I like him alot, but I can't make out his signs? PLEASE READ AND COMMENT ASAP

[RomanticAtHeart]

Hey Guys!
First off - - I used to be in a LDR - which ended about 10 months ago now and I am moving on happy (last relationship lasted 3 years and it was my first relationship, my boyfriend at the time didn't want to continue the LDR so we split lol) but i am much happier now.

I know this is kinda werid to post here because i am starting to date a guy who lives near me lol we are not in a LD so...this is just a general question really.
To any that would like to answer thanks!

Okie here I go;
I met a guy from work (hes 23 and I am 22).
Since October I liked him a lot (hes so funny, and to me attractive inside and outside ) when we first met I instantly liked him. After a while of off chances seeing each other at work we met up outside of work (i asked him )

We met up and he was so pleased and happy to meet me, we enjoyed our meeting (coffee and stroll along the river). After that - every 2 weeks we would plan meeting up (i would ask him then he would ask me).

Then one night we both confessed we both LIKE each other alot. He confessed he liked me when we first met and so did I

Now, over christmas (he isnt a christmas sort of person) i realised he was abit down (like i say he says he and christmas dont get on - that it wasnt like it used to be as a kid with all the magic - and me being a very positive person respects that) so i tried my best to make him smile and he smiled back

Getting back to my point - he texted me on the off chance before christmas (every couple of days - and would wait maybe an hour to answer back).
Recently, I texted him to say hi and he didnt text back.
So i waited 5 days and didnt hear back from him, so i thought i would text him and say hows things he texted saying he was good - but just not looking forward to xmas lol
Christmas came, and i texted him boxing day - he didnt text back.

Saw him at work today - he smiled and said hey but he seems a little distant - i think its with christmas - so i gave him a hug and it seemed to cheer him up.

I texted him later tonight saying it was good to see him and that i missed him (as in the past we used to text that we missed each other and he would say he missed me too.)

Now...I just dont know if he is just sad about christmas, or if he is ignoring me. Though, it is not likely he would do that - as he clearly as told me he likes me alot, we have kissed couple times now as we have been on about 4 dates/outings.

Is personality is quite shy - a romantic at heart like me and has confessed hes shy at making the first move. So i dont know if he isnt texting me back because he wants me to chase him or...i dont know if i am to wait until he chases me (which is what i tried to do when i waited 5 days before texting him)..

I REALLY like him alot - and hope that in the next outings i get confident and find the right moment to ask him out - if we get back on track.

Do you think he likes me? And if so, do you think i should hold back on texting / waiting until he texts however long it may be? But i am afraid if i hold out too long he will think i have no longer interest in him lol...i just dont wanna seem..clingy? lol

Thanks for reading this xD i do appreciate your comments thank you!

By RomanticAtHeart~ <3

[RomanticAtHeart]

I forgot to add - hes not had a girlfriend before

One night, we were at his house and talked freely about what we want in life. We both agreed saying we both want that special someone.
Also, on our first date, i said i was single and he said he wanted to change that lol as in..you know lol
I asked him freely that night when he said he hasnt had a girlfriend before, and he said he was always too shy at asking a girl he liked out in the past, and wasnt upfront so never got anywhere. Maybe thats why he isnt making the moves? I am not sure lol I just dont wanna seem too pushy xD but i dont want to leave it there.
I really like him, and I think about him all the time.
He will be leaving my workplace in a few weeks (as he has got another job somewhere else). Just want to make the most of the time seeing him at work and talking to him at work as much as i can really. Though we dont sit near each other so we dont rly get to see each other at work anyways. lol
Anyways thanks!

[Mellow]

If there is one known thing about guys is that they SUCK at texting back, even if they liked you. My SO actually admitted he is just horrible at texting back. Don't go sending him an awful lot of text messages if he doesn't reply. You don't want to come across as a stalker, don't you?
His shyness might be a factor. He probably doesn't really know what to do right now, so he doesn't do anything.
My boyfriend is a really shy and inexperienced person in the love area too, so in the end, I was the one that had to make all the first moves. It's ok, the women is an independant being! 21st century
So I say; You make the first move! And see where it goes from there on. Maybe it works out, maybe not, who knows (=
Good luck!

[MattDavies86]

If there is one known thing about guys is that they SUCK at texting back, even if they liked you.

Incorrect! I always text back the same minute, every time, regardless if I'm in work, driving, or sleeping


As for the original post it seems you both like each other but a little shy, you've been patient I think if you just wait it out a little longer it'll be ok, let Christmas pass and see if it's the same then or if he cheers up and comes out of his shell!

[digitalfever]

Incorrect! I always text back the same minute, every time, regardless if I'm in work, driving, or sleeping


As for the original post it seems you both like each other but a little shy, you've been patient I think if you just wait it out a little longer it'll be ok, let Christmas pass and see if it's the same then or if he cheers up and comes out of his shell!

I would say your the exception and not the rule.

I think you should make a move and invite him out.

[RomanticAtHeart]

[QUOTE=Mellow;258038 So I say; You make the first move! And see where it goes from there on. Maybe it works out, maybe not, who knows (=
Good luck![/QUOTE]

Aw thank you!! I appreciate your positiveness so much - makes me feel like anything is possible and that this will work out
My heart is beating so much for him...right now I think I shall stop with the texts until he texts me, if not, then I maybe call him in a week or so to see if hes up for meeting up again? lol
Thank you!
RomanticAtHeart <3~

[Tooki]

I would say your the exception and not the rule.

I think you should make a move and invite him out.

Lies! I'm the same as Matt. I would say that the likelihood of a male replying to a text comes down to his interest in the girl (as is the same for girls really, I know some who are dreadful with replying to texts).

On topic, just consider that your man is probably busy at this time of year. Feel free to ask him out, if you wish.

[RomanticAtHeart]

Incorrect! I always text back the same minute, every time, regardless if I'm in work, driving, or sleeping
As for the original post it seems you both like each other but a little shy, you've been patient I think if you just wait it out a little longer it'll be ok, let Christmas pass and see if it's the same then or if he cheers up and comes out of his shell!

Aww thanks Matt I very much appreciate your reply and I get exactly what you mean lol
It is nice btw for a guy as yourself to reply to text msgs the moment you get it Keep doing that!
I think I will leave him be for a little while, as I did only just text him lastnight and he did not reply back - so i shall leave it a while and see how things go in the new year - but who knows...^^ thank u!

[RomanticAtHeart]

I would say your the exception and not the rule.

I think you should make a move and invite him out.

Aw thank you very much! i like "your the exception and not the rule" - i think we have watched "He's just not that into you'" so many times ;D Love the film!
Anyways thank you!!

[RomanticAtHeart]

Aghhh I can't get him out of my head ! XD lol...never felt this way before since my ex....
<3

Any comments / other advice / thoughts are very much appreciated!!!
RomanticAtHeart~

[XxFranticLovexX]

If he's the shy type then I think you should just gather your courage and go for it! You make the move to initiate a relationship with him. I know that you're probably extremely nervous to do so, but once you do you'll know where he stands and what he wants.

I'm the one that admitted things first in my relationship (which he then told me his side when I told him) and I'm the one that asked for an actual relationship with him (to which he said that he pretty much viewed us as having one already and agreed to that as well). My point is, it took me bringing it up for it to become official because he's not really the type to make the first move unless he runs out of patience and finally decides to, but that could take far longer than it would have if I had just brought it up myself.

You can do it, good luck!

[RomanticAtHeart]

If he's the shy type then I think you should just gather your courage and go for it! You make the move to initiate a relationship with him. I know that you're probably extremely nervous to do so, but once you do you'll know where he stands and what he wants.

I'm the one that admitted things first in my relationship (which he then told me his side when I told him) and I'm the one that asked for an actual relationship with him (to which he said that he pretty much viewed us as having one already and agreed to that as well). My point is, it took me bringing it up for it to become official because he's not really the type to make the first move unless he runs out of patience and finally decides to, but that could take far longer than it would have if I had just brought it up myself.

You can do it, good luck!

wow! thank you sooooo much for your reply!! love it so much...
aww bless you and your loved one. I think he is really shy, and I do need to make the first move, its just when xD
i am going to keep u posted what happens, i think i will leave a couple days to allow my last text to have some breathing space lol then maybe ring him and ask if he wants to meet up outside work in the new year, then see what happens

RomanticAtHeart~ <3

[RomanticAtHeart]

Do you guys think I should wait a bit until the new year before texting/calling him to meet up since he is feeling abit down about christmas? lol

[RomanticAtHeart]

Just an update xD

So today we were both at work (New Years Eve) and I only got to see him when we both finished lol
I planned on going up to him and saying hi which i did and he smiled and asked how i was etc. I replied and we walked out together and another colleague walked alongside (male colleague) lol
I have done it before where i have asked my one that i like if he wanted a lift to the bus stop (i drive he gets the bus - lives an 1 hour and half away from work)
and so I had to ask them both as I could not leave our other friend/colleague xD

So I drove them BOTH to the bus stop and dropped them off. In the past, when it was just the one i liked we would share a kiss before he left my car, but we didnt as we had our other friend (i wanted too but was too shy - and too late xD)
As i dropped them off, I did a U-turn and saw my one that i like look behind to see me and waved which i waved back

Now since its new years day tomorrow - i am thinking of ringing him wishing him a new year and maybe ask if he wants to meet up soon in the new year.
So nervous in doing it XD!
His signs sometimes tells me yes he likes me - but when he hasnt been replying to my texts (in my original post) and ignoring me a little at work - i could not help feel as though he lost interest. Unless thats his way of saying come chase me.

I shall remind you. He is VERY shy - and doesn't make the first moves lol

Your comments/advice much appreciated!!

RomanticAtHeart <3~

[RomanticAtHeart]

Another Update***

So...I plucked up the courage to phone him to tell him Happy New Year this evening...and he didn't pick up XDD DOH!!!
So i left a short sweet cheery message on his voicemail so he SHOULD get it and listen to it...
Be kinda awkward if he didn't message/phone me back :/

All i said was "hey [his name], its [my name]! Just wanted to surprise you and wish you a happy new year! Hope it will be a good one, though I'm sure it will be *giggles*. Just thought we could have a little banter and meet up sometime soon. Anyhow hope when you hear this message it makes you smile, hope to hear from you soon, bye!"

Gah!! I'm so red and my hearts pounding lol...Lets hope for the best!!

RomanticAtHeart~ <3