Is it over?

[ClosingTheGap]

She left you waiting an entire month and only replied when you had her backed into a corner..for all you knew something had happened to her...she clearly has no regard for your feelings or you. You'd be best off cutting ties and finding someone who gives a crap. Sorry to be blunt!

[Julz]

Wtf is what's going through my mind right now.

Rather than being freaked out, she should be flattered and thrilled that you care enough to send her a gift!

What's going to happen when something major happens? Is she going to disappear for 6 months then?

I'm sorry, but she has no regard for your feelings at all. What she did was cruel. You deserve better than that!
Nobody can tell you what you should do and I wish you the very best of luck, but if my fiancé pulled that crap with me, he would no longer be my fiancé.

You're gf needs to learn how to communicate, and she needs to grow up.

Good luck!!

[Kiyama]

I have to agree with the others here. You should definitely talk with her but honestly it would be over for me if it happened to me. You deserve much better than that!

[Fltricia]

I agree with the others.... even if she is just a bad communicator that is an extremely long time for her to be like that. You deserve better.

[lademoiselle]

I'm glad she replied at last so you could stop fretting, but do try not to let your relief at that cloud your judgement of the situation. Refusing to speak to you for an entire month over something so trivial in the scheme of things is very, very poor behaviour on your SO's part, and as the previous posters have said, you deserve to be treated much better than that. I'd have that talk with her at the weekend anyway, but if she's decided she doesn't want to be with you any longer I don't believe it would be a bad thing for you. I'm sorry... I hope it all works out for the best.

[DK007]

Well, Ive thought about it quite a bit, and Ive gone as far as I can go. At this point I dont expect her to want to have to answer for why she disappeared for a month over something Very Trivial. Ive said worse before, and she let me know when I did. So at this point, Im done! IF we talk at all, which quite honestly I would be shocked if we did, its going to be all on her, as in, IF she wants this to continue, shes going to have to do the work and show me that this is what she wants, that is the only chance there is, I dont expect it to happen that way though. We had our good times, but the majority of the time she was running away from me, and any time I got close, she would push me away again, which is what I think this last month was all about. IF she wants this, she has A SINGLE chance to make it right, otherwise I'm Outty!

I DO Really Appreciate ALL of your Opinions, and the fact that you were candid enough to tell me the truth, something that I already knew deep inside, I just wasnt ready to believe it until a good majority of you said the same thing. So Thank You All!

[iHeartt]

Sorry you're going through all this but you're on the right path now. You deserve someone who is considerate of your feelings and communicates better. Good luck to you!

[Black_Halloween]

I wouldn't even give her that once chance, its more than she deserves.

[Romeo s Juliet]

Honestly, she freaking over something so trivial is super crazy. if my SO was sending me something for the first time, even without having met me i would be super excited. i think she is just ignoring you. the reason she gave was such a crap excuse.

[DK007]

Well we talked today. Im still trying to process it all, I went in expecting it to be over, but I guess I wasnt prepared to hear what she had to say. Basically were taking a step back, she needs some space, so were taking a break while she figures this out. She said she doesnt want to write me off for good and she still wants to talk to me. There was more, but its still too raw right now. I need to make some sense of this as well. Ill update the rest when I can......

[Chris516]

Well we talked today. Im still trying to process it all, I went in expecting it to be over, but I guess I wasnt prepared to hear what she had to say. Basically were taking a step back, she needs some space, so were taking a break while she figures this out. She said she doesnt want to write me off for good and she still wants to talk to me. There was more, but its still too raw right now. I need to make some sense of this as well. Ill update the rest when I can......

That is good news. I would be surprised, if you hadn't felt raw after a month of no communication.

[dglynn77]

Well we talked today. Im still trying to process it all, I went in expecting it to be over, but I guess I wasnt prepared to hear what she had to say. Basically were taking a step back, she needs some space, so were taking a break while she figures this out. She said she doesnt want to write me off for good and she still wants to talk to me. There was more, but its still too raw right now. I need to make some sense of this as well. Ill update the rest when I can......

^^If she does not treat you well, and feels it is ok to ignore you for that long and then put you on a break, I'd say don't wait around for her to look at all her options and see how you compare to what else she can get... You want someone who loves you and respects you and your feelings too much to play stupid games...
I've been in a situation very similar to the one you are in now, and it does nothing for you except ruin your self-esteem, make you feel unwanted and not good enough, and you can try to deceive yourself into thinking this is best for the both of you. You might even believe it until you find yourself alone and more heartbroken than before.
Best of luck! I hope you can do what is best for you!

[Carenza LaRue]

she needs more space?

MORE SPACE?

good grief..... how many space can one have whilst being in an LDR?

you're her puppet on a string my friend..... she will find you whenever SHE fancies and doesn't care about your feelings at all.
DING DONG.... reality call... you're not her number one or else she would have acted different.

hate to say it..... but you're setting yourself up to get hurt BIG TIME.
and is it worth?

nah.... but you know the answer already don't you?

wishing you lots of wisdom and a clear view....
hope you will find REAl LOVE after this.

[Black_Halloween]

I feel like you're just ignoring the issue here and you're making excuses for her. MORE space? She had an entire month! Like what LaRue said, this chick has got you wrapped around her little finger.

[Irina_Linn]

I feel like you're just ignoring the issue here and you're making excuses for her. MORE space? She had an entire month! Like what LaRue said, this chick has got you wrapped around her little finger.

this! totally
sorry to say but seems like she is keeping you as Plan B in case she will get bored.then there will always be an option as "heeey i still have that guy on my list".you dont deserve to be treated this way