Ok, so after 4 years of trying his best to get my attentions and me always knocking him back because i thought the 4,400+ miles between us would be hard. I finally gave in and gave him all my attention and ive totally fallen for him. We made it Facebook Official last night. 3 of my very close girls are so amazingly happy for me and they think its totally adorable how we met, they have also met him on skpye and think his lovely. It''s not even been 24 hours but i know sooner or later the questions will start flooding in from not so close as friends. I know they will realize his an American and there's little old me a British girl! I wouldn't say im worried because 90% of me wont care what they think .. But i don't know. Any advice?
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first:
congrats!
second:
what kind of help are you asking for?
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Haha thank you
I'm sorry if i didn't make it clear, Just how you guys coped or said and how you felt when you had to start explaining to people your in a LDR and you have never met the person face to face..Originally posted by Carenza LaRue View Postfirst:
congrats!
second:
what kind of help are you asking for?
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easy..
we became a couple.... made if official on FB....... and we never met before. only after a year we met.....
lots of people were asking me what I would do if in real life he wouldn't be 'it' ..... I answered them that I really never knew my ex as well, even when he was once sitting beside me on the sofa, so to speak.
I told them my SO gave me a good feeling about myself.... and that was it basically. I stopped explaining because you know, people will always have to say something about it... good or bad.
I learned I don't have to explain my relationship to anybody, cause people with relationships 'close distance', won't tell you about the ups and downs of theirs either.
AAAAANNNDDD...... I also learned that sometimes peeps can be an itsy bitsy jealous as well...... cause your SO probably will give you the attention on FB that they are seeking for themselves.... but that's a personal experience.....
for now...... enjoy your new status.....
but keep important things to yourself and your SO....
'walls' have ears and eyes....
oooo and sorry if my English isn't that great..... I am sort of tired.... hahahaThe meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
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That is very true, I was so nervous to tell my best friend last night but once we both had a 3 hours skype date with him she was like ' this is adorable his so good for you' and it boosted my confidence about the whole situation so much more! English people can be very judgemental with internet dating and all this shananigans! but for me i have a connection and i can not wait to see him for the first time in August!Comment
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It's nothing to be ashamed of, embarrassed by, or to feel awkward about. Own your relationship. Tell them the truth straight up and don't worry about their opinions, because they have absolutely no bearing on your relationship. Ask them to respect your decisions and remind them if they have a problem with it that it's really none of their business.
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Meeting online is no longer taboo. Don't worry about what others think of you and your relationship.Comment
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I understand why you feel nervous as I was exactly the same way, I didnt tell people that we hadn't met in person until after he had met face to face because I know I would have gotten the whole "but what if it's different in person" thing. Looking back though I realise that I shouldn't worry what other people thingk as at the end of the day as long as the two people in the relationship are happy, that is all that should count~Shaunna~
*Distance isn't an obstacle when it comes to love, but rather a great reminder on just how strong true love can be*
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well ive been honest with the closest people to me so far, Im back to work on tuesday and i know i will have the whole. how did you meet .. bla bla bla .. but i guess like you said it shouldnt matter. after all most of the waiting is up we only have 5 months leftOriginally posted by .:*Shaunna*:. View PostComment
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For me its flipped, im the american girl and he's my British boy. There are always going to be some who don't understand and are sceptical. But my best advice is ignore the negativity, listen to the advice, and give it time. After time if the relationship is real, others will see, or if not they will soon keep there comments to themselves. I got a lot of negativity in the beginning, the whole meeting online freaks people out. But 4 years later happily engaged So stay strong, if he's who you want, follow your heart, head, and gut. Best of luck!
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1, Congrats!!
2, When i went through this a few years back, i was just honest with anyone who asked. People who have never been in this situation can find it hard to understand but with time they will come to see your not a nutcase for doing it. Just be honest with them and enjoy your relationship.
I'm marrying my Canadian in may after a long online romance and everybody is happy for me... when a few were skepital.
Dont let others opinions faze you and enjoy the ride!As long as there is air in my lungs... there is a chance
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Hey, I too am an English girl with an American boy who I haven't met yet (5 weeks until we finally do!!). It was a bit strange explaining it to friends at first now they just take the mickey in a good way
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When I was in the last year of secondary school people found out that I was in an LDR with a guy from Holland. They were quite sceptical as well, and there were comments like "what if he's a 40 year old paedo living in his mum's basement?" haha, people thought I was weird but I didn't care. I just explained to those that wanted to listen that we talked every day on MSN and we had webcam chats so I knew he was real and we'd known each other for a long time before we met. Our relationship ended two years ago but recently I got into a new one. He doesn't want to make it official till we meet in June, but all my close friends and family know, and as my mum also met her fiance online and now lives with him in Holland it's quite a normal thing for my family and no one bats an eye lid
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