Needing some advice

[KnightoftheAesir]

So I'm in college and the college put me in these apartments. I asked my first roommate to not smoke weed as he's a smoker and I'm very very allergic to the stuff. As in I get very sick and have horrible migraines when around the stuff. Well I went away for a weekend to come back to my apartment smelling like weed (strong enough you could smell it in the hallway of the apartment complex). So I notified both the college and the management of our apartments, as both have a "zero tolerance" policy for drug use. Then had him removed from the apartment as it's against the lease and could get us both evicted. However two weeks after, he showed up and still had a key. Claiming he forgot something, so I let him in, following him around and saw him out. Then went down to management and notified them he still had a key to my apartment. They said they would retrieve the key and told my grandmother I'd never see him again.

Well here we are almost a month later and he shows up again. Saying they told him to come back here until the next day when they move him into another apartment. So I let him in, and gathered anything worth any value belonging to me from outside my room. Then barricaded myself into my room, because I distrust him. However the reason I'm making this post is because he's smoking his weed in my apartment again and I can't leave my own bedroom in my apartment without becoming overwhelmingly sick at my stomach. I'm just needing some advice on what to say to the office when I go in to complain about their lack of judgement and incompetence on their no drugs policy. As far as I know, weed is still a crime here in this state punishable by up to 1 year in jail and a $1000 fine. I almost forgot to mention that I called the cops about his pot use and they just beat around the bush like it was no big deal. Which my grandmother expected they would do.

[Black_Halloween]

Seriously guys, we need help. We've tried everything. He's literally fighting sleep and throwing up because of the smell...I wish I was there to make it all better :/

[JoeyBug]

I'm not sure how much help I can be, but I did wonder if maybe he had told you one thing and the office had said something different? Like when he said that he could crash there for one more night, are you sure they said he could? If they didn't, I'm worried that it would be a case of you letting him in and then maybe you being blamed for the smell of weed and getting thrown out. Not trying to scare you, just a thought. It might be an idea, if you can, to phone down to the office now and explain what's going on? Or is there anyone you can call to come and take you somewhere else for the night? Then again, that would mean leaving your stuff and you've already said you don't trust him...hmm...short of calling the police, my advice would be to try the office and see what they say..is there anyone around this late?

I'm sorry I'm not of much use to you...hope this helps a bit and I hope it gets sorted. I have lung issues so I get where you're coming from and it sucks that your room mate (ex) won't respect that. Have you tried asking him to smoke outside or leave? It might be worth a try, but you'd have to brave the smoke to do so.

Good Luck!

[mllebamako]

I feel like the only thing you can do is talk to the management and see why they let him back in and let him keep his key.

[Black_Halloween]

I'm not sure how much help I can be, but I did wonder if maybe he had told you one thing and the office had said something different? Like when he said that he could crash there for one more night, are you sure they said he could? If they didn't, I'm worried that it would be a case of you letting him in and then maybe you being blamed for the smell of weed and getting thrown out. Not trying to scare you, just a thought. It might be an idea, if you can, to phone down to the office now and explain what's going on? Or is there anyone you can call to come and take you somewhere else for the night? Then again, that would mean leaving your stuff and you've already said you don't trust him...hmm...short of calling the police, my advice would be to try the office and see what they say..is there anyone around this late?

I'm sorry I'm not of much use to you...hope this helps a bit and I hope it gets sorted. I have lung issues so I get where you're coming from and it sucks that your room mate (ex) won't respect that. Have you tried asking him to smoke outside or leave? It might be worth a try, but you'd have to brave the smoke to do so.

Good Luck!

Thank you for your nice reply <3 Thankfully he's trying to sleep....This all happened around 7-8pm his time so everybody had left for the day. Its 2am his time now and there is literally nobody he can call. No emergency numbers, nothing. He's 5 hours away from home and everybody that he knows is asleep/not answering their phones. He's getting up at the crack of dawn tomorrow when the office opens to call them.

As for asking this guy to not smoke in the apartment, he did the first time he was there and he still lit up. We actually found his facebook page one time and he hag BAGS of pot and stacks of money.

I wish I was there with him so bad... :/ hopefully this will all get straightened out tomorrow...

[JoeyBug]

Thank you for your nice reply <3 Thankfully he's trying to sleep....This all happened around 7-8pm his time so everybody had left for the day. Its 2am his time now and there is literally nobody he can call. No emergency numbers, nothing. He's 5 hours away from home and everybody that he knows is asleep/not answering their phones. He's getting up at the crack of dawn tomorrow when the office opens to call them.

As for asking this guy to not smoke in the apartment, he did the first time he was there and he still lit up. We actually found his facebook page one time and he hag BAGS of pot and stacks of money.

I wish I was there with him so bad... :/ hopefully this will all get straightened out tomorrow...

I hope it all gets sorted tomorrow, the whole thing sucks!

[dragonlady]

go to the office complain about it and demand a new lock and key! call the cops and direct them to the facebook page that he is dealing the stuff
feel for you that you have to go through this shit!

[ThePiedPiper]

I would assume he signed a lease or contract? I would go to the management and demand a new room/apartment. If he has a contract saying that there's a zero tolerance policy in place, then he should have a right to a room where there's zero tolerance. I would tell them that his old roommate still has the key and is causing him to get sick with migraines, nausea, etc. (and I hear him, I respond the same darn way) and that he will pursue it legally if his roommate is continued to be allowed to come in and smoke or if he is not assigned a new, smoke-free room. I would guess if it could be smelt in the hallway, then there would be other people who could attest to the fact that there was pot at some point in the complex, if not coming from his room. All I can say is if the cops won't do anything, I would personally threaten to take it higher up if nothing was done, because in the end, he's the one who has the contract and since he's becoming physically ill over it (another thing he could do is see a doctor or a campus doctor so he at least has a report on file), I would guess they would rather kick out the roommate than have him follow-up the fact that they're in violation of his contract in a small claims court.

[JoeyBug]

I would assume he signed a lease or contract? I would go to the management and demand a new room/apartment. If he has a contract saying that there's a zero tolerance policy in place, then he should have a right to a room where there's zero tolerance. I would tell them that his old roommate still has the key and is causing him to get sick with migraines, nausea, etc. (and I hear him, I respond the same darn way) and that he will pursue it legally if his roommate is continued to be allowed to come in and smoke or if he is not assigned a new, smoke-free room. I would guess if it could be smelt in the hallway, then there would be other people who could attest to the fact that there was pot at some point in the complex, if not coming from his room. All I can say is if the cops won't do anything, I would personally threaten to take it higher up if nothing was done, because in the end, he's the one who has the contract and since he's becoming physically ill over it (another thing he could do is see a doctor or a campus doctor so he at least has a report on file), I would guess they would rather kick out the roommate than have him follow-up the fact that they're in violation of his contract in a small claims court.

This is really good advice as well..

I just wanted to know if it got sorted in the end?

[Black_Halloween]

***UPDATE***

He was NOT allowed in the apartments and left before Dan got back with the manager. We think that the ex roommate is jumping form place to place and lied to Daniel about being allowed back. They changed all of Daniel's locks this morning. I'm glad its over..

[mllebamako]

***UPDATE***

He was NOT allowed in the apartments and left before Dan got back with the manager. We think that the ex roommate is jumping form place to place and lied to Daniel about being allowed back. They changed all of Daniel's locks this morning. I'm glad its over..

Great news! He can breathe freely again

[ThePiedPiper]

***UPDATE***

He was NOT allowed in the apartments and left before Dan got back with the manager. We think that the ex roommate is jumping form place to place and lied to Daniel about being allowed back. They changed all of Daniel's locks this morning. I'm glad its over..

Glad to hear this.

[Jazi]

***UPDATE***

He was NOT allowed in the apartments and left before Dan got back with the manager. We think that the ex roommate is jumping form place to place and lied to Daniel about being allowed back. They changed all of Daniel's locks this morning. I'm glad its over..

That's a huge relief! So glad they changed his locks straight away, I would have been worried about the creep coming back again..

I know I didn't initially post but that's only because I didn't have any advice Everyone had already said what I would have said.. but I have been following the thread hoping to hear everything turned out ok.