume! There could be tons of reasons, I know my SO tried on a lot of condoms before coming here to find out which one fit the best, his bed looked like a porno was shot there. If it's something that you don't want to hear, I wish you all the best. I know it's something you might not want to hear right now but I'd suggest getting tested- in the worst case scenario at least you won't have an STI to worry about.

[Sora1101]

I'd assume he used it for masturbation or maybe someone pranked him? I know a bunch of kids thinks it funny to fill condoms with shit and hang them from trees or throw them at houses. Honestly just ask him about it, you'll never know the truth until you bring it up

[Yellowsilver]

I never updated this thread so here it is...

After I left the bedroom and posted here, I started to calm down. I was still in shock of course but I decided to go back.
He asked again if I was ok and I said no. He asked if I was like this because of the condom wrapper and he said he uses condoms when he masturbates.

To be honest I was still a bit apprehensive about it but I was glad that he told me.
I was also amazed with myself because when it comes to this things I tend to react with my emotions, without thinking first.

Everything is back to normal with us, I came back from Portland a week ago and now I'm excited to see him again this Thanksgiving!
He's introducing me to his friends so I'm excited for that.

Thanks so much to everyone who replied to this and helped me with all the advice.
This is a great community indeed!

[Irina_Linn]

thats great news and i am really happy everything turned out this way! stay strong together and wish you two all the best

[MissButterfly]

I'm glad to hear everything is solved now!

[Romeo s Juliet]

glad to hear that its all resolved

[AABRCL05]

Happy to hear that things got resolved!! I have learned to never jump to conclusions when it comes to my SO!!