Background info...
My bf (28) and I (26) met randomly while he was playing football in my town. We (my 2-year-old son, bf, and I) have been living together and dating for as long as we've known each other (6 months), but now he needs to go back home and train for the upcoming NFL season. He is hoping to hit a few camps to at least make a practice squad. This will be his last year attempting it since he'll be 28 soon, so he has a lot of training and focus to put in and make it count. I live in Illinois and he's from Florida. I'm going home to meet his parents on 11/29-12-2, then coming back to my home, and then visiting again from 12/29-1/1/2013.
Additional info:
*He was afraid to commit to me, at first, because he had a terrible experience with a 6-year LDR that ended bc his gf cheated on him (This was 3 years ago and ever since he hasn't seriously dated, just has "casual" relationships). That was hard on him because he thought she was his soul mate and they were going to get married. They went all through college together but when she moved back to Germany, he was left in the US, and they only saw each other MAYBE every few months. He says he plays it safe normally, now, so he is taking a huge leap of faith by giving US this chance. ***A few great things he's said about me is that he wishes he'd met me when he met his first LDR girlfriend, that he vibes with me more than any other woman he's ever met, I'm "gorgeous and more than he could ever ask for. (I) fulfill all (his) needs", and that I'm a great mom and he knows I'd be a wonderful wife.*** Any additional advice on how to keep the magic alive, him feeling secure and happy is great appreciated! I already plan on baking/sending cookies regularly, for starters. Plus, to help the jealousy/fear of cheating, he is dealing with a single mom who never goes out unless it's to a movie or mall with a girlfriend. Hoping my wholesome lifestyle is seen as VERY non-threatening, verus his ex who was more "out there", in terms of doing her own things/life.
My questions:
1. Is visiting once a month pretty fair, considering ticket prices or even driving time (14 hours, each way)? *In conjuction with regular Skype/phone contact*
2. My bf has never experienced this type of LDR, where he was able to see his partner once a month. Does anyone have hope that this "frequency factor" along with the fact that we're older/more mature and experienced will also dramatically improve our relationship, compared to his failed one?
3. Best idea to save money on airfare?
My bf (28) and I (26) met randomly while he was playing football in my town. We (my 2-year-old son, bf, and I) have been living together and dating for as long as we've known each other (6 months), but now he needs to go back home and train for the upcoming NFL season. He is hoping to hit a few camps to at least make a practice squad. This will be his last year attempting it since he'll be 28 soon, so he has a lot of training and focus to put in and make it count. I live in Illinois and he's from Florida. I'm going home to meet his parents on 11/29-12-2, then coming back to my home, and then visiting again from 12/29-1/1/2013.
Additional info:
*He was afraid to commit to me, at first, because he had a terrible experience with a 6-year LDR that ended bc his gf cheated on him (This was 3 years ago and ever since he hasn't seriously dated, just has "casual" relationships). That was hard on him because he thought she was his soul mate and they were going to get married. They went all through college together but when she moved back to Germany, he was left in the US, and they only saw each other MAYBE every few months. He says he plays it safe normally, now, so he is taking a huge leap of faith by giving US this chance. ***A few great things he's said about me is that he wishes he'd met me when he met his first LDR girlfriend, that he vibes with me more than any other woman he's ever met, I'm "gorgeous and more than he could ever ask for. (I) fulfill all (his) needs", and that I'm a great mom and he knows I'd be a wonderful wife.*** Any additional advice on how to keep the magic alive, him feeling secure and happy is great appreciated! I already plan on baking/sending cookies regularly, for starters. Plus, to help the jealousy/fear of cheating, he is dealing with a single mom who never goes out unless it's to a movie or mall with a girlfriend. Hoping my wholesome lifestyle is seen as VERY non-threatening, verus his ex who was more "out there", in terms of doing her own things/life.
My questions:
1. Is visiting once a month pretty fair, considering ticket prices or even driving time (14 hours, each way)? *In conjuction with regular Skype/phone contact*
2. My bf has never experienced this type of LDR, where he was able to see his partner once a month. Does anyone have hope that this "frequency factor" along with the fact that we're older/more mature and experienced will also dramatically improve our relationship, compared to his failed one?
3. Best idea to save money on airfare?
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