Would you stay?

[Jmoc1024]

I would stay...I would most definitely stay. I couldn't just walk away from someone I am in love with no matter what the physical condition is. And besides we have heard that miracles happen and who is to say that he or she won't get that miracle. I would stay, fight through it, keep hope alive and find some place for support for the emotional train wreck that I will be going through because it won't be easy and having a support system will help both of us.

[rawrimolivia]

Of course I would stay! If this is the person that I truly love, why would I abandon them when they need me the most?

I agree completely.

[mllebamako]

Any reason 4 is tops?

In Islam, that's the limit. No idea why. I think something about not being able to treat more than 4 fairly?

[Sora1101]

If he was fully paralyzed from like the neck down I don't think I could stay, I honestly can't handle wiping butts and cleaning up messes like that for the rest of my life. If he couldn't walk, I stay of course. Now the brain damage thing, if they were in a coma I would stay, I don't need to have sex or anything like that, I just don't have a high drive for it. And I could still read to him and be with him knowing someday he might wake up. If he was fully mentally handicapped I think I would leave, not to sound harsh or anything but I just have a hard time dealing with mental disabilities like that and he wouldn't be my SO anymore, not really.

[kteire]

For some reason I didn't think about the brain damage part of things when I posted - but that does change how I'd act. If he were in a vegetative state with no hope of recovery, I would stay only so long as to be sure that he is taken off of life support (which is what he'd want, we discussed this over dinner last night haha). If he had a severe brain injury, it would depend on what parts of his brain are damaged and how it would affect his personality. I grew up with a parent who had parts of the occipital and temporal lobes removed, and also had a frontal lobe brain injury. I could handle certain aspects of the change, but anything that would make my SO a different person or anything like my dad? No, I'd have to leave.

[digitalfever]

I think at this point in my life (23 and just graduating University) I would make the hard decision to leave him. While love is an amazing thing and I wouldn’t exit him out of my life entirely; I think keeping him in my life as my boyfriend would hinder my growth as an individual. I think at this point in my life (23 and just graduating University) I would make the hard decision to leave him. While love is an amazing thing and I wouldn't exit him out of my life entirely; I think keeping him in my life as my boyfriend would hinder my growth as an individual.

I think loving someone and caring for them is different than being their care giver and while in old age we may be required to become more of a carer towards our spouse I don't think that I could do it at 23.

[TwoThree]

Any reason 4 is tops?

As Mlle said, it's what religion dictates. Prophet married up to 9 women at the same time and when people complained about their limitation he said "none of that shit, bro. I can do that because I'm super speshul and you're not", or something to that effect. I'm thinking he came up with that verse because he didn't want to run out of women to marry in his tribe, in case he grew tired of the ones he already had.

[Zephii]

Let me set up the scenario:

You and your S/O have been in a tragic car accident. You were together at the time of the accident and it’s neither one of your fault. You’re not engaged, you haven’t started to build a life together but you're committed to the relationship and you love them. However, Your SO is seriously injured and you are now their soul caregiver for the foreseeable future (with a high chance of this being forever.) They are unable to function without someone being there 24/7 to help them and doctors have told you that the likelihood of this changing is slim. For names sake, let's say they are paralysed and could have serious brain damage.

Would this change the way you view your relationship? Would you leave? Which factors would influence your decision?

No. Under those circumstances I would not stay.

If there was no brain damage, I might, but in the case of brain damage and being at the dating stage? No. It'd be sad, but no. Especially not considering the whole LDR thing. Not worth it. I've learnt from watching others it's never a good idea to live your life for someone else.

Now that we're married? Yes. I take my vow seriously. When I agreed to marry him I knew I was giving up the freedom to walk away and that's cool.