My SO needs help

[ioanna]

I'm really sorry you're both going through this.. Hoping this will be the start of something good, even if the road will be long *hugs*

[Zephii]

Send me his paypal? I can't do much right now, but surely I can come up with something.

[kteire]

I know this might be a long shot, but maybe some of his close friends could get in touch with their parents to see if he could stay with them? I know so many good people who would do that in a heart beat, but I wish they were somewhere that could be of any use. My grandparents did just that for a friend of my father's who was in pretty much the exact same situation.

I'm unfortunately in London, otherwise my SO and I would be happy to have him stay on our pull out couch. Would you mind sending me his paypal details? I don't have much but I'll see what I can send.

[Alle1770]

Unfortunately I'm in the wrong country and I don't know how to use PayPal or if it's even possible for me to do that, but I would help without hesitation if I was somewhere closer and could help out... I do have a friend who lives in England, I can check with her if she knows anyone around there that can help your SO out, and maybe do something at least.

[Shepard-Fowkes]

Update - Mixed News

A lot happened. Basically though, he's in a bit of a better position than he was on Sunday/Monday but it's all extremely precarious still.

Good news: He bought some clothes today so he at least has that.

Bad news: His friend's family demanded some money for his keep, which they did not mention at the beginning of the week that they'd be expecting. He had to give them 10 quid, which is nothing for them at all but a massive chunk of money for him :/. I wonder if they're still expecting he'll go back to his family.

Neither good nor bad news: He's calling his Council Housing Office now to try and figure out his housing. I don't know how soon he'll be able to get anything or when he will.

Bad news: All of his stuff is still with his family.

Probably bad news: His parents are pressuring him to meet up with his dad for dinner.

Good news: Happened as I'm writing this, he has an appointment with the Council Housing Office! It's looking really good he'll be able to get some help for that deposit and first months' rent.

Good news: He has an appointment to view a houseshare. It's a really lovely looking place, too. He'll have to call the Emergency Fund people after that to see if he'll be able to get financial help with that. If it falls through though, he's fucked, so that's not good :/.



Good news: I am a member of the LFAD community, one of the most generous and kind I have ever met. Thank you all, whether you provided links to legal help, helped him financially, or even just let us know you're behind us. Thank you, so much.

[hrp2007]

I hope it works out for him, good luck. (:

[digitalfever]

Great news although I would avoid meeting for dinner until all tempers have cooled down and I would not recommend going alone.

[squeeker]

Thanks for the update! I hope everything gets sorted out, and he can get housing sorted out so he has a place to live. And I hope he can put off the dinner with his dad until a better point, either that he can go with someone, or he knows it will be safe and okay for him to do so. And also I hope he can find a job soon to support himself better so he can do better for himself. Take care, and I'll keep praying and sending good thoughts your way.

[redapple]

Thanks for the update! Wishing him luck!

[Honour]

I remember replying to his previous post. God, I'm so sorry. I live in fear of this happening to my other half all the time. I would lend him a helping hand but I live in North Wales and I can't drive yet...
Really hope he finds somewhere, prayers with you both <3

[Shepard-Fowkes]

Update: He's going to be okay!

My SO got a job, he starts work tomorrow.

His mom stopped by and gave him a lot of his stuff back, including his computer. They also had a bit of a talk. It looks like he'll be able to have a (distant, of course) relationship with his family. Even if he never ends up letting his dad into his home ever again :P. His family is actually afraid of him never coming back to their house so they're a lot more...pliable than before, hehe.

His friend's family said that he can stay until Christmas! He has to pay them like 10 pounds a week, which is a fair bit for him but a lot cheaper than a flat. He's also been calling realtors left and right to find a place. He should be fine by his deadline though.

Thank you all so much for your support. It really meant a lot to both of us. It was a scary couple weeks (feels like much longer than that!), but he's going to be okay, and that's all that matters.

[snow_girl]

His friend's family said that he can stay until Christmas! He has to pay them like 10 pounds a week, which is a fair bit for him but a lot cheaper than a flat.

What kind of job did he get that £10/week is a fair amount? Minimum wage in the UK is £6/hr. Glad to hear he on the right track

[marbear31]

I'm so glad he's doing better! Been thinking of and praying for you guys.

[squeeker]

YAY! I'm so glad he's doing better!! I was wondering how he was doing lately.. This is such good news, definitely made me smile.. I'm sure those were the craziest most stressful two weeks of your lives.. I'm sure things will all go better now, as he gets this sorted out.. it's so good his family is coming around.. thanks for the update!

[ThePiedPiper]

What kind of job did he get that £10/week is a fair amount? Minimum wage in the UK is £6/hr. Glad to hear he on the right track

It's not his job that pays 10 a week. That's the rent he has to pay to his friend's family to continue staying there.

So glad to hear this!!