Happy, but sort of blah?

[sagittariusgirl89]

Ok, so my BF is going to go to work tomorrow from 5PM-10PM, and he is supposed to come straight to my place after work, so he will be here around 1AM, and he is going home Monday morning. I'm happy and all because I can see him tomorrow and not have to wait any longer. But, it sucks, because he will be here so late and he is going home so early on Monday. I have to go through all day tomorrow until he gets off work at 10pm.

So, has anyone been in the same situation as me? Only being with your SO for a day, and then they go home and you won't see them for awhile?

If so, how do you handle it?


Danielle

[fcbella]

I had something similar, but not as short as 24hrs (since I have to fly to the US to see Steve). The shortest visit I had was technically 5 days, but with travelling it shrunk to 4.. and for 3 of those days he was working 8hrs/day. Strangely enough, I actually found it a bit easier leaving than on my longer visits. We had a fantastic time together, no talk of "aww, I leave in 3 days" kinda thing... and when I had to leave I was already in the travel mood.

Looking back though.. ya, it sucked. I had very minimal time with my baby!!! But... I wouldn't have traded it for the world. I would take 2hrs with my man, over months apart if I had to... and I think this is just the way you have to look at it.

Let us know how those precious 24hrs go

[Andy]

The only thing I can really compare it to is the first time I met Tanja which was just a weekend together in Helsinki. I don't think that's a very good comparison though as it was our first meeting. Leaving her behind just split my heart in 2. It totally crippled me and I cried for the whole 3 hours on the flight home. Since then though the shortest amount of time we've had together has been a week, and tha was almost a year ago (time flies!), we've had a month, then 2 months, and the best part of a month again since then although Easyjet are starting flights to/from Manchester and Helsinki in a couple of weeks. As I'm tied down to Uni at the minute, we have talked about the possibility of a weekend together again.

Even though we usually get to spend decent periods of time with one another, we usually have to wait 2-4 months of being apart in the meantime, and if we were able to break that up with a weekend it would be so great

I don't think the goodbye would be quite so heartbreaking either (don't hold me to that though! ), because I'd definitely look at it as an unexpected day or 2 together in the middle of a period of time where we were supposed to be apart.

I always try to be positive and concentrate on the good things in life, even though it can be tricky sometimes (especially in an LDR!), but at least you're getting time together, concentrate on that, make the most of it. I'm sure there's lots of other couples here who would love for that sort of oppurtunity to arise in their relationships. So just take it for what it is, some quality time with your sweetheart, and enjoy it!

[sagittariusgirl89]

Yeah you guys are right, I shouldn't concentrate on number of days together. I mean, he did give me the option of him coming on Monday night and staying until thursday morning, but he said if he did that then he couldn't make money on tuesday and wednesday because he'd be here. So, in the long run its better for him financially. Haha, I just don't know what we can do tomorrow night when he gets here at 1AM. There is NO WAY I'm going to bed as soon as he gets here, I missed him sooooo much.

Any ideas guys?

[fcbella]

haha... I know what I'd be doin....

[Andy]

Hehe, liking that answer

[sagittariusgirl89]

@fcbella....yeah me too! Any other ideas?

I'm thinking watching a movie..,

OH! and I know this is so stupid to ask but....

since he will be here real late, should i wear clothes? or PJ's? Make-up? No Make-up?

[fcbella]

If it was me, I'd still get a lil fancy. Some make up.. but don't over due it. I think he's going to be so excited to see you, it won't matter what you are wearing! Don't over think it... just put on what's comfortable for 1am. Personally, i'd be in sweats. lol

[Andy]

I promise you, that whatever you're wearing, make-up or no make-up, if you smile when he sees you at 1am, he'll only care about one thing, that he's right there with you

[Andy]

I think me and you think the same way, Bella

[sagittariusgirl89]

Yeah. I'm thinking light make up and sleep shorts and a tank top...idk. But, I'm starting to get excited!!!!!

[Andy]

Haha, we can tell!

I hope you have a great time together

[sagittariusgirl89]

Thanks, sort of not sure what I will do all day until 1AM >.<

[Bluestars]

If it was me, I would be in my PJ's since I would be dead tired! My boyfriend would get to the house and we would go to sleep! But I guess it depends on how late your boyfriend usually stays up. My guess is that your boyfriend will be tired after working five hours and driving two, so I do not think you need to over do it. Just dress comfortably because your boyfriend will be happy to see you and not care what you are wearing!

My boyfriend and I are only an hour away now, so sometimes we will meet up just for dinner, which will only be for around two hours, but we usually see each other two times a week now, so that is not a big deal. However, when we were 700 miles apart, we only got to see one another once a month, and many of our visits were only for two whole days each, not including the entire day it took to get there and the day it took to get back. However, I have very fond memories of those visits! I would always plan ahead so that we would have something exciting to do. For example, one day we would sleep in late and cuddle, and then later we would drive to a larger city and go to a park there and a play. Then, the next day we would get up early and go to a water park or go hiking. We would also take tons of pictures. A couple of times, however, I had to work while he visited, so that was basically like having a day and a half together.

In situations like that, you just have to appreciate the time together. Look at it this way, at least you will have one day entirely to yourselves without having to worry about work. Just make the best of your time. Since your boyfriend will most likely be exhausted, make sure that you do not try doing too much. I would maybe spend half of the day relaxing and doing whatever (wink wink) and then maybe in the evening you could go do something special, whether it be going out to eat at a nice restaurant or taking him to your favorite spot in town Hope you two have a wonderful time together!

[Tanja]

I wouldn't wear anything, with such a little time at hand I'd make the most of it and that definitely wouldn't involve any sleeping even though we'd be in bed until the morning :P