so attached with him..break from skype.is it good idea?

[jhoy0320]

i guys,just needed a friendly advice here..i was a bit unsure what to do..well my fiance been acting weird lately i always try to understand him..but sometimes im having hard time dealing with what his moods..weve been communicating on skype most of the days but whenever he is stressing about something even little things he was getting out of the mood talking to me on skype when he rather not to talk to me instead well i was ok with it at first even though for me it works the opposite way were im dealing with my problems the only thing that could make me feel beter is when i get to talk to him and he is there to listen..its seems like to me whenever he is stress he rather avoid talking to me on skype whenever he does that it making me feel that im helpless or it made me feel i cant even comfort him and let him know im always here whenever he has a problem...should i just be patient and understanding with him??its hurts me and make me sad a lot whenever he does that..i dont know how to deal with it..im being so attached to him when i cant even let the day not talking to him. but i dont wanna be clingy to him cause i may end up pushing him away,..how do you deal with being so attached with your bf?do you think having a break from skype would be good idea me so i would learned to get trhough being so attached to him?i was just thinking maybe in that way like having a break from skype sometime would make me less attached to him??

i would appreciate whatever advice you could share.thanks.

[Black_Halloween]

Just be patient, people handle stress in different ways. Maybe he's avoiding you because he doesn't wanna take it out on you.

[Moon]

One thing you should understand about men is that they tend to handle stress and problems much differently from women, often they don't want to talk about it, especially not right away, so if you're hounding him with "what's wrong"s, you're going to push him away. Simply, don't try making him talk about shit when he doesn't want to After he's had some time, he'll probably tell you about it, but until then, stop trying to comfort him, cause it's doing the opposite. Just keep the conversation light and happy, don't push it. Men and women usually process things differently, and just because you want to talk everything out, doesn't mean he does.

And, trust me, it's not like you'll die if you don't talk to him everyday. Missing a day here and there can actually be a good thing, it'll give you new things to talk about.

[jhoy0320]

thanks..yeah maybe i just really have to be patient..

[jhoy0320]

yeah thats true..maybe il just give him time and i know if he is ready he will come to me and talk it out,,maybe as well having a break from skype might give him time to miss me..lol..
thanks a lot for the advice i really appreciate it..keep them coming..

[Brieasaurus]

Whenever I'm stressed it makes me more stressed to have my SO hovering around on cam. Just because he needs some space doesn't mean it's a bad thing, he just needs room to breathe without being asked what's wrong every minute. Same goes to you even though you feel fine being on skype all the time. Everyone needs alone time. I always end up being so productive whenever my SO and I do our separate things, I'm sure you can find things that need to be done too!

[jhoy0320]

Thanks for the nice advice.appreciated.