i know i've asked before but, how do you shoe someone you love them?

[redvelvet777]

I'm really at my wit's end. I need to DO something to show this guy that I care about him. And I do. More than anything. I just don't know how to convey that to him. Any ideas? Please? =-(

[LadyMarchHare]

I actually thought I had this problem in the beginning but my SO told me he could tell what I was trying to say even if I wasn't directly saying it.

That aside there are plenty ways to show you care without just saying it. Send him gifts or cards/e-cards randomly, if you can then maybe text him something random here and there throughout the day. If the guy enjoys doing something you don't know how to do, for example chess, learn how to if you're willing and play a game over the internet and if he asks when you learned tell him you did it just for him. Maybe record yourself singing a love song, make a video for him, write a story or anything else if you're creative. It's mainly a matter of what you can do, budget or otherwise, that he'll receive and know what you're expressing.

[dynomitegurl]

I totally agree with Lady! Have you told him ' I love you' already? In addition, you could write a letter telling him how you feel. If you have already said I love write a list sort of letter saying all the thing you love about him or if you have already met do the same thing but saying what you miss about him/being around him. Hope that helps! and WELCOME to LFAD x

[redvelvet777]

Thanks for the suggestion guys. I mean, I have told him I loved him but the thing is, I fucked up. And I have to find some way to make it up to him. I've done somethings but they didn't really work out too well. I put an ad out on craigslist for him, and wrote up a list of 50+ reasons why I love him, and I took special pictures for him, and I tried to put a personal request out to his favorite radio station (didn't pan out). I just sent him an ecard literally two seconds ago (thanks Lady ;-p), but I'm not sure that's what he's really looking for. I feel TERRIBLE. Words can't even describe.

[LadyMarchHare]

So you guys had an argument, am I reading that right?

As for what he's looking for, that kinda doesn't matter because you can't expect someone to express themselves in the exact way you want them to and sometimes they can't express themselves in the way THEY want to because of certain things. Like me, I still sound very sarcastic when I say "I love you" even though I practice but I do enough outside the words to prove I'm not screwing around, plus my SO tells me I turn pink when I say it no matter what so he knows I'm sincere. Point being you go with what you're comfortable with or if you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally take time to hand write a letter and send it so that it's not only in your handwriting, but he can see where you scribbled out things or whatever you may do. But if you're apologizing, I'd gear it towards saying you were wrong (even if you don't think you are, sometimes you have to be the one that gives in) and say why and that you regret it, etc.