Feeling like our conversations are a bit stale lately

[kayla_622]

Everything is great between my SO and I but lately I feel like our conversations are always the same. He's been pretty much sick for the past 2 months (dealing with ezcema related stuff) so, I feel like we always talk about that and I'm always saying things like "i hope you feel better" and then we always talk about work and how our days went but, other than that we don't really talk about anything else.

It might just be me. I have always had issues with conversing with people and being able to start conversations easily and then I start to overthink things when we either have long pauses without much conversation or its just the same old stuff when we talk.

What are some things that we could do to make conversations more interesting or at the very least get us out of this rut of only talking about our day/work and his illness?

[kacie]

What about talking about silly little things, like what cheese is better? or did you ever believe the moon was made of cheese? And sticking with the cheese theme can he make a cheesecake? Do you say cheese when taking photos? A whole conversation based on cheese or other stuff!

[Oldblighty]

I think it's only natural from time to time for the conversations to become stagnant. I know it happens on a regular basis with me and hubby. He works full time and I don't, so I rarely have anything interesting to discuss. What we tend to do when the conversation becomes non existent is listen to music together, search the internet for items we will need once we get a home together, play games etc. I'm sure you will see that many members on here struggle from time to time, don't see it as a problem though, just seek things that will add to your conversation.

[summerkid]

What about talking about silly little things, like what cheese is better? or did you ever believe the moon was made of cheese? And sticking with the cheese theme can he make a cheesecake? Do you say cheese when taking photos? A whole conversation based on cheese or other stuff!

Sorry.. I can't help not to make a bad joke : Wouldn't that ^ be a bit cheesy? :P
Play a game online... ask him random questions, things you want to know or just silly things....movies..books... holidays... things he remembers or marked him as a kid... there are so many things.. Just don't put too much pressure on yourself. This is not you performing, it's spending time with your SO and the pauses can be okay. I for one am looking forward to being with my SO in silence.. without saying anything.. just .. being together.

[oxytocinbite]

You can literally talk about anything, talk about ghosts, your childhood, ask eachother would you rather questions? those can be fun. I am pretty good at keeping a conversation going, the key is to be random and say whatever comes to your mind...even if it is really weird. I even talk about the sickest things...but maybe that's just me xD.

[Kristin91]

Every relationship goes through this, where it just feels like you already know so much about each other why bother asking anything? What helped me and my SO was googling random questions to ask your SO and picking one and seeing where the conversation goes. A lot of times these questions would spark a 1-2 hour skype conversation!

[kikidee]

Talk about things that made you who you are. Don't worry, we all bump into this. I just recently asked a question like yours and now we are back to normal. It kinda is an up and down thing, it happens, but then later you suddenly have stuff to talk about (maybe new things going on in your life, or changes you made for the future). Good luck!

[Alsfia]

Sometimes it's just nice to sit in silence and just be. Silence is not an enemy, to put it in another way :P
There's been a lot of good tips here already, so I don't have that much to add. What you could do though is to, as detailed as possible, describe a random item, your day or someone passing by outside :P It's really fun and certainly a challenge that will help you learn to keep a conversation going, since it's hard to keep going without getting any questions

[juggiekins]

I seem to always have something to randomly say and I find reading the news and trivia seem to help provide variety of my interest in things. This helps when I interact with most people, but not so much with my love interest, but she's weird like that (she is actually the type to provide just daily input and doesn't always have as varied of topics so I adjust).

[Inspirement]

Silence is not an enemy

The Doctor begs to differ...(Sorry, I had to xD)

[kayla_622]

I've thought about reading more and educating myself more when it comes to politics because my SO is really into that stuff but, it bores me to death. lol. I like the idea about just asking random questions and seeing where the conversation goes from there and reading more of the news and stuff could help spark more intellectual conversations. Thanks everyone for your input.

[Moon]

Our conversations get a little boring sometimes, it happens When that happens, or I feel we've talked way too much about work, or he's made me watch one to many rally car videos that I couldn't care less about, I threaten to pull out "the dreaded questions". They aren't really dreaded, I just like to tease him, but I found a site that has interesting things to ask each other. If you want to try them, they're here.

[Alsfia]

The Doctor begs to differ...(Sorry, I had to xD)

Your point is heard (and youre forgiven xP)

[kayla_622]

Our conversations get a little boring sometimes, it happens When that happens, or I feel we've talked way too much about work, or he's made me watch one to many rally car videos that I couldn't care less about, I threaten to pull out "the dreaded questions". They aren't really dreaded, I just like to tease him, but I found a site that has interesting things to ask each other. If you want to try them, they're here.

I like this list of questions. I think I will actually start using them when I feel like things are getting stale.