Time when you need them most?

[Desya]

We're only 11 days off and then my SO will be back, but we just found out that my grandma died suddenly yesterday and I really need her now more than ever. My grandma was 86 and had had some health problems in the last year, but we were completely surprised. My mom went over to her house see her and left me at home and I got the most distressing call... She was already dead when my mom found her...

This March, when my grandpa died (on my dads side), I had Amy me. We were still in school and she was such a big help. But now with this I feel like I'm dealing with it and my mom (she was her mother) by myself. Even though we have family, my mom and I live together and I'm the one that she has to support her when I feel like I need support too.


So, I was wondering if anyone else has had one of those times we're you really just need to see your SO for support and comfort? And how did you deal with it?

[LadyMarchHare]

I'm sorry about your grandmother. It's devastating to lose someone so dear to you, especially a relative.

I suffer from manic depression which is like depression on steroids that can come at any time and be provoked by anything even though I'm on medication for it. Sometimes something will upset me such as a time when I went into a cafe and a group of girls loudly made fun of my weight and my hair, calling me 'dyke' and so on. It hurt my feelings and when I went home no one was around so it kinda stewed in me until I was crying. Other times I'll get bad medical news either physically or about my mental health and I get scared for my future and need someone to tell me it's alright and understand, especially with the mental health stuff. My mom's never been able to understand that I can't help being ill and so more diagnosis', pill changes, threats of being admitted are more annoying to her than anything.

Plus, and I think everyone gets this, there are just some times you need to hold/be held by someone and just lay there like that. It's not really the same with a relative or friend.

[Caitlin2009]

anytime im having a rough day i always wish she was here with me so i can hold her, its not easy but think of it this way when your finally together under on roof you'll be able to go to her in the next room whenever either of you are having a bad day. thats what i always look forward to

[paulawriteslove]

Last year my great uncle passed away and my SO was so busy. So I was alone with my feelings. I wrote down how I felt and my friends were there for support. I needed to talk to my SO but the thought of talking to him helped me get through my pain. I realize now that I needed that time alone to gather how I felt and my feelings. And once I was able to talk to my SO he helped a lot. Hope this helps!

[Bluestars]

My grandfather unexpectedly passed away yesterday, and all of yesterday I wished that he was here to comfort me and just hold me in his arms. As a substitute, I tried cuddling the cat, but he didn't like that and he just ran away. We talked on the phone and he really made me feel better by just listening to me, but it would be nice if he could be here to spend time with the family and whatnot.

Sorry about you grandmother! It will get better!

[Casper]

After a really stressful day at work, or just a stressful day period, I always feel better after talking to my better half. She can always calm me down and help me relax.

[Desya]

Thanks a lot everyone! I'll take what each of you said into consideration.

Update: Well, today on the way home from fixing things up at her house we got hit by a car. Now we have no transport and no money and probably messed up necks. I cant even call my SO cause she's on a plane from disney. I just want this week to be over and done.