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    The trip home...

    I am very lucky that even though we live so far apart I have been able to fly to see him every couple of months. So since our relationship started in Aug. 2012. I have been there 4 times.

    The problem I have is the sadness on the trip home and the weeks after. I guess there is such a high and excitement leading up to the weeks flying there that the low after is just so hard for me. After a couple of weeks, it does get better but now I am looking at tickets to go back and see him in a couple of months and I am very excited about that but I also can't stop thinking about how hard that return trip is and it makes me so anxious.

    I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and the time we spend together really is wonderful so I will be going back but does anyone have any advice on dealing with this? Or is it the same way for everyone? He is sad when I leave too and tells me he misses me but it doesn't seem as hard for him as it is me but he is much more laid back than I am.

    Thanks!!
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    #2
    I haven't experienced this feeling yet but I'm sure he's trying to be strong for you and feels the same way. You're very blessed to be able to afford visits that often. Just keep thinking that you'll get to see him again soon and it'll make you feel better. Being far away from our SO is hard believe me, I'm anticipating finally meeting mine in person and its driving me crazy!



    Originally posted by srtd35 View Post
    I am very lucky that even though we live so far apart I have been able to fly to see him every couple of months. So since our relationship started in Aug. 2012. I have been there 4 times.

    The problem I have is the sadness on the trip home and the weeks after. I guess there is such a high and excitement leading up to the weeks flying there that the low after is just so hard for me. After a couple of weeks, it does get better but now I am looking at tickets to go back and see him in a couple of months and I am very excited about that but I also can't stop thinking about how hard that return trip is and it makes me so anxious.

    I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and the time we spend together really is wonderful so I will be going back but does anyone have any advice on dealing with this? Or is it the same way for everyone? He is sad when I leave too and tells me he misses me but it doesn't seem as hard for him as it is me but he is much more laid back than I am.

    Thanks!!

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      #3
      The post-visit blues happens to all of us, it's totally normal. With time, you do learn to manage it, but it doesn't ever really go away, all you can do is keep busy and wait for it to pass, just remember that it will and everything will soon return to normal. Good luck.
      Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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        #4
        I have the same issue with sadness when he leaves after a visit/I go back home.
        I guess it's normal after all that excitement building up that when it's all over you get an anticlimax.
        I had been focusing so much on my last visit that I couldn't see beyond it and it was a shock when it was over.
        Luckily summer is on it's way (even though it's hard to believe when you look out of the window!) and just keeping one's self busy etc helps.

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          #5
          Hi and welcome, first of all.

          Yes, I have had what you're experiencing. He's usually the one to come here and so I count down the days, pick him up from the airport (or he gets the train and surprises me!) and then I have to take him back to the airport and it suddenly hits me how the visit has ended. It does get easier with time, but I don't think it will ever be easy to drop off the person you love for them to leave for an indefinite period of time. We usually don't have another date planned and that makes it hard because we don't have the date to countdown to and look forward to.

          As others have said, you get more able to deal with it after a while, so focus on the fact that you're booking your next trip and look forward to that. Good Luck and remember that you are among friends here!
          Joey & Scott
          Met: April 2002
          Lost Contact: August 2002
          Reconnected: April 2010
          Together: May 20th 2010





          [COLOR="#800080"]"Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight." Benjamin Franklin

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            #6
            Its normal sweetie dont worry! I cried for 5 days straight after our first visit. Hang in there
            Made it official: 12-01-10
            First visit: 3-29-13/4-09-13
            Closed the distance: 07-31-13

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              #7
              Thanks everyone. It is so hard when no one understands b/c unless you have been there I think it is hard to truly get it.

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                #8
                I am more like your SO, I don't have a real hard time with the leaving, yeah its hard but the only time I have cried after visiting is the time when I didn't know when I would see him again, and our visit got cut short by a phone call from his sick kid. What helps me is having a plan in place before I leave, to know when we will be together again. He has a harder time with my leaving, and gets emotional. I will be just a few minutes away and hes already telling me how much he misses me and wishes I would come back.

                So, try to make a plan for the next visit before parting ways, so you have something to look forward to as you go!

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