The "One"

[azarashi]

Do you think it's possible to know your SO is the one before having met in person? I'm interested in hearing thoughts about this.

[Black_Halloween]

The night that I met Daniel I knew that there was something special about him. As the week went by I just knew I met the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with...and this was before I even saw a photograph! It was like our souls connected

[Disneychick13]

I have the same thought going through my head as well

[kittyo9]

I don't really think you can know -for sure- until you've met in person, but I think you can certainly have inklings.

[HAJ2011]

I spent a Lot of time with my SO before I ever saw his picture or him so I think you can get to know people very well. Maybe better than being face to face because as long as their an honest person with you and themselves you don't have to worry about judging or being judged based on looks. I've never gotten to spend a day with my SO as of yet but we can finish each others sentences and he knows when I am upset by one word.

[Sora1101]

I don't think there is a way to know they are the "one" until you meet in person. You can love them without having met them but being the "one" is a lot stronger and if you don't know their annoying habits, their mannerisms, the way they are around you, the physical chemistry, all the things you figure out when you meet, then there is no way of knowing if they're the "one".

There have been a couple people who have been on this site that were in love with their SO but when they finally met in person they didn't mesh at all and they broke up.

[Zephii]

I don't think there's such a thing as "the one". It's a concept used to sell cards and perfume
That aside, I think you can tell if the relationship has potential or not and you can tell if that person is special or not... but until you meet in person I think it's hard not to second guess your feelings and experiences.

[Moon]

I don't think there's such a thing as "the one". It's a concept used to sell cards and perfume
That aside, I think you can tell if the relationship has potential or not and you can tell if that person is special or not... but until you meet in person I think it's hard not to second guess your feelings and experiences.

Totally agree with this. Until you meet and spend some time in the same place, you can't know for sure, there are just too many things that are different in person.

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

Meeting someone and knowing someone online are massively different experiences. When you're online, you tend to fill in the blanks you don't know - from the way they laugh, to whether they like to hold hands, to how regularly they clean their bathroom - with what you want them to be like. And meeting them in person, you find out all those little things that make up someone's everyday life. I think the feelings you have before you meet and the feelings you have after you meet transition into something new. I can honestly say from my experience that although I knew him well online, I know him better in person. If you believe in 'the one', I think you should wait till you meet to solidify that in your own mind.

[Malaga]

I don't really believe in the concept of "The One" or soulmate or something like that. I do believe you can find what you're looking for in one person and never feel like you should look elsewhere. But even perfectly compatible people have to grow into that stage. My SO might be The One for me now but had we met five years ago, it could have easily been a different story. And I'm aware this also might change in the future.

That said, we met online and even though we were aware of the feelings we had for each other and effectively acted like a couple, we didn't consider it to be a relationship until our meeting in person confirmed it. I'm the first to say there is a special kind of connection between people who first meet online. But until you confirm it in person, there is always an important part of that connection missing.

[kteire]

I don't think there's such a thing as "the one". It's a concept used to sell cards and perfume
That aside, I think you can tell if the relationship has potential or not and you can tell if that person is special or not... but until you meet in person I think it's hard not to second guess your feelings and experiences.

This!

I don't believe in "the one" either. I've always thought that concept to be a bit depressing

I personally don't think I could have a firm idea of someone before meeting them in person, but I also find I have a hard time getting to know anyone over the internet. There's so much in physically seeing someone, getting to know their mannerisms, quirks and body language that I always found difficult to assess when my SO and I were LD.

[Captivated]

We meshed a lot better when we finally met than we did when we were just chatting online. I always felt he was a kind soul but didn't feel the "spark" until a couple of days after we were together...not even the first moment I saw him! Now we're married and fabulous. Guess it's different for everyone.

ETA: Although I should clarify that he was actually the one who thought I was "the one" from the first moment we chatted online. Which I thought was creepy lol But hey...guess he was right.

[bethyylovee]

From my own personal experience, I would have to say YES it is possible! I've been talking to Stephen for 3 1/2 years, and we just met last week. We talk CONSTANTLY. When we're at home we're on Skype, when we go to bed we leave Skype on and talk on the phone, when we're away we're texting. We knew every annoying habit that the other one had, and every mannerism before we met. And when we did meet in person, people around us could probably see the sparks flying. It was a chemistry SO strong that I could feel it in the pit of my stomach. It was amazing.

Now, that being said...I know that doesn't happen with everyone. You need to be really careful and know EXACTLY what you're getting into before you decide that this person is "The One." And I completely believe in the concept of soul mates. That's just us though.

[ttfit2]

I believe in "The One" and soulmates. When I hear those terms, to me, it means someone you know is the "the one" for you. That there is no one else you want, desire or can even imagine being with. Soulmate, you and the other person are connected in a very special way with only each other. I met my SO Dec 2012, but we haven't met yet. We clicked so fast and had so much in common. I wasn't looking for a LRD, but the connection I felt with him was so intense. Better than when I would go on dates with local guys and I could look into the local guys face and watch their mannerisms.

Timing is everything. I know we need to meet, spend time with each other. I don't doubt the chemistry will be there when we do meet.

[kelbug73029]

I definitely think it's possible. I think that having "the one" is more about personalities meshing, and being in an online relationship allows you to get to know the person and their personality without the physical distractions.