Some of you may remember about a month and a half ago I broke up with my SO because I caught him on a dating site, among other things I had found out about him. Just a little back history before I explain my current situation...
We met on a chat-avatar site called IMVU last year and started talking with the intent to meet up and become a couple in early March. Before we met in March, we were just in the talking phase, but I was having problems with him lying and not be honest with me about other people he had met/flirted around with online. We have a lot of problems, but he said if we got together he knew he would do better, we dated for a good couple of months until about July, where we had taken a couple of weekend trips and I though things were changing for the better. In July, I discovered he was back online with the same people from before cheating on me again, so I ended this and refused to speak to him. Long story short of him seeming sorry, I forgave him and we worked it out. We dated again and everything seemed well until I got back from one of my trips, he decided he wanted a "break" because he wasn't sure that a LDR was for him. I accused him of cheating because that's what always happened when we split up, so we took a break for about a week, and then he came back crying as usual saying he made a mistake and everything, and he agreed to enroll in some group counseling to try to figure out why he was cheating constantly. Flash forward to end of Sept and I was informed he had a account on okcupid looking for sex partners. I was hurt of course, because before it was always cyber flirting, this time he was willing to cheat in person with someone. I ended this with him for good, we did not talk for three weeks, until he decided to try to be friends. I have tried talking to him but I don't want to be with him anymore because he will never change. He texts me all day everyday, and it's so hard for me not to respond because I still love him despite everything and he says he does too, but can't be with me currently until he gets himself together. I know I can do better than a serial cheater, but I could really use some advice because all of this is tearing me apart. I will just add most of the time he blamed me for his cheating, the would take it back at the end of a fight. He is 26 mind you and lives one state over, his mother would not let him come to visit alone, but yet I went there alone and I am 23. She brought him each time, this was a fight because I told him to stop being a child and grow up. He thought it was "best" to listen to them. He also has a female friend he met on IMVU 5 years prior to me that he's never met in person, but he couldn't understand that sending her letters, texting her all day was wrong...someone please give me some solid advice to either get him out of my life or to get him to understand that he's just confusing my heart. :/
We met on a chat-avatar site called IMVU last year and started talking with the intent to meet up and become a couple in early March. Before we met in March, we were just in the talking phase, but I was having problems with him lying and not be honest with me about other people he had met/flirted around with online. We have a lot of problems, but he said if we got together he knew he would do better, we dated for a good couple of months until about July, where we had taken a couple of weekend trips and I though things were changing for the better. In July, I discovered he was back online with the same people from before cheating on me again, so I ended this and refused to speak to him. Long story short of him seeming sorry, I forgave him and we worked it out. We dated again and everything seemed well until I got back from one of my trips, he decided he wanted a "break" because he wasn't sure that a LDR was for him. I accused him of cheating because that's what always happened when we split up, so we took a break for about a week, and then he came back crying as usual saying he made a mistake and everything, and he agreed to enroll in some group counseling to try to figure out why he was cheating constantly. Flash forward to end of Sept and I was informed he had a account on okcupid looking for sex partners. I was hurt of course, because before it was always cyber flirting, this time he was willing to cheat in person with someone. I ended this with him for good, we did not talk for three weeks, until he decided to try to be friends. I have tried talking to him but I don't want to be with him anymore because he will never change. He texts me all day everyday, and it's so hard for me not to respond because I still love him despite everything and he says he does too, but can't be with me currently until he gets himself together. I know I can do better than a serial cheater, but I could really use some advice because all of this is tearing me apart. I will just add most of the time he blamed me for his cheating, the would take it back at the end of a fight. He is 26 mind you and lives one state over, his mother would not let him come to visit alone, but yet I went there alone and I am 23. She brought him each time, this was a fight because I told him to stop being a child and grow up. He thought it was "best" to listen to them. He also has a female friend he met on IMVU 5 years prior to me that he's never met in person, but he couldn't understand that sending her letters, texting her all day was wrong...someone please give me some solid advice to either get him out of my life or to get him to understand that he's just confusing my heart. :/
I'm trying to get to that point, it seems like I'm getting there slowly but surely, it's just difficult when you had good times together and that is all you can remember.
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