Jealousy...

[bethyylovee]

No not that kind of jealousy...I'm jealous of other couples. I see so many couples around me and it always hurts so bad. Especially ones I see cheating on each other or fighting constantly...and they get to see each other every day. It just seems so unfair...

[80anthea]

I struggle with this too. The other day I was sat on a bus behind a couple, an American man and English woman who looked so happy. I wanted to be really happy for them and wondered if they'd done the ldr thing too but regrettably the biggest part of me was just so damn jealous of them!!!!!

[Amelia]

I see and struggle with this all the time. Plus I complain to my bf about it. It drives me crazy that people don't take advantage of the time spent with their bfs or gf. One of my friends is actually complaining about spending all this time with their bf she wishes she could have alone time. I think ive given up on telling her how lucky she is that her bf doesn't live in a different state. But then im like I know my bf better than anyone else, and we value and cherish every single minute we spend together

[milaya]

I don't really see a reason to be jealous - especially towards couples who spends all their time fighting and cheating on each other.
Maybe you feel that they should "enjoy" their time more together, because to people in a LDR time together is the most precious thing - but that's just something most close distance couples can't relate to and doesn't have to.
Why be jealous of the dysfunctional relationships around you? Because they're lucky to see each other all the time? Apparently that doesn't seem to help them
Mostly I find no jealousy towards both neither the happy couples nor the unhappy couples around me.
My relationship is my relationship. All relationships are unique and I feel happy, content and very happy in my relationship and wouldn't trade it for any other relationship, even with the close distance relationships around me - therefore I feel no jealousy. I just feel happy for the happy couples and feel sad for the unhappy couples.

[mllebamako]

I don't really see a reason to be jealous - especially towards couples who spends all their time fighting and cheating on each other.
Maybe you feel that they should "enjoy" their time more together, because to people in a LDR time together is the most precious thing - but that's just something most close distance couples can't relate to and doesn't have to.
Why be jealous of the dysfunctional relationships around you? Because they're lucky to see each other all the time? Apparently that doesn't seem to help them
Mostly I find no jealousy towards both neither the happy couples nor the unhappy couples around me.
My relationship is my relationship. All relationships are unique and I feel happy, content and very happy in my relationship and wouldn't trade it for any other relationship, even with the close distance relationships around me - therefore I feel no jealousy. I just feel happy for the happy couples and feel sad for the unhappy couples.

Quoted for truth.

Every few weeks, this topic comes up and, while I understand it, I didn't feel it personally when we were LD. In life, there will always be someone who seems like they have it better than you. Maybe they do, maybe they don't but it doesn't matter because it's not you. You might see happy couples kissing and think, oh lucky they don't have to struggle with the distance. But who knows what struggles they have- there are a million different things that could be going on in their lives.

Your time will come when you'll be close distance, but trust me when I say, you will then have another battle to fight.

[Tooki]

I don't get jealous of the vast majority of CD couples that I see. The only ones that make me (very slightly) jealous are ones who used to be LD or are visiting one another (while I cannot).

But as mllebamako said, closing the distance doesn't solve everything.

[Rugger]

But as mllebamako said, closing the distance doesn't solve everything.

Fact. CD has a whole different set of problems. It doesn't magically get fixed once you move to each other.

I used to be jealous. I found that jealousy does nothing expect make you miserable. It doesn't solve a goddamn thing. So I worked on stopping being jealous and I'm a happier person for is.

[Tooki]

Fact. CD has a whole different set of problems. It doesn't magically get fixed once you move to each other.

I used to be jealous. I found that jealousy does nothing expect make you miserable. It doesn't solve a goddamn thing. So I worked on stopping being jealous and I'm a happier person for is.

This too

[Zephii]

I don't get the jealousy thing. In fact a lot of the time it just right pisses me off lol. You never know what those random people are going through. Maybe they have done their time LD and they have earned that happiness you resent them for. Or maybe they are about to go LD. Maybe they've always been NP, but are facing other challenges - maybe harder challenges. We just never know.

What I do know though is that being selflessly happy for others enriches your life whilst indulging in negativity does not.

[summerkid]

I'm with some of the other posters in that jealousy is counter productive and it really doesn't matter how happy or unhappy other couples are. What matters is how you feel in your relationship. Just as LD has its difficulties, so does CD. And being smothered by a person isn't fun. I can completely empathize with those complaining they need their personal space. That is as much an issue as having your SO far away and not being able to be intimate with them.

Things may always seem different from the outside and the guys you see and you think they look so happy could be in the most unhealthy, destructive relationship ever. Just saying.. appearances are deceiving. I think it's more productive to focus on your relationship rather than on others.

[Malaga]

Happy couples actually give me hope, I love seeing them especially when I'm heartbroken. I know it's weird, especially for me as I'm normally quite selfish, but seeing people in love reminds me there's going to be love for me too one day.

I do get a bit jealous of people for whom everything is laid out so nicely. There's a girl I know, she's from Sweden, met her boyfriend on a chat, he's from England. Her parents are rich so she got them to pay for her studies in England. They were long distance for about 3 months before she moved to his city to study (with two week-long visits during that time), and eventually they moved in together and now are engaged. And because they're both from EU, visas etc were never a problem, nor was money.

It's great that everything worked out so great for them, I wouldn't want them to have a hard time. But it's hard not to be jealous of just how easily she can get whatever she wants. When you're born in the right country and into money. And even that wouldn't be an issue if she weren't so convinced she's had it just as bad as the rest of us, and has to rub it in.

[Black_Halloween]

I don't really get jealous of other couples. I'm happy that they're happy! Plus, we chose to be LDR so I can't fault anyone for it. Its just how it has to be :P

[TwoThree]

I don't get jealous either. However sometimes my younger sister would whine about not being able to see her boyfriend for a day or two and it kinda pisses me off because I see mine twice a year, so I tend to snap at her at those times.

Other than that, honestly, I don't really think about other people's relationships that much.

[Kiyama]

I don't really get jealous at all. I'm happy for my friends who are in happy relationships and I feel sorry for those who have struggled and been stuck in their miserable ones for months.
Of course we all get that longing to be with our partners, having a romantic dinner or whatever on a Saturday night but I never get jealous of others. I only get jealous sometimes when my SO has a night out its friends or a work party. I'm jealous of the people who get to spend time with him instead of me. Twisted world

[Moon]

I don't get jealous of them, why should I? I chose to be in my LDR. Even though it sometimes brings a pang of sadness, I'm happy for anyone who gets to be together, it's nice.