Anyone else having a no-contact Christmas?

[radioandy]

There are a lot of posts on here lately about what couples are doing together, whether physically or virtually, during Christmas.

Is anyone else, through choice or otherwise, having a holiday with no contact whatsoever, or minimal contact?

For various reasons which I won't go into here, my partner and I are doing this. I haven't got anyone to spend the festive season with - so I'm spending my week off work alone, I'll probably go out and do a few walks in the country and things, as long as the weather is OK.

She's got a lot of family and friends, and so she's spending the holidays having family time, to which I'm not 'invited' virtually. It's very clear that this is time she wants to spend with her family, rather than online with me. I really don't want to interrupt or intrude on her family time, I don't feel particularly welcome to contact her, so I'm making myself scarce for the period.

I just wondered if anyone else is in a similar situation, where they're having a 'no contact' holiday period, and what people are doing to help themselves out during this time?

[AABRCL05]

I am not having a complete no-contact Christmas...but it will be very minimal because my boyfriend has to work a 12hr shift. I plan on spending my Christmas with my family.

[kayla_622]

I didn't spend Christmas with my last LDR. I didn't really have an issue with it because we were both spending time with family and then seeing each other a few weeks later. I can understand how it could be hard though. Many people want to be able to experience holidays with a loved one but some times its just not possible. Maybe you two can do something before or after that would make up for the missed time? I know that my SO plans on going back to Texas next year to see his mom for Christmas. If I'm invited that would be great. If not I understand since he wants to go and spend time with his mom and never gets to see her really. So, I know it means a lot to him. You are great if you are being understanding of her wanting to be with her family during this time. Just keep in mind that it is one holiday and you two will possibly be able to spend future ones together.

[Moon]

Us, probably. I've got my family obligations and he has his, nothing that can be done about it, really. We don't say we're having no contact, of course, but we've been together long enough to know how it goes, and the 7 hour time difference between us ensures we won't be home at the same time to talk. You sound a little, mmmmm, passively bitter about it maybe? Don't be, it sucks, but these are the things that make LDR's challenging. Obligations come up sometimes that can make holiday contact very difficult, but temporary, if you manage to close the distance eventually.

It can be really hard though, last year he was here for Christmas, and it was amazing, so this year I'll be feeling his absence that much more. I can't go to him for Christmas, my daughter would never forgive me (even though she's an adult), so it is what it is. Good luck, try to enjoy the holiday, and remember, we've almost all got family obligations we need to sort out during this time of year, and next year may be completely different.

[princessmeg1328]

My husband and I will probably have only minimal contact on Christmas this year. I'm going to be spending the whole day with my family, and he'll be in England by himself. Sometimes these are things that just happen. Like the others said if you manage to close the distance, you may not have to spend any other Christmases alone. Everything eventually works out for the best it seems.

[digitalfever]

Well..., he'll be in Birmingham for the next week and then off to Abu Dabi for Christmas until like the 6th.

Which doesn't really bother me
as he's going with a family member but I kind of wish I'd get to see him on NYE for a bit.

[jleec24]

I think my SO and I are having a no contact christmas this year. We aren't quite sure. She's vacationing to Germany for Christmas to visit her uncles so that she won't be alone. She's also meeting up with her best friend there. Whereas I, I have no idea what I'm doing this Christmas! Not yet, at least.

[ChibiFelicia]

not really a no contact christmas but im gonna be sad this year : ( My husband and I have managed to spend the last three christmases together and this one we just cant make a visit happen. He'll be spending it with his family and friends but he'll make time to talk to me even with the time difference. They all know he tries to be by a PC when im at home. For me on the other hand i've requested to work all through the holidays (more money!) dont have family around me and will prob just met up with friends. I just gotta keep busy so i dont sit at home all sad hehe.

We've promised that next year we'll make up for it : ) hopefully by that time my visa is done so i'll be making my move to the states : ))

[Black_Halloween]

Limited communication....sucks :/

[XxFranticLovexX]

I'm not sure if we will or not. The most contact we have (if any) will most likely be when we can run to a computer to message one another between being busy with other things or maybe a short phone call or something if we have the time or a chance to do so. So contact will be limited but I'm not sure if it will be non-existent or not.

[Softy]

I am because my bf doesn't celebrate xmas : (
We don't have the same religion.
I must admit it makes me sad a lil, I'll be spending xmas without the man i love T_T

[Verojoon]

I am because my bf doesn't celebrate xmas : (
We don't have the same religion.
I must admit it makes me sad a lil, I'll be spending xmas without the man i love T_T

Would he celebrate Christmas if he was with you? My BF's religion also doesn't celebrate Christmas but he's always super excited to have a reason to celebrate it with me.

We will be spending Christmas together this year, but I'm already worried about next year (ridiculous, I know) because I already know I won't be able to go to him next year... I'm sure we will have contact though.. it's the nice thing about him not celebrating Christmas (without me) he has no other obligations during that time of year)

[Dezface]

Not no contact but it will be minimal. On my Christmas Eve, which is Christmas day for him, we'll both be with our families. On my Christmas day I'll be working and it's Boxing Day for him so he'll be with his family once more. And on that day they go up into the hills to his mom's vacation house where there's no reception. So I really won't talk to him much that day at all :/

[TwoThree]

He will probably be very busy helping his parents with the preparations, and then spending some quality time with them, so I don't think we'll be as much in touch as usual (we don't celebrate Christmas here). But I'm sure he'll make time for a couple of texts or emails. But I'll be sure to leave him alone and not put any pressure on him because I know how much he loves Christmas. And hopefully I'll be there next time to celebrate it with him.

[snow]

We haven't really talked about it yet, but I'm pretty sure we'll have minimum contact.
I will be very busy helping my mom cook and decorate everything (which takes up to a week.. big polish christmas) and he'll be busy with his family. I will call his family to wish them a merry christmas and they will let me talk to him for a bit, but I don't think we'll have much time to spend together.
We always say that it's the last christmas we won't be spending together so we have to make the best out of it - next year is going to be my very first american christmas and I try to think of that, when I get sad that we can't be together this year!