Is he trying to put distance between us?
Warning this is kinda long! 
So my bf and I have been together for 13 months. But for the last 3 months, he's been acting a little different. Before he would IM me all day at work and even call when he said he probably won't be able too. (He been out of work since graduating from grad school) And he got a temp job which i understood his contacts to my slowing down. But it started to get worse and worse. I confronted him about 2 months, because I just had not clue what was going on and felt like he didn't care. There he told me that he cared, he wanted me and that he don't know what he would do without me esp. in the past year. So i understood and thought to let him off the hook.
Recently, it has gotten really bad. So on that one confrontation we both agreed to try to meet up with each other at least once a month. So we set the date and i just wanted to know when would be the best times for me to get there. He said he was going to figure things out cause now there was some complications. And would call me back the next day. He didn't call, I was kinda getting upset cause this was something we set up and felt like he didn't want to see me. So i confront him again and he tells me that he doesn't know where i can stay and he doesn't want me to be paying for a hotel because that wouldn't be fair for me. (He's been living at home and his bro is about to move in because he doesn't have a job either). He said if i do come and I have to pay for the hotel he will feel bad. So i said "ok, so lets not meet up this month." And he hesitated and said we should just take it one day at a time so he could figure out somethings. He also mentioned that there are things he would like to get me but he feels bad cause either doesn't have the time to get it for me or just don't have the money....(He's the Provider).
Sigh...but even with all the conversations. He still feels a bit distant. I think he's under stress. But I dunno what I can do now??
So my bf and I have been together for 13 months. But for the last 3 months, he's been acting a little different. Before he would IM me all day at work and even call when he said he probably won't be able too. (He been out of work since graduating from grad school) And he got a temp job which i understood his contacts to my slowing down. But it started to get worse and worse. I confronted him about 2 months, because I just had not clue what was going on and felt like he didn't care. There he told me that he cared, he wanted me and that he don't know what he would do without me esp. in the past year. So i understood and thought to let him off the hook.
Recently, it has gotten really bad. So on that one confrontation we both agreed to try to meet up with each other at least once a month. So we set the date and i just wanted to know when would be the best times for me to get there. He said he was going to figure things out cause now there was some complications. And would call me back the next day. He didn't call, I was kinda getting upset cause this was something we set up and felt like he didn't want to see me. So i confront him again and he tells me that he doesn't know where i can stay and he doesn't want me to be paying for a hotel because that wouldn't be fair for me. (He's been living at home and his bro is about to move in because he doesn't have a job either). He said if i do come and I have to pay for the hotel he will feel bad. So i said "ok, so lets not meet up this month." And he hesitated and said we should just take it one day at a time so he could figure out somethings. He also mentioned that there are things he would like to get me but he feels bad cause either doesn't have the time to get it for me or just don't have the money....(He's the Provider).
Sigh...but even with all the conversations. He still feels a bit distant. I think he's under stress. But I dunno what I can do now??
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