How long until you close the distance?

[Jazi]

my SO and I are not really bothered by the whole living together/not living together for very long before marriage thing.. although we definitely wouldn't want to get married and then have to be LD after that.

We are closing the distance with a Prospective Marriage Visa, meaning we have to get married in Australia (the country we are closing the distance in) within 9 months of it being granted, so we will be living together for a little while, maybe a few months if we are lucky, before we get married. Although if his visa comes through late we may only get a few weeks together before the wedding. As long as he is here for our wedding date and we will officially have closed the distance then that's all good with me.

[MattDavies86]

Around 1 year and 8 months we will get married and she will move here , by that time she would have been here with my for a years time already (in 2 6 month stints) so we will know what it's like living together, it's just making it permanent, married, she can get a job, ease my burden and go from there

[SeeRat]

Eh, there's no such thing as so-called normal, just what works for you and your partner!

I can relate with this. What works for us is tht we ll b closing the distance after marriage and before that there is no slightest chance that we would b able to spend even 2 or 3 days together. Thats how it is for us when he ll visit me he ll b staying in a hotel and we be together for some hours in day time returning back home at evening. So the case would b different from almost all the people here

[Ahava]

Dunno....years and years and years? So I guess just living for the moment should work for me/us

[Malaga]

I don't think we'll be ready yet this year, but 2014 looks pretty certain. We will have been together for 3-4 years by then.

I would prefer us to live together (for a limited time) before getting married, but I'm not sure it will be possible because of visa requirements. I think if we go for the fiance visa we get 6 months from approval until the wedding which at this point looks like the only realistic option.

[snow]

The plan so far is to live together for a couple months to see how it works throughout this year and then if I don't get the work visa we are trying for we'll get married and I'll move to america as soon as possible.

[Ahava]

Oh yeah, I forgot to answer the question about marriage...we both have been married once before and divorced (for me that was never supposed to happen, but religion made it even harder to a) separate and b) accept, coz I was living in a box that says "you are not allowed to divorce". If it wasn't for that I probably would have got out sooner.) But having children and already been married once...I don't know if I'll marry again. (Kind of liking and daydreaming about thought, but if so I would want to run of with my man somewhere abroad and do it on a beach or something )

[charly]

I do want to get married, maybe when I'm 30? Marriage doesn't have any more meaning for me than a fancy dress, nice ring and an unforgettable day. Guess that's what you get with divorced parents :P absolutely not going to wait that long to move though. If everything keeps going the way it goes (I stay very realistic, we are both in our early 20's, anything could happen), we will probably close distance in about 3 or 4 years when I can start my masters. We will have some time between that though that he will be able to stay for a couple of months, since he takes a gap year next year.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

We closed the distance last March and we thought it was going to be permanent, but after 6 months, he had to go back to Rochester. So, right now we're looking at about 2 more years apart.

[Belle]

We're not even sure anymore. We actually had a little tiff over this a couple of months ago. We keep having to push the date back and its getting on my LAST NERVE that life just keeps getting in the way. Right now we are looking at summer 2014 or early 2015. Kind of have to just take things as they come. We will definitely be living together before we even think about marriage. I actually just really got into marriage as something I want to do, last year, so the idea is still maturing. For now we just want to be together and think about the rest later =).

[floridaellen]

We are closing the distance on May 4th, 2014 after I finally graduate from college! We are planning to get married a few weeks later - he has the ring so right now I'm just waiting for the proposal.

Originally we were not going to live together before we got married. But life had other plans. Due to my SO's bad home situation, my childhood room being destroyed by Hurricane Irene, and my parents happening to have an apartment available in their rental house, we moved in together in May 2012. We lived together for that summer. He now lives at the apartment (which we call "ours") and I stay with him when I go back to my hometown. I definitely think living together has strengthened our relationship - but that is just what has worked for us.

[Tooki]

I have a plan in the works to close the distance for around 6 months starting in July this year (although we would only live together for about 2 of those 6 months)

If my GF wants to, she might move to Australia in early 2014 for a year (and possibly more if she likes it here and doesn't want to go to university)

[dglynn77]

Closing the distance in July! (We'll be living about 40 min apart. Compared to China-Michigan, I consider the distance closed then lol)

[Dziubka]

We closed the distance permanently a week ago. After 3 years of being in a relationship. We were close distance for 2,5 months in the beginning and lived together for 7 months last year.
No engagement yet, but we're planning to get married in Jan 2015 hopefully. So that would be after about 2,5 years of living together.

[XxFranticLovexX]

Closing the distance whenever the opportunity arises. I want to be there and he wants me there so we're working on it now. As far as living together, we will be living together before getting married. I lived with my ex and we never married and I really see no rush to add any more stress to my current relationship when we can just take things day at a time and see how it goes. We'll get there eventually.