Confused

[LadyMarchHare]

He had been talkin to her but they hadn't been dating....he was pushin me away so that he could begin dating her. I confronted him about it and he was honest about it. He wasn't planning on telling me anything though I had to wrestle it out of him....he was just stringing me along. but you're right at least now I know what he was really like and I don't have to deal with someone who doesn't care for me at all.

I pity the girl then. And that's the dumbest logic I've heard when it comes to going from one person to another. Exactly what does anyone gain by you not explicitly saying "I don't want to be with you, I want to be with x" and leaving? By stringing the person along you're creating a lot more crap than you need to for everyone. Again I'm sorry you had to deal with a twerp like him and at least it was now instead of when you two finally settled down with each other in one place.

[eltellez07]

I pity the girl then. And that's the dumbest logic I've heard when it comes to going from one person to another. Exactly what does anyone gain by you not explicitly saying "I don't want to be with you, I want to be with x" and leaving? By stringing the person along you're creating a lot more crap than you need to for everyone. Again I'm sorry you had to deal with a twerp like him and at least it was now instead of when you two finally settled down with each other in one place.

I know but apparently it made a whole lot of sense...it's going to suck though I was so use to talkin to him on a daily basis... but I refuse to keep talkin to him even as friends. Doing that will only end up making me more heart broken. Funny you call him a twerp considering he's the older one in the relationship.I expected a bit more in the honesty department but I guess age isn't a factor for that...now for coping the next few days.

[LadyMarchHare]

He could be 55 and I'd call him a twerp because that behavior is childish and disrespectful towards you and this new girl. If she finds out about this she may question if he'll do it to her too if she doesn't meet whatever demands he supposedly has for the relationship. I assume the girl's where he lives and not LD. But yeah it's going to be tough trying to shake not only the routine you guys had, but thinking of him and so on. If you need people to talk to, we're all here and will gladly help and listen.

[eltellez07]

He could be 55 and I'd call him a twerp because that behavior is childish and disrespectful towards you and this new girl. If she finds out about this she may question if he'll do it to her too if she doesn't meet whatever demands he supposedly has for the relationship. I assume the girl's where he lives and not LD. But yeah it's going to be tough trying to shake not only the routine you guys had, but thinking of him and so on. If you need people to talk to, we're all here and will gladly help and listen.

He probably won't...the thing is that he's a highly affectionate person and the distance was gettin to him...we had a argument 2 weeks before about how he felt super loney and what not (He's also prone to being depressed) but it even so it just sounds selfish to me. Apparently I never needed affection either or didn't miss him...it was just him and his feelings. I parted ways with him...wished him the best of luck in the future (and I ment it too) and said good bye. I had told him before that if things didn't work out I wouldn't be the lingering girl who'd pester him. I leave my past in the past where it belongs, take what ever thing I learned, grow from it, and move on. but you're right I still think about him constantly every day and have the urge to text him I'm thankful though I have the friends I do they're been cheering me up and keepin me preoccupied. Thanks too for the kind words...its better for me to vent than keep it inside. I learned my lesson once about bottling my feelings and found that it was disasters to my state of mind.

[LadyMarchHare]

It sounds more like he needs someone to pat his head than anything. My SO has told me he's affectionate in person and often grumbles that he can't even hug me, but to leave someone because of circumstances neither of you can help? No, he doesn't need a relationship he just wants someone to physically make him feel better about himself.

If you know his number by heart I suggest finding some way to purge it so you can't text him even if you wanted to. But yes, it's a lot healthier to kick and scream and cry and use every 4-letter word in existence in his direction than to keep it in you. God knows I have that habit and I tend to snap at the worst of times. And I'm glad your friends are lending a hand to get you back on your feet and ease the stress.

[punkpain]

sorry he had to turn out to be a creep. it may not feel great right now but at least you know your better than that and that you deserve better than him.

[paulawriteslove]

I'm so sorry to hear that

[alise120]

I'm very sorry that it didn't work out but you deserve better. Keep ya head up and stay strong.

[eltellez07]

It sounds more like he needs someone to pat his head than anything. My SO has told me he's affectionate in person and often grumbles that he can't even hug me, but to leave someone because of circumstances neither of you can help? No, he doesn't need a relationship he just wants someone to physically make him feel better about himself.

If you know his number by heart I suggest finding some way to purge it so you can't text him even if you wanted to. But yes, it's a lot healthier to kick and scream and cry and use every 4-letter word in existence in his direction than to keep it in you. God knows I have that habit and I tend to snap at the worst of times. And I'm glad your friends are lending a hand to get you back on your feet and ease the stress.

Yeah I think that's what it is he needed someone to be physically there if not he didn't feel secure about himself :shrugs: I can't change his state of mind. I should have figured it wouldn't.....after all he did the same thing with his ex but i didn't want his past history to influnece my decision to see him. Everyone deserves one chance and I gave that to him but it didn't work out. I actually never learned his number lol I just saved it and texted him (plus I'm horrible with numbers) but since our text history is so long deleting it will take hours...not in the mood for that. I've actually been dealin with it pretty well....I still think about him but I'm just making peace with it. There are some things I loved about our relationship that I hope thatI can find in someone else...maybe even better! lol but that'll be in the future...far future. I'm just going to focus on school and enjoy my life at this point. It was a nice experience though ^_^ just wished it would have lasted....

[eltellez07]

Thanks everyone for the well wishes.....:hugs:

[alise120]

Your welcome!

You need all the support you can get.